what does it mean when a gurl just wants to be friends?

Question

i went out with this girl on a blind date and i thought we had a great time. she was realy cute and seemed to be havin a blast. i just found out that she doesnt wanna date me, but she wants to be friends because she had a great time. other than looks, wat could be the reason for this?

Answer 1

you cannot i repeat cannot make a girl fall in love with you, you simply cannot change the way the girl feels about you. she just wants to be friends because she just doesn't feel the sparks. most girls do not judge guys on their looks alone. if you guys had a blast together, then the reason is not looks.

Answer 2

When you go on a date with someone that you just met, you are always taking a chance. Did the date go well or not? To you, it was okay - but to her, it might not mean that she is interested in more dates. And there is nothing wrong with that - and nothing wrong with you. She is just being honest. Being friends just means, she does not want to get serious with you. Don't read more into it than it is - she is being honest. Maybe she didn't tell you to your face, but she saved you from some embarrassment. There are other girls out there - check them out -

Answer 3

I'd say she probably really likes you as a person, and could quite possibly even have common interests, but if she didn't feel any sparks, there's not a whole lot you can do about that. So when she said she wants to be friends, she probably meant it. So just be her friend. You can never have too many of those.

Answer 4

If you want an attractive girl to feel more than friendship for you, having a good time with her is not enough. She has to be_sexually_ interested in you. If that doesn't happen naturally, you can make it happen if you want. There are many ways you can do that. The seduction community on the Internet can help you with that. Check this out:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Seduction_community

Google whatever names or concepts on that page, that you believe to be compatible with what kind of seducer you want to be. There are lots of different ways. Depending on your personality, some of these will suit you, some will not. Try many ways and you will find out which ones suit you.

I would suggest you start working on yourself, to get a better relationship with yourself, above all. The cause of one's dating problems is usually a lack of harmony within oneself. If you really become one with yourself, you will shine like very few men do, and women will not settle for "just being friends" with you, they will want more, because being one with oneself is automatically extremely attractive. Your life will become better in every way. This is a site I like:

http://www.ideagasms.net

If you feel that's not your style, you may try some of the other seduction techniques - like Mystery Method, Real Social Dynamics, David deAngelo's Cocky&Funny etc.

(I think all paths eventually lead to oneness, but you don't have to believe that.)

One indispensable thing is to honor your sexual desires as a man, and not to be ashamed of them. If you think you have to act as though you only want friendship, in order not to frighten the woman away, she will think of you as nothing but a friend. Furthermore, if she senses that you are interested in her, and that the reason why you try to hide your desire is that you fear rejection, she will choose men who have less fear of rejection than you. Fear is very, very unattractive.

If you hold back some of your sexual feelings out of fear, drop the fear. Or break through it. Don't let fear control you.

Think of that crucified Monthy Python Jesus parody: "You come from nothing. You go to nothing. What have you lost? Nothing!!"

Date loads of women, and don't attach so much meaning to any one of them. This way, you won't fear blowing any one particular opportunity. Humans are very similar, even women. Put yourself first. Be whole. And the women will come to you.

Answer 5

This happened to me once. I LOVED the date, and we had a really fun time...but there wasn't a romantic connection. He is still a friend of mine, and I actually meant I wanted to be his friend when I said it. There is nothing you can do if she doesn't want to date, but if you'd like to have her as a friend you should take her up on the offer. Who knows maybe as your friendship grows she'll end up realizing you two could actually become more.

Answer 6

Because she just wants to be friends, maybe she doesnt want a relationship right now. She may want to "go out" with other people. Dont take it personally just respect her decision and be friends with her! Nothing wrong with that right?

Answer 7

lots of reasons. besides looks, maybe personality or maybe she didn't like the date.

most girls say they just want to be friends when they didn't like the date and wouldn't want to go out with the guy, and they plan on never seeing them again. They just don't want to be rude.

then again, there are some girls who when they say "be friends", they mean "be friends".

And even though love may not have worked out with this girl, I'm sure there is somebody out there waiting to fall in love with you. =]

Answer 8

Maybe she just doesnt like your ways.. If she just wants to be friends then that means that she's not interested in you or has another guy in mind. Im sorry

Answer 9

It's a nice way of saying she doesn't want to date you, but she still wants to be friends with you, talk to you, hang out maybe but nothing more.

Answer 10

Maybe she didn't feel the "connection" of that when you like somebody. She doesn't have the feelings for you except for a friend. Maybe later on in life she will like you. You never know.