I am so sad. I am a pethetic loser arent I
2007-07-27 09:28:35 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
NOPE.
You are fine and you will move on.
It just really hurts like a ***** at first.
But he wasnt good enough for you anyway.
2007-07-27 09:30:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because one guy dumped you doesn't make you a pathetic loser. It might take awhile, but you have to pick yourself up and move on. Get rid of anything that reminds you of him, and have a support system set up -- have some close friends ready to talk to you if you're feeling especially terrible.
Take care of yourself before you even try dating again. Cook yourself healthy meals (easier than it sounds, I promise), make sure you don't neglect personal hygiene, and go for walks every now and then. Give yourself time to think about the situation; you're a worthwhile person, okay? Listen to some music that you can relate to, so long as it doesn't leave you depressed. After a month or two, you'll feel as good as new, and you won't need this guy. Whatever you do, don't be tempted at all to get back together with him. That'll just result in more pain. Good luck to you.
2007-07-27 09:35:20 · answer #2 · answered by Tufty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart, just because you got dumped that doesn't make you a loser or pathetic or pointless. You can't expect every guy to fall madly in love with you and want to stay with you for the rest of his life, so sometime in your lifetime you will get dumped by someone. Instead of moping around and feeling so sad, find ways to bring yourself up into becoming a better person. Find out what went wrong in the relationship (or what was wrong with him!) and fix it. It will help you have better relationships in the future. Just move and keep on staying strong! Don't let any guy get to your head.
2007-07-27 09:36:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, the only pathetic thing you can do right now it let this thing get to you. There are plenty more guys out there who probably deserve you more. You shouldn't let one guy get to you. It's his loss. You shouldn't give up over one bad experience in love. Time heals all wounds and eventually you'll get over him. And if you two were really meant to be together than you will be together in the end. In the mean time move on and see what else is out there. You aren't pathetic and you aren't a loser. Just someone who just had their heart broken. Been there done that. Trust me you will feel a lot better in given time.
2007-07-27 09:38:55 · answer #4 · answered by Emily 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your life without your boyfriend is pointless then you have a problem. You should feel pain, which is the pain of having loved and lost.
Here is what you do.....You feel really bad for a few days or a week. Then you get up and try again.
2007-07-27 09:33:10 · answer #5 · answered by Josh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No don't ever feel pointless because someone left you. NEVER live for someone else, if they leave, they leave and you have your own life to do what you want. Cry if you need to, it'll make you feel better.
But you know what? This just means that you're one step closer to finding the right one. You've learned from this relationship and now you can make the next one better!
2007-07-27 10:15:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
....you're not the loser darling...he is significantly though......so what was the absolute honest reasoning behind your significant break-up here darling anyways?.....that might be more important then his simplistic little dumping mind-fart of his otherwise....wouldn't you agree babe? Grief and pain and misery surround you right now darling...so pick yourself up....put on your best smile...and come out into the daylight and let your God's and best friends lights shine upon ya sweetie. We still love ya anyways darlin.....and someday soon someone else of some significance will love ya better too.......it's just Karma darlin....not rocket science otherwise....agreed? Be cool babe.......cause this crap will come to pass by ya...if only you'd let it considerably! Cool?
2007-07-27 09:36:42 · answer #7 · answered by scott s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wasn't the right one for you. You may feel sad for a little while, but you will never be a loser. He's the loser because he's missing out on you! :)
2007-07-27 09:35:18 · answer #8 · answered by Poz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take this time to be especially nice to yourself. If you hear yourself putting yourself down in your thoughts--STOP. You wouldn't do that to your best friend, so why would you do it to yourself? Change that to a positive statement about yourself.
Take this time to build yourself up so that the next time you're in a relationship it's with someone who likes, deserves, and treats you kindly LIKE YOU DO YOURSELF!
Go on, give yourself a facial or a pedicure. Take a nap. Talk to your mom, dad or a friend. Play with your dog. Go for a walk or a swim.
Now is the time to be particularly caring of yourself.
2007-07-27 09:41:09 · answer #9 · answered by KIT J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are only a pathetic loser if you think you are... time will heal all wounds but before you get another boyfriend, you need to love urself and feel whole before bringing someone else in. if you go into a relationship broken, by the end of it u'll just be another piece.
2007-07-27 09:35:22 · answer #10 · answered by Nic Jones 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
since when does a man validate a woman???
What was your life like BEFORE you started dating this person?
No.. you're not "Pathetic".. you're "heart broken". It's a normal reaction and feeling to what you've described.
It's time to move on and start filling the void of "him" with something that you enjoy doing.
Don't LOOK for another relationship to get involved in. It will happen on it's own soon enough.
Best Regards.
2007-07-27 09:32:16 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋