Who never dated or had a bf or gf in middle school and high school?

Question

If you NEVER had a bf or gf in middle school and high school please answer my questions.

1.) Did you finally get a bf or gf and if you did how old were you?
2.) Did your bf or gf not want to be with you because you never had a relationship before? What did he/she say about that you not having a relationship before?
3.) On what date did your first bf or gf ask you how many relationships you had in the past? (Ex. first date, 2nd date, never...etc.)
4.) Does not dating in MS and HS affect your dating later on?
5.) Did any of your family make fun of you or call you lesbian/gay because you didn't date?
6.) If someone never talks about the opposite sex with their parents but they do with their friends, will their parents start to think they are lesbian/gay even though they aren't?

I just wanted to say this to the first poster: It sounds like you are a big sl*t and you will probably be pregnant by the time you are 16. There is NOTHING wrong with not dating in ms or hs. It means that, that person had more important stuff in school than to get their hearts broken every other week.

Answer 1

I might be wrong but I feel you're asking this because you've never had a bf and think you're not normal or something.
Anyway, I'll answer.
1. Yes, I was 18. Freshman in college.
2. He never knew but that's not something a bf would normally care about either way.
3. He never did.
4. No. You avoid all the drama and go out with mature guys at an older age.
5. No.
6. No! It's perfectly normal.No teen wants to have a conversation with their parent about a hot guy. That's kind of akward.

Answer 2

I didn't date in highschool only because I just didn't want a girlfriend at the time and I wasn't really interested in the girls that were at my highschool. There was nothing unique or different about them that I liked.

I'm not trying to sound cocky or anything, but I knew that I could probably go out with any girl if I asked but I didn't. I'm not a ugly person whatsoever, most girls think I'm good looking.

I do think that the lack of my relationships might prevent me from having a girlfriend in the future but I don't care, and the number of relationships someone have had should have nothing do with if they are experienced enough are not. Experience should not be a factor in a relationship, but the person.

Also, there are some people out there that just has to have a bf or gf and feel like they aren't "complete" without someone. To me, those people are weak.

Answer 3

My not dating was a result of my family background. They were super Christian and were perfectly happy for me not to date at all. That wasn't all there was to it, though. I was totally socially inept for a couple of reasons, so I probably wouldn't have had any dates if my family had been different. I got my first real boyfriend in college, the first summer between freshman and sophomore years. He didn't care that I hadn't had any relationships. He never asked me that I remember. Not dating in MS and HS didn't affect me later because the reason I didn't date stayed with me for a long time. Even though I had relationships on and off after I left home, I was still pretty socially inept. It wasn't till I got some therapy in my mid-20's that I finally began to have some successful relationships. My family never suggested that I might be gay, as they weren't bothered that I never dated. In fact, my parents were in their thirties when they married, so I guess they didn't feel there was any rush.

Answer 4

Look, I know you said NEVER in your answer, but I want to make sure you get something besides the first comment. To answer your questions:

1.) I never had a boyfriend until the end of my senior year in high school.

2.)I was not given a hard time at all - I had dated, but my view at the time was more of a 'unless I would want to marry the guy why would I commit to ANYTHING' (bytheway-I didn't date AT ALL until I was 16)

3.) Um... I NEVER got this question... the guys only seemed to care how many guys I had ever slept with - the number of relationships was never brought up

4.) No. I married at 22 to my boyfriend of 3 years

5.) No. I was never made fun of by anyone.

6.) I would hope not. Parents should know their kids more than to assume something like that without knowing.

Answer 5

First of all, I would like to say that the 12-year old poster at the top is a skank. Her bf looks way older then her! Just ignore her post.

Anyway, I didn't date until later on in highschool, like senior year. I had more fun keeping guys as my friends because there was no awkwardness or pressure. Don't worry about it, just be yourself and the right person will come.

LOL, I sound like a fogey!

Answer 6

I didn't date until I graduated high school. I just didn't want to really. Since then though I've had several long-term relationships including marriage. My first boyfriend never asked about previous relationships. I offered the information freely. He couldn't have cared less, that I'd never dated before. We were together 5 years. Honestly, I don't think any of my old boyfriends actually cared about my dating history. Also, my sexuality has never been questioned. If it had been, so what?

Answer 7

1) 17
2) No. Someone that doesn't want to be with someone based on the past isn't someone I want to date in the first place. That's really immature to be like that really.
3) He knew before he dated me how many people I had dated in the past. I don't hide my past from people.
4) In a way, yes, it does affect it. It makes it better. Not dating until youare actually mature enough to handle a relationship is smart. A relationship results in one of two things -- breakup or marriage. If you are too young for marriage, then it's probably going to be heartache that isn't needed in someone's young life. I saved myself alot of heartache. I'm glad. I wish more would do that.
5) No. That's really stupid.
6) No. Again, that's stupid.

Answer 8

1) 20

2) Didn't enter into consideration at all. Nothing.

3) Found out all our histories on the first meeting.

4) Makes you more pumped up to get to the good stuff than ever. Imagine, you're 20, seriously making out for the first time, it's as intense as hell, and you can really enjoy it since you can leisurely progress to more intense things instead of running into barriers, i.e. kiss at 13, wait a year to make out, wait one more year for more intense stuff, wait one or two more years for sex... you get the idea.

5) Dad was a major asshole and pumped up the pressure big time, (for example when I got together with my guy friends at 14-15 he would call it a "f***ot ball", because hey at 14 we weren't pulling Playboy playmates every night like he was (sarcasm)) which is at the end why I was completely nervous and f***ed up around girls till college when I moved from home far away!

6) If parents start pestering you about talking to them about your lovelife tell them to GET A LIFE! Unless you are going out with a knife weilding baby-eating rapist your lovelife is NONE of their concern.

Answer 9

not going to lie, the first poster seems like a slut.

anyways

i had agf in 8th grade, but it didn't last long, but i'm ok with that, it was a crappy relationship to start with. but i personally don't believe there is anything wrong with not having a relationship in ms or hs. i'm in college and since then i haven't had a gf. but maybe that's because i'm a little shy, but more so because i'm not willing to settle. every girl i grew up around was a daddy's girl who got anything they asked for, were rich snobby, b!tches. i'm holding out for someone who is down to earth...until that day...

Answer 10

1. 12
2. No, he always wanted to be with me!
3. He never did.
4. No, people are just like, "She can hold onto her man!"
5. My family would never do that!
6. I don't know, I'm not a parent.