ok well there is this girl and we went out for 3 years i still like her very much. i just can;t stop thinking about us. i keep thinking she still likes me and i can't get any of the memories out of my head. she is like the only thing i think about. what should i do?
2007-07-27 09:48:56 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
another things is i just can't forget about her. i see her everyday now she is my neighbor. i don't want to stop talking to her cause she is a really good friend. she did the whole on off thing. maybe she just needs a break, right?
2007-07-27 09:58:08 · update #1
lobotomy
2007-07-27 09:52:53 · answer #1 · answered by jennyღ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
FIND ANOTHER GIRL! haha I know this might sound bad but I've been through the same thing and the best thing to do is to find something else (work, sports, a hobby, but preferably another girl) to take your mind off of the old one and remind yourself that you don't need her as much as you think you do. And doing this will give you guys time away from each other just in case you do decide to get back together later (but don't bug her a/b it). It's a normal part of breaking up especially after long, loving relationships. Good Luck!
2007-07-27 09:56:12 · answer #2 · answered by sdogg_41 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find another girl to date as soon as you can bear it; and please don't make it a girl who is a dead ringer for your ex, because that wouldn't be fair! For real -- three years is a very long time and I'm afraid time is the only thing that will really help; in the meantime, try to distract yourself by staying busy -- perhaps learn to play tennis or join a gym. You'll need to change your schedule so that time you would have been with her is occupied by some other activity...get out and socialize, even if it doesn't thrill you at first. Force yourself to get back out there...
2007-07-27 09:55:51 · answer #3 · answered by felixthecat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to be patient. I know this isn't what you want to hear, but if it is something that you want to get over, it will take time. If it is something you want to allow to continue (And she has to want this too) it will take time to get past whatever you're going through right now. Take the time to go on a vacation, take some time for yourself in some other way you feel that helps you, but make sure you're taking the time alone to actually face what you're thinking about. You have to think about it, Sorry. Don't take advice that makes you avoid the issue and "do something else (or someone else, though if you find someone to help you through it it'll be better also)". Take advice that helps you be ok with what's going on, but not escape it. Fell it, enjoy it as a part of life even though it's not a fun part. Take it easy on yourself, you'll be fine.
2007-07-27 09:56:01 · answer #4 · answered by Bryan T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just want to let you know that i know how you feel.Im not gonna give you some long lecture but all i can say is that the pain never really goes away but it does get easier to deal with.Just go out and do things talk to other girls be around friends.Just try to do things like that even though its hard.And if you feel she still has feelings then give her a kall but think it through first.Good luck bro
2007-07-27 09:56:14 · answer #5 · answered by Young Blood 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Moving on is always hard, esp. after a long period of time
It sounds like you need to go out with your friends and enjoy yourself, Yes you still may think of her a lot of the time but at least you would be having fun and seeing what is available to you outside you love life
Also getting rid of reminders around your home might also help and getting rid of old text messages etc. which might end up making you think and hurting you more in the long run
Good Luck
xXx
2007-07-27 09:54:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sudoku, Rock climbing, Bars, Video games, Other girls, Gun range, MTV, Cooking lessons, Rock paper scissors, Clean the house, Get a stressful job, Porn, Get a puppy, Working out.... there's plenty to do besides stress about some long gone chick! There are plenty of other chicks on the farm!
2007-07-27 09:54:49 · answer #7 · answered by Jamaican QT™ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hang out with your guy friends. Dont do anything that would lower yourself, and take it one day at a time. Learn a new sport or hobby. It looks pathetic if you just sit and dwell on things. When you talk to her tell her you had a good time but it would've been better if she were there. Good Luck:)
2007-07-27 09:55:17 · answer #8 · answered by ~♥Amanda Dawn♥~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm right there with you brother. It was two years for me. We still talk which makes it worse but I've lately treated her bad and now i think i f'd up the chances of maybe fixing it. But i just try to get out of the house. Party with friends always helps, keeps you laughing and your mind elsewhere.
2007-07-27 09:57:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start hanging out with some other girls, even on a friendly basis. Get the heck out of the house with them and your other friends. Cheer up, be positive and confident about the future and a new girl will suddenly appear...I promise.
2007-07-27 09:52:44 · answer #10 · answered by Wolfithius 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well... I think that a good neurosurgeon could get her out of your head. But probably the best is to leave her there, or move to the heart :)
2007-07-27 09:52:15 · answer #11 · answered by Wonderer 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋