Do they? Do they think poorly about girls who make no effort to pay? I've always split the check or traded off paying (I pay for lunch, he pays for dinner, etc) but my boyfriend definitely pays the majority of what we do on trips, nights out, etc. He says he likes doing it, but do guys secretly think girls are taking advantage?
2007-07-27 10:34:34 · 18 answers · asked by Murrin 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No, or at least i don't ... it really pisses me off when a girl insists on paying
2007-07-27 10:38:07 · answer #1 · answered by Redswill 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'll try and break it down to you. The whole male/female money issue is totally based apon how much the man likes the woman. If a guy is enraptured he'll always pay and not get upset. If a guy isn't sure about a girl or they are on equal terms as far as the love/like thing goes, then he may be put off by a date who never pays for anything. Now there is a catch; All women can usually get to the 3rd date without the guy starting to wonder about the old "is she just out to spend my money" thing. There is also a catch to this catch. If the woman has slept with the man then the man is faaaaaar more likely to ask the woman to pay. That proviso overrides everything. That is unless he man happens to be whipped by the woman.
2007-07-27 10:43:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The truth is.....sometimes we do. The only women we think less of are those who don't even consider the question you asked. We do enjoy the feeling we get when we can take care of these things. If we had the money, we'd throw it around all day taking care of everything for you. But in a real world, most of us can't afford to do that. Then our egos are on the line for not measuring up to the women who believe that it is a man's duty to pay and entertain her. We aren't very smart. That woman isn't worth the price of a dinner, movie or electric bill to be near her. But women like you make us feel better about ourselves. The answer to your last question is that we KNOW you sometimes take advantage. We just think you're worth it. When we stop feeling that way.................we'll find another woman to take advantage of us. And you know who they are. They're all around you
2007-07-27 10:59:19 · answer #3 · answered by noshaymatall 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can only speak for my personal experience, but all the men I've dated have made it clear to me that *they* wanted to do the paying, unless I **specifically** asked to take one out (like for a birthday or something else special). And, to be honest, the men I've dated seemed to like it **better** when they did the paying....I really think it's part of the ego thing and a little bit of the leftover stuff from when men were the main protectors of society. Frankly, being the female chauvinist *I* am, I still like it that way.
2007-07-27 10:40:40 · answer #4 · answered by bitadkins 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At least your bf lets you pay! Mine doen't really let me pay, which I think is sweet. I think its a bit of give and take. Most guys I know have more old-fashioned values and think they should be the ones who pay.
Most of the guys I know (which are most of my close friends) say they enjoy paying for dates because they feel its the least they can do for their girls. I doubt that your bf resents paying for you. If he's like my friends, then he doesnt mind as long as he gets to spend some time with you.
2007-07-27 10:42:56 · answer #5 · answered by sweetjadedtears 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is any kind of man - he would not complain or think anything about it. The man is supposed to pay - if he is a gentleman - however, if you have been dating someone for a long period of time, then you can mix it up. Example - with me and mine - he might buy one time, I'll buy the next - it's all out money....it's how the two people want to work it out - and don't ask your friends opinions cause everybody has their own way of how to handle it.
2007-07-27 10:38:09 · answer #6 · answered by THE SINGER 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, it just kind of goes back to the idea of the male being the provider. I'm not saying that girls aren't able to make their own money and buy their own food.
I usually pay for my girlfriend when we go out. Sometimes she'll jump in and buy snacks for the movie or something. It's nothing I'm worried about. She continually shows me everyday how lucky I am to have her.
2007-07-27 10:40:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most men where raised better but they loose it as they get older. He should learn by now to pay for all meals and to be nice to you. Some men think more about money and worry about money and then the check will start to split.
2007-07-27 10:38:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make no mistake about it a man keeps a running ledger in his head. It doesn't matter if she pays or they go dutch or they trade off paying.
If it's not the money per se they're spending it is the time, gas or effort.
Example: "I went all the way there (it doesn't matter if it was two blocks) and she wouldn't __________ (fill in preferred sexual favour).
How could a woman believe that a creature who believes all women want is a man with money and says, "That ***** took me for all my money" or "She spends all my money" enjoys spending money on women?
DATING IS STUPID AND DANGEROUS
2007-07-27 10:49:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess some must, but I don't. I pay for my girlfriend every time. I force her to put her money away so i can pay. I have all this money n nothing to do with it, i want to spend it on her. I don't mind, I like doing it. But it's nice whn u knw the girl still has money with her, just in case.
2007-07-27 10:44:53 · answer #10 · answered by Chad J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey... stop questioning this.. you can treat sometime. just do not mess this thing up... guys have traditionally paid for dates. now most are getting comfortable letting the woman pay... and that is happening too often... and these guys are not spliting the tab. soooooooooo do not complain.. or ruin things when you find a guy that insists. enjoy... and take a turn once in a while. :)
2007-07-27 10:40:14 · answer #11 · answered by foosieboy1953 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋