My friends and I disagree on this issue. I believe you should share everything and it's part of building an honest relationship. She says that guys would never ever tell all of their history . She believes the past stays in the past and it's none of their business unless you have and STD which I don't.
Should you spill the beans or not?
2007-07-27 08:53:51 · 14 answers · asked by Bella 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
what is the past is the past.
only share if he wants to know, some men want to know some don't.
but be careful, some men can't handle the truth even though they may think they can.
I think its best to keep it in the present, starting from your relationship on.
2007-07-27 09:07:08 · answer #1 · answered by leisa k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is tricky, i have been with both people that care a whole lot about the past and people that could care less. Ofcorse you should always let people know if you have a STD that should be a law in my opinion. When the both of you decide that its time to discuss your sexual pasts it should be easy and not be full of scoffs. As far as it being part of building a honest relationship i agree, and when your friend says that guys will never tell all of their history can that go for girls also? Its all up to how much you trust your partner and how honest they are chances are they will tell everything no matter what gender they are. Good Luck!
2007-07-27 08:59:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO. What the heck for? So what if he's accomplished a number of those acts? no count what they are! it quite is suggested as being sexually lively. believe me, she would not would desire to grasp the main factors. the understanding will linger, the recommendations will wander and depending on her state of adulthood (i'm making a huge gamble under mature, considering the fact that fingering and receiving a "*******" look in simple terms like this sort of super deal), she'll possibly start to experience resentment and jealousy. And your buddy desires to strengthen up and recommendations her very own enterprise. in the event that they are making plans on having a sexual relationship the only issues they might desire to speak approximately are secure intercourse and in the event that they are the two clean.
2016-10-09 11:08:17 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess is depends on whether or not your past will affect your present. Like she said, having an STD is important, or is they think you are/aren't a virgin but they're wrong. If it is nothing serious, then you don't need to, but it doesn't mean you shouldn't. If you feel it is necessary to share you past with him, explain to him how you feel and see if he agrees.
2007-07-27 08:58:05 · answer #4 · answered by The Seeker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can tell your new bf that you are not comfortable talking about the past and that the only important thing is the future. Tell him that your time together is more precious then the past.
2007-07-27 09:05:09 · answer #5 · answered by hollygolightly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think its something you and your BF should discuss. if you both want to share, then go ahead, if not, then thats fine. people dont like hearing about things you have done with past bf's. even though they are curious, the thought of you with someone else bothers some people.
2007-07-27 08:58:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No unless he wants to know and even then I would not disclose it because its in the past . What if you tell him and then he doesn't want you anymore then what?
2007-07-27 08:57:58 · answer #7 · answered by Constance M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can become a topic for discussion, however only if it is brought up by either person*... Then that would be an invitation to discuss it*....
2007-07-27 10:48:47 · answer #8 · answered by dca2003311@yahoo.com 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't kiss and tell, unless you have an std.
2007-07-27 08:59:38 · answer #9 · answered by Jason D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im always honest with my man about what ive done and who ive done it with. Not bc I have to but bc i think it brings us closer.
2007-07-27 08:58:54 · answer #10 · answered by Sparkles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋