(HELP) Isnt she acting STUPID!!!!???????

Question

well im 14 and so is my best friend.

she uses myspace everyday. (she is myspace addict) i told her myspace isnt safe and facebook is better (i have and most people have facebook)

she met this guy on myspace. she told me "they have so much in common" hes 15.

she wants to MEET HIM SOON!!!!! isnt that stupid.

i told her "look if you want to get raped go ahead, but im telling you dont meet this creep"

i just dont want her to get hurt. what else can i say to change her mind. If this guy does anything to her he will be hearing from my fist!

i just have this bad feeling if she meets him somethign will happen

Am i overreacting. i jsu tdont want anythign to happen to my best friend.

He is 15. she has seen all his pics and once video chatted

(webcamed) with him. she told me he is definatley. 15

IM NOT GOING WITH HER> IM NOT TRYING TO GET RAPED MYSELF

SHE SAID THEY GONNA TRY TO MEET AT STARBUCKS COFFE PLACE

Answer 1

No, never meet people online outside like that unless you know that person through friends or family. You should talk to your friend, it's really dangerous because he might not he the 15 year old and other stuff that he claimed to be. Just convince her the best you can, but if she doesn't listen and intends to meet him, make sure you or someone else goes with her and they meet in a public place with a lot of people and during the daytime.

Answer 2

I do not think you are over reacting, and I do not think she's acting entirely stupid. She's just acting like a 14 year old in love. (Which, anyone in love tends to act stupid.)

However, YOU are right. Meeting people online is dangerous. Unfortunately, facebook isn't much safer. I've been hit up by 40 year olds on that website. Be careful with any website you are on! No matter how safe you think they are.

As for your friend, I urge you to make sure she meets this person in public. Especially with other friends around. You won't be able to change her mind, but you will still be able to protect her! Is there an older brother, or a cousin in either family that can attend this date?

Answer 3

u r so right...i have a myspace but im not friends with anyone i dont know. I dont think ur being unreasonable. i highly recomend that she doesnt meet him in person. also if she doesnt listen to u and does go to meet him i suggest that u go with her and bring cell phones and maybe another friend for safety. I dont know ur best friend so i dont know what could change her mind but ask her if shes going to trust her bestfriend or a guy that she just met and hasnt even met in person. also is it like a friend of a friends or is it some spontaneous guy ?
that sounds bad, but u seem like a really good friend
hope this helps
;)

ps
even if he is 15 he could still be a pervert
:(

Answer 4

well you are doing the correct thing
no you ar eno t overreacting you are acting the corect way
you should beat some sence i to her head those things are dangerous because she doesnt know the guy she is just looking at a bunch of leters in the screen
she is not being counseous of what can happen to her she can get raped ahe can get killed
she can be put up for prostitusion
you never know what can happen
she needs to start looking at the risk that having with that dode
and how do you know that the dode that she saw was the real one
there are a lot of trics for those camra calls that can be showing a recording of someone els not the real person that you are talking to
she needs to open her eyes and see that she is in danger
what you should do is folow her but dont let her see you
because you can change what can happen to her
for if she gets raped you can call the police or something
you need to help her

Answer 5

Im 14 years old too and i think it's very stupid. Im a myspacer but i know not to meet people from it. Tell her to take someone with her. Safety in numbers. Tell her it would be safer to go on a group date. Somewhere public so if anything happens there will be people around.

Answer 6

I don't think you're overreacting, it has happened before and she doesn't know this guy so what reason does she have to trust him, if there are enough of these creeps out there for To Catch a Predator to even exist then this guy could be one of them, then again people have actually gotten married to people they met on the Internet, it isn't the safest method of meeting people but if she's really determined to meet this guy then maybe she should go with a group to a public place

Answer 7

Yeah, anyone who wants to meet face-to-face, especially in someplace private is almost surely a predator. If she's dead set on meeting this guy, then make sure it's someplace really, really public like a mall foodcourt at lunch time. If he says no, it's 100% that he's not for real. Also tell her to ask him what he'll be wearing so he can spot him, if he refuses, he's a bad guy. If he asks her what she'll be wearing, he's a bad guy. I know this stuff down pat, I'm a computer geek who has done work with the Gwinnett Co. police dept. in Gwinnett Co, Georgia and we see stuff like this all the time. It's bad news, trust me.

Answer 8

No you are not over reacting, there are child predators that just wait for a chance, and a girl like her to come along!! You alone cannot help her though, you need to talk to an adult, especially if she plans on meeting this guy(who's probably older than 15) I know your afraid she'll be mad, but if you save her from doing something that could get her hurt, raped, or killed,(or pregnant) well then your a true friend and eventually she'll see that and you'll be able to live with yourself!! God Bless and Good Luck!!!!!!!!!

Answer 9

first off no networking site is safe. It's how you use it that makes it safe or unsafe. If you are only talking with people who you know ie friends from school and family members and no one else and keeping it private. then ya i'd say it was relatively safe.

If your leaving it an open profile and talking to everyone and anyone under the sun that will give you attention your asking for a bet of trouble.

As far as you overreacting.NO! And honestly i'd say your underreacting slightly. Yes your concerned but your only her friend, and your a child your self.

It's time to get her parents involved in what is going on, if not hers then yours. Tell an adults because what she is about todo is the most dangerous thing she can. She doesn't know him from the pervert down the street or across from her at the library.

Yes it is stupid to try and meet someone you dont know from on line. It's extreamly anderous. It only takes a few words to sweet talk a 14 yr old child in to a car, to another place and you know the rest of the storry.

And him hearing from your fist hunny, doesn't scare him one bit! How about the police.

Please as a parent and once a teenagers not to long ago and having had experience from meeting people on line. Get parents involved and fast.

PS. short story. Had a fight with my brother when i was about 21. My parents wouldn't listen. So i got the bright idea i'd leave home. I left home on a wing and a pray to toleto ohio to meet up with a married man who told me he was in love with me and leaving his wife. I got there 3 days later by bus. He never showed up to pick me up. I got back on a bus and came back to california. When i finally talked to him, on line and asked what happend, he told me that him and his wife were staying together.......i dont know if the wife was a true thing or not, but none the less it was a dangerous and stupid thing for me todo. My parents didn't know either, and when i got back my mom was so upset with me for not telling her that i was doing this but more happy i was back home safe

Answer 10

Look tell here this it's a 100% true 10 people died last year on myspace. people put fack pictures on myspace. She may think o he's hot or he's cute.He could be a #1 sex affender. He will tell her any thing toget in pants'or up her skirt.If she does'nt whant to get hurt go with her and have a gun on ya. Or chan her down to her bed so she can't go.That's if it get's out of control. I'm happy yor worried about your friend.Don't worry your only trying to keep her safe.