Ok, so I've been going out with my boyfriend for almost 5 months (it'll be 5 months on August 3) and we were really close and stuff and lately he's been hanging out with his one friend thats a girl a lot and I didn't like her at all at first but then the three of us hung out a lot in a group and I was really attracted to her. I knew all along that she was a lesbian and I shouldn't worry about my BF and her and then the other day me and her were hanging out alone and she kissed me and I ended up cheating on my BF by doing a lot more then just kissing with her...it was my first time being physical with a girl and I didn't really enjoy it I was just curious. She said she'd never tell my BF because he would be hurt, what should I do? Did I really cheat? Should I tell him??
2007-07-27 10:28:08 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That's HOT cheating!
2007-07-27 10:34:06 · answer #1 · answered by Dingus M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK. Yes, you have cheated. It is your choice whether or not to tell him. I have cheated in the past: I got away without telling my bf, and everything was fine because didn't really like the bf at the time. But, with another bf, I cheated (only a kiss) and cared for him so much, I told him. It was awful, and we broke up.
It depends how selfish you want to be. If you care about him, I would be honest and tell him. As it was with a girl: I reckon he will be jealous but will get over it! Good luck xx
P.S I've now grown up, and would never cheat on the man I love: I was young, and foolish.
2007-07-27 17:36:16 · answer #2 · answered by Rebecca D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough one. But you know some things for sure (1) She cannot be trusted as his 'best friend', best friends don't mess around with their friend's girl like that...lesbian or straight... you cannot be trusted either (2) You must resolve whatever you and the girl had together. i.e. talk about it with her, decide not to fool around with her again, establish boundaries...obviously this guy is important to you both. (3) Do some self-introspection and find out whether you are now 'curious' and seeking to satisfy your curiosity elsewhere (with probably another girl since you said you enjoyed it )or you realize that you've made a mistake and you won't do it again. (4) If you and the girl have resolved what happened....then call me the devil but i would "let sleeping dogs lie"...i would'nt tell my bf!
2007-07-27 17:42:35 · answer #3 · answered by The sage 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yep, You cheated. If you really care about your boyfriend and you have a communicative relationship you have a couple or three choices- 1) tell him and maybe he won't understand and breaks up with you 2) Don't tell him and pray that the girl won't spill the beans either. or 3) tell him and maybe he wants a threesome.
Seriously, only you can decide if you want to tell him the truth.
2007-07-27 17:34:05 · answer #4 · answered by THE SINGER 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont listen to that sidney person, it is cheating though it might not be the end of it. If you did do it it would be better to just sit him down and tell him what happened and make sure you tell him though that you did not like the experience and you dont want to do it again, he will eventually find out and it would be a lot better if he herd it from you and sooner, if you want to find out what he thinks about a situation like that you could send him an anonomous message using this site its http://hikkup.com my friend used it.. I hope everything workes out for you
2007-07-27 17:35:57 · answer #5 · answered by stacyc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure your not a lesbian? Well, to be honest you did cheat and you do need to tell him if you ever want him to trust you again, it is better for him to hear it from you than anyone else because then he might think you weren't gonna tell him.
2007-07-27 17:37:37 · answer #6 · answered by Noname 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you still did cheat and i believe that you should tell him no matter how hard it is to do. and i have personally found that no matter what secrets tend to come out so its better that you tell him yourself. although you are going to have to give him some time to heal up because she's right he will be hurt. i know its probably not the advice you were looking for but i hope that it helps and good luck
2007-07-27 17:33:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Cheating with with another girl or boy is still cheating. You must tell your BK the truth.
How can you live with yourself?
If you kissed a girl, you may be sliding over to the gay scene.
2007-07-27 17:32:41 · answer #8 · answered by journey 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Not to sound mean but nothing works based on lies!
Feelings get hurt many times for nothing but it is worse when we are lied to. Treat people like you would want to be treated. Ask yourself how you would feel if the person you cared for was not only faithful but lied daily by hiding the truth?
2007-07-27 17:34:46 · answer #9 · answered by Lynn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, that is really cheating. it doesn't matter if it was a boy or girl what you did is still bad. You need to tell your boyfriend about it.
2007-07-27 17:33:49 · answer #10 · answered by April D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋