increase his chances of you being attracted to him? I've encountered many an arrogant jerk who ended up securing a gorgeous girlfriend or wife. I know I wouldn't want to turn to the dark side and become a Neanthedral in order for head turning pretty women to look at me and think "...mmm who's this 'bad boy'? I'd definitely go out w/ him if he asked me out"
One of my friends told me many women, in general, are 'wired' to be attracted to such goons. They can't help it. I don't know about that, because I've seen photos of nice guys (way back in the 40s and 50s) who married fine women. These guys were not strikingly handsome, either. I think (not that ancient..lol) the young female adults of that generation had, numbers-wise, a healthier basis for attraction, than unfortunately many single women today. They back then appreciated and were turned on by nice guys who paid compliments, were chivalrous, etc.. I'd like your feedback on how to jumpstart my dating scene.
2007-07-27 10:08:53 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Badboys get more girls because they don't worry about rejection-- they just move on..
No reason a goodguy couldn't do the same..
2007-07-27 10:12:51 · answer #1 · answered by Sophie B 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I say, take a few risks... challenge her a bit. Don't give up your nice guy manners etc, but be in charge. Believe it or not, ladies just like to be led... I know I know, I'm not supposed to say that being one myself in this enlightened age, but we like assertiveness, manliness, and strength. The problem is bad boys give a front of all of this very easily (though I'll be the first to admit it's just a front).
I think the main thing nice guys do wrong is either try too hard or try to little. Same with "nice" girls... in an effort to get someone's affections, they think they're "earning" them by good behaviour. This is simply not so... Yes, eventually this works out, but basic attraction is just that... attraction. So create it.
2007-07-27 10:16:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The key is choosing the right woman.
Find someone who likes you for you. In other words, find someone who can appreciate you just being yourself.
Don't ever become someone other than who you are just to impress a woman. That relationship will be based on a lie and it'll never work.
And as far as those women who like the bad boys? Trust me, when their maturity kicks in, they live to regret that decision time and time again.
2007-08-04 04:30:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are nice, you will attract nice women.
If you act bad, you will attract the same. Beauty is only skin deep, so of the hotties are actually bad underneath and you don't need that in your life (at least long term lol).
2007-07-27 10:14:20 · answer #4 · answered by Wolfithius 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No back then women's rights and career opportunities were chained by prejudice so they had to choose stable and oftentimes boring men even if they weren't attracted to them. Nowadays women sleep with who ever they want without risk of starvation.
Tip, just because women like you doesn't mean their attracted to you.
2007-07-27 10:16:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a good job. Get some hobbies. Read. Learn to manage your affairs and money. Women like smart men. Don't just sit around.
2007-07-27 10:13:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
just talk to more women, be yourself, don't be afraid to approach people regardless of what they look like. as you talk to someone, you will know if they are worth your time. if they don't agree, move on. don't compromise your integrity or morals to get some dumb@$$. there are attractive girls that are actually smart at the same time! they will appreciate a nice guy!
2007-08-03 20:19:44 · answer #7 · answered by Rachel F 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you want someone who is clean, respectable, polite, funny, and any "real" thing guys look for, really, be yourself, be respectable (example: like pants down by your nees... BIG no-no) I`m not sayn you have to wear a suit, but.. trully, be your self... then you`ll find that perfect person for your unice personallity. I think I put that right...
well great of luck to you!!
T-B! ♥
P.S.
girls like it when your truthfull too (I`m turned on to you already! ;-) lol)
2007-07-27 10:28:59 · answer #8 · answered by SamanthaDew 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
a lot of girls think that nice guys can be soft. but honestly, nice guys are the guys i like to date. they normally dont show ********* and rudness and they stay true and faithful to their women. all the guys i have dated are nice. some though, can be all cocky on the outside when they r with their friends, but when they r with their girls they are soft. just be yourself. your nice personality will go a long way. i mean, id date u :) lol
2007-08-04 07:02:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
every person is different. try to be the person who you really are and you will find the correct person that will help you and will be happy with you.
is not easy but who said that the good things are not difficult.
good luck and i can see that you are a wonderful person. hope that they also can see it.
2007-07-27 10:14:20 · answer #10 · answered by ema 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋