I just like to know. I'm a guy who likes women and would never force to have sex. I mean if they agreed with it than that's fine but why is it a big deal to everyone? I mean sure I heard it feels good and all but so what, people should wait for the right moment and for the right peson. I think it's awesome just to have someone in your life that you care about and someone who cares about and someone you could just be with forever and not have sex. I by far would rather just have a nice dinner and just keep on kissing a girl on her lips then have sex. I mean I never had sex before or really cared but I have kissed a lot of diffrent girls and I think that's more special than anything. I guess this is how I am and how I was brought up.
2007-07-27 08:53:33 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm so glad there are still guys out there like you. I hate also how people put so much emphasis on sex. I heard from my humanities teacher that around the times of the Victorian era (or maybe it was a little before then) people didn't discuss sex in public because it was regarded as primarily for having children. I would guess that because of today's culture and people letting their hormones drive their brains that that's why people make such a big deal out of sex. They just don't think that they have better aspirations probably.
2007-07-27 08:58:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
Wow. This is a great question. And I have no clue how to answer it. You've probably seen all the "sex questions" I ask and think I'm some kind of nympho freak.
I saw someone else say that if you take kissing and mulitply that times like 100 that's how amazing sex is, and that's sort of true. But not always, because there are times when my boyfriend and I are lying in bed, naked, about to have sex, but all I want to do is kiss and touch. But then eventually I'll want to have sex, because it's such a great feeling to be that close to someone. It really has very little to do with how amazing it feels (but oh, God, it feels better than anything you can possibly imagine), it has to do with the fact that for that period in time you are connected to someone in every way. My boyfriend is out of town for two weeks, and I still have 11 days to go, and I don't miss the feeling of the sex (okay, well, I do, but...), I miss the feeling of being that close to him, feeling him hold me and me holding him and being so connected.
You asked why people think sex is the best thing and everything in life... I don't know. It seems that people do, though. You have one-night stands everywhere and shows based soley on sex. I think a lot of has to do with self-esteem issues. But all I can say is, do what you're doing now. Wait until the right girl comes around, then you'll see what is so big about sex... it's not just the feeling... it's the connection.
2007-07-27 13:59:52 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly I don't know why people think sex is the best thing and everything in life. Sex does play a certain part in any relationship and it does feel good. But you are right waiting for the right person and the right time makes a big difference.Knowing your are in love with that person and they are the one for you.It makes making love more intense and meaningful.If you don't wait you have a chance of messing up the rest of your life not realizing it at the time. You are quite refreshing because most guys only have one thing on their mind. And it isn't a nice dinner and just a kiss.
2007-07-27 09:08:08 · answer #3 · answered by lisaurban_2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most people think this because Sex DOES feel amazing - at least most of the time. And "if it feels good, then do it!" has become a normal attitude...
But for all those that preach that nothing is better than sex - I guess you have never TRULY been in Love...
LOVEMAKING is the ultimate expression of caring and affection - the complete merging of two bodies, hearts, minds, and souls. Without Love - it's only just sex!
And if you've never had a BAD sexual experience - you're in for a HUGE wake up call ;);););)
Unfortunately, guys today have a VERY bad habit of saying "making love" whenever they want a nice way to say F@#$ing someone...
It's nice to see that there are still real MEN like us left in this world - who would rather date (and romance) a woman rather than just trying to get her in the sack. But it seems like we're a dying breed :(:(
2007-07-27 10:17:50 · answer #4 · answered by kr_toronto 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You said" you never had sex before.", that was your choice. I don't say that is the best thing and everything in life I'm talking about sex...it is important, and a way people express them self when they feel this is the right person. Sex isn't the best thing in life Who knows once you try it you maybe one of those people that think it is the best and everything in life..
2007-07-27 09:04:48 · answer #5 · answered by candy c 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, different things mean different to different people. I sure am glad that there are sensitive guys like you. To me, sex and sexual drive are important, however I do agree that placing physical aspects prior to everything else might be a little bit shallow. There is at least one synonym to sex, that is: to make love, and this might somewhat depict deeper meaning of the whole story.
2007-07-27 09:00:11 · answer #6 · answered by Vesna G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right! But about the best thing: it is the best thing that can happen to two people. I love it and I like to express my love through it. It depends how you look at it!
Sex is a form of love to me!
It is there for a reason.
2007-07-27 14:06:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because people are weak to media influences - and this is what our songs, movies, and Websites are telling us.
This has brought about the decline of Christianity (and other religion) - and with the decline of religion comes the decline of morals and ethics. Hence, we're canoodlin' left and right now.
2007-07-27 12:18:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
well sex is nice.i am with you on the rest why people think is everything.i also rather have one guy in my life and just sleep with that one guy insted of moving around and sleeping with every guy just cuz sex is good.i mean its good and it feels good but people over do it.and they get liek addictide and go sleeping with as many people as possible i rather just have one guy that i can have sex with but know that im gonna share my whole life with him insted of gofing around with every guy
2007-07-27 09:02:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you see in our society today sex is not a big deal ppl dont value it as it should be ..... they just do it to have funn..... so as being a stupid ignorant young teenager you think its cool and will be out of the world funn.... well let me tell you i lost my virginity young... and its not all cut out to be as you think it is.... and it just brings stress... for example you/your grl dosent start her period , you then think she pregnant.... its just sumn that young teenagers dont need to be putting themself through....and i def. agree with you, it will happen at the right time.... dont rush it.... have it with someone special and whom you care about... you dont want to remember your first time being horrible!!!! take care kid!! you sound like you got a good head on them shoulders!! =]
2007-07-27 09:03:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋