Me and my sister have quite a lot of CDs, DVDs and also a number of DVDs. Unfortunately, we've got quite a bad experience with lending the stuff to others. They simply forget to return them back and we have to ask them several times before they finally do, or they make excuses like "I lend it to my bf etc.", "Can't find them right now" or even pretend they don't know anything about them. Our two cousins returned back some CDs which we found later to be damaged, lost some of them etc. My sister complained once or twice and they told her not to make big deal, because "it's just a CD". I think it's the matter of an attitude rather than the thing itself, because taking care of things that are not yours and returning them in time is just good manners.
We decided not to lend them anymore, except for a few of our best friends that are reliable enough.
What is your opinion on lending this stuff?
2007-07-27 09:12:19 · 10 answers · asked by Dorian36 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I lent this girl a ton of DVD's last year. She and I have since stopped being friends, and she still has them. She refuses to give them back, and claims that I gave them to her as a gift, which is total B.S. (I vow to get them back sooner or later)
As for lending things out now, I usually ask for something as collateral. Such as THEIR favorite cd or movie...I even had a friend give me his watch. I do what I can to ensure that I get it back.
Another thing I've done, is given people a time limit. Let them know that you will charge once the time limit has passed...just like a video store would do.
2007-07-27 09:49:09 · answer #1 · answered by Whooosh! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My general policy is that when I lend something, I basically consider that I'm giving it to the person. That is, if it doesn't come back to me, it's okay. This saves me a lot of energy about worrying about whether I got the stuff back or whatever. Many times people just lose track of things or forget where they came from. I'd rather have a friend than a CD. If I can't stand to lose the item, I just tell the person I'm uncomfortable with lending it out.
2007-07-27 19:36:36 · answer #2 · answered by drshorty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My grandma always told me "neither a borrower nor a lender be." I lend books to people I know will enjoy them, but only after I'm finished with them and I don't really care if I get them back. Perhaps you could burn copies of cd's for people that ask (for 5 bucks or so) and protect your own. Or when you lend it to someone, say "I need this back by Friday, and please don't let anyone else borrow it." As for anyone that says it's no big deal, a fifteen dollar cd and a twenty dollar dvd are big deals, at least to me. if they took that money out of your wallet and then said it wasn't a big deal, you would be pretty ticked off.
2007-07-27 09:25:17 · answer #3 · answered by oj 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good call. There is positively no excuse for treating another's possessions like crap. My roommate left his empty cigarette box or a drink bottle in my car a few times. Now, he has to take the bus. Oh, and I threw him out because he is consistently disrespectful, in the same manner, in all other things he does. I own my house, and I'm not letting anyone live there that has no problem piling wet, stinky clothes on the carpet. I don't care how old the carpet is... if it isn't yours and you don't want to replace it (whatever 'it' is) then treat it better than you would treat your own things. I lend nothing out, anymore, for just that reason.
The exception is books that I have read many times, and aren't the quality of literature that you would display on a shelf. I mean, I like Carl Hiaasen, and all, but he isn't exactly Tolstoy.
2007-07-27 09:30:56 · answer #4 · answered by eine kleine nukedmusik 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
attempt to no longer take this so for my section, it relatively is a lot extra in all threat that those acquaintances are in basic terms a sprint inconsiderate or forgetful than that they try to punish you. in case you have a working laptop or computing gadget, do no longer lend cds, you could desire to reproduction them on your chum, no longer that i'm announcing you're able to because it somewhat is technically unlawful in lots of locations! If somebody asks to borrow some thing, yet they have already got some thing of yours tell them they might borrow the e book / cd, while they create returned the final one you lent them. constantly consider the guy you're lending stuff to while it relatively is which you relatively prefer it returned. in spite of this, basically say 'no'. If somebody asks to borrow some thing say you're sorry, yet you do no longer lend stuff anymore for the reason which you on no account get stuff returned from people oftentimes, you do no longer could make it very own with all and sundry. if your pals are nicely worth something then they are going to comprehend and particular initiate returning your stuff! in the event that they get humorous approximately it, ditch them, they for sure are in basic terms attracted on your possessions, no longer you.
2016-09-30 22:22:00 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have had bead experiences lending out books. I hate when they keep them for like 8 months, and it wasnt like i was lemding out war and peace. it doesnt take that long to read a 300 page book. But i really hate when people borrow books that i havent read yet, and i specifically say "I'll need that back soon cuz i havent read it yet" but to no avail about 9 months later ill finally get it back. Its the same with movies. Im thinking about making everybody pay late fees soon!
2007-07-27 09:49:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I'm embarrassed to say I've messed up a few times before in that area, and it really sucks.
You did good. Although I would maybe give people one last chance, making sure you emphasize that you want it back before you're old and in the same( or better) condition. If the testee screws up again, you put them on the "not lend" list. And if they don't screw up, then they've learned their lesson.
2007-07-27 09:21:08 · answer #7 · answered by shasha m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wise decision. I've lost several things over the years doing what you did. The most regrettable was my high school yearbook. I loaned it to my brother. He loaned it to a buddy and now 40 years later, I never saw it again.
2007-07-27 16:51:20 · answer #8 · answered by Classy Granny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
These are the exact same reasons that I do not lead out things anymore. And I make no exceptions. It cost money to replace these things.
2007-07-28 17:20:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
wise decision.same experience here. not lending anymore-period
2007-07-27 09:21:41 · answer #10 · answered by aaron 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋