My boyfriend stand me up for 1 hour! How should i react?

Question

His exuse was this : '' I can't tell you what happend. It is personal. But I am reeeeeally sorry and i won't do it again..''

Answer 1

maybe he had a problem that is embarrasing and he doesnt want to tell you, jsut tell him not that he better not let it happen again

Answer 2

Sometimes a guy will do things like that and turns out it is a surprise for you coming a little later down the road. However if he didn't mention anything like "I can't tell you right now but I will tell you later" then there is a good chance it isn't something sweet he's doing for you.

I would say if it is the first time he has ever done something like that to let him know it made you mad, and let him know it wont be tolerated ever again. For some reason guys like to test their boundaries with the girls they're in relationships with. So if he does do it again, and you actually told him you wont let it slide again, then you really do need to leave him. If you're all talk with no action you wont get any respect or be happy in a relationship because he'll walk all over you.

If this is something that happens a lot, I think it's time to find someone a little more worth your time.

Answer 3

This is tricky...you are his girlfriend and if i was in your spot the first thing i would ask is if you cant tell me why you ditched me what am i suppose to think? if he has done this more than once then i would get suspiscious but if this is the first time i would make it clear that you trust him and you are not going to push him on the subject but if something like that ever happens again that u are going to expect an explanation.

If he never called to tell you "Babe im going to be alittle late but im going as fast as i can...i got caught up in some stuff but i will be right there." then i would deff think something fishy is going on and if he cared enough about you he would have let you known or atleast given you some type of communication that he was going to be late...lol however i also think if he was up to something then he would atleast make an exscuse of to why he was late but if he couldnt think of anything either then he either is playing you, a sucky liar or he isnt creative enough to think of something....

I would deff be upset if he never called because if your his gf it only would have taken like 2 minutes out of his day just to let you know he was going to be alittle late..u know what im saying? watch how he acts and if he is being sneaky then something is up....

i would ask him why he feels like he cant tell you or why he doesnt trust you and if he does end up telling you try your best not to freak out so then next time he can feel like he can tell you things without you blowing up

Best of luck and this is really tricky!

Answer 4

Maybe it is personal, like he was constipated or has a hemorroid he had to medicate. Maybe he is surprising you with something like a gift or something.

The thing is you should accept his excuse because he may very well be telling you the truth. Listen, if he was doing something bad like cheating on you he would have thought up some fake story ahead of time but since he just said it's personal and left it at that then I think he is telling the truth.

Answer 5

If this is the first time it has happened I wouldn't worry about it. The reason could be something embarrassing like he had diarrhea or something. Who would want to say that. I would let it be and if it doesn't happen again then so be it. If it does happen again, then he better have a good reason next time or else don't waste your time in a relationship where someone can't be honest with you.

Answer 6

If you really care about this guy you need to cut him some slack, or do you tell him everything all the time? Reason this is such a good question is just look at the answers, every one is showing their own lives through their response. Fascinating, good one!

Answer 7

Forgive him but if it happens again tell him that he better give you a legit reason. As his gf he should be able to trust you enough to tell you at least where he was at. He doesn't have to give you the full extent of the details just to let you know he isn't playing you for a fool. And if it persist leave him and find someone that can actually show up for a date.

Answer 8

Well if you are his girl friend and he stood you up well you have a right to know. Tell him that you are hurt by the fact that he does not trust you. And for that matter why be with someone who does not trust you completely. Tell him you are understanding and you will understand what ever it is but that out of respect for your relationship and the "love he has for you" you deserve to know.

Good luck

Answer 9

Does he make a habit of this or is it the first time? How long have you been dating? Depends on how you answer these questions. If this is the first time then go a little easy on him. You are not his wife so he does not have to tell you everything. If he does this often then I would say it's time for a new boyfriend.

Answer 10

Let him know that if he's ever more than 15 minutes late, don't bother because you won't be waiting. That's my rule. The only way that I would consider changing it would be if the person called and told me exactly what was going on and when they'd be there. But people who are late tend to be late frequently--that drives me crazy because I tend to be like that myself! But even then, I would never keep anyone waiting more than 15 minutes without a call to let them know.

Answer 11

At least he didn't stand you up the night he was supposed to take you to dinner to propose to you and he was 3 hours late like with me... Oh, and I dumped him a year later. Keep it in mind, if you decide to let it go. If it happens again and he gives you the same excuse, then he doesn't trust you for his "personal things"