How do you be nice and a good witness if this lady at work keeps bossing me around (I think because I'm the youngest there) And running all over me. I have to stand up for myself or it will get worse!!! Where's the balance. I don't want to be mean. She know's that I'm a christian too.
2007-07-27 10:57:54 · 45 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Just try and think of how Christ would treat her.. I know it is hard but that is really the only thing you can do.. But you do not have to let her walk all over you..just prove to her that you do your job well.. be nice and eventually she will change.. I have been through this too...there is always someone at work who doesn't like you and who you aren't going to like.
2007-07-27 11:02:35 · answer #1 · answered by Nicole B 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Being a Christian doesn't mean that we let people walk all over us.
It is easy for all of us to give advice, because we don't have to live with the results. Any of the actions listed here may get you fired. So a part of the question is how bad do you need this job? If you are willing to find another job if needed, then I offer the following advice
I don't know the type of place where you are working. But it is illegal to create a "hostile" work environment. As has been stated, if you have a boss, tell the lady that you don't want to create trouble, but if this continues you will have to report her to the boss. Then do it. Keep a journal. You don't want to report her by saying she's mean. You want to tell the boss exactly what she is doing and how it is effecting your ability to work properly. Keep a journal so you can document what she does and how often.
When you respond to her, you can be firm without being mean. Saying something like "I find what you are saying offensive and that troubles me as you seem like a nice lady." I don't know - you need to use your own words. I'm just saying you don't have to be mean to tell her how you feel. And you don't have to take it just because you are a Christian.
Pastor John
2007-07-27 11:16:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a lesson from Christ, or was it somebody else who threw the money changers from the temple?
I was a Christian, even an ordained one before I converted to Atheism. I don't recall anything in the Bible that says you should allow yourself to be walked on. Even if you invoke the "Turn the other cheek" chorus, the Bible doesn't tell you what to do after both cheeks have been struck. Don't forget about being told to buy a sword. The Bible, the book you live your life by doesn't charge Christians with the obligation to be someones doormat...
I don't believe it anymore but I still remember what it says...
2007-07-27 11:09:16 · answer #3 · answered by gimpalomg 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Christians stand up for themselves. You can talk about the problem without being mean or rude. The only way to resolve it is to address the problem. Some people will keep pushing you around until you do hold your ground. You could say that you know what needs to be done, if you have any problems you would like to tap into her experience.
2007-07-27 11:09:53 · answer #4 · answered by the_wayward1 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This has nothing to do with being a witness or christian. Unless you just ask your self WWJD? Other wise you can just chill for a bit and gain her respect by working hard and maybe try a little humor to lighten up the mood between y'all. Try not to get flustered, show composure at all times and remain professional. She will calm down once she realizes that you are unflappable.
2007-07-27 11:09:45 · answer #5 · answered by mazeman25 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to set boundaries. Stand up for yourself firmly but never be disrespectful. Maybe she's intentionally pushing your buttons. If you can see any humor and get her to see it too, that may break the ice. It will at least relieve some stress.
Oh and make sure you do your job well so there is no need for her to "boss you around".
2007-07-27 11:04:33 · answer #6 · answered by Prof Fruitcake 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell the boss, or if she is the boss, then you should avoid complaining about a heavy workload. If you find the job is to much for you then you can just quit. New employees (If indeed you are new) tend to get a lot of bossing when they first get there because their trying to see if you can handle the work.
And also, what the heck this got to do with religion?
2007-07-27 11:02:20 · answer #7 · answered by Riley 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Does she has a reason or a right to boss you around? If not, you can be firm and nice at the same time. You don't want to be a doormat.
Hate to burst your bubble but Christians can be nasty at times. Good luck
2007-07-27 11:03:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have had people try this on me. When losers figure you won't fight back they attack you. For some reason losers like to make themselves feel good by attacking or hurting people that they think cannot hurt back.
Sometimes it is because of your religion. Sometimes it is because of your race, like when people ran through the streets of New York city lynching blacks.
You need to pray.
God knows exactly what to do to handle this. No one else. Some people can give you good advice, but, only God can give you the perfect way to deal with it.
You have my prayers too.
2007-07-27 11:08:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
The most beneficial thing for you to do is to just take her to the side and tell her that she is making you feel as if she is bossing you around. You need to just tell her that you want to do a good job and you want her to be pleased with what you do but you want her to appreciate your efforts and not be so bossy. Tell her that you are doing your best. And you want to be friends.
2007-07-27 11:04:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋