Yesterday I posted a question regarding my 19 yr old daughter and what to do with her. She only came around when no one was home and helped herself to things including the licence plate off a car that we were not using. Now she called and said apparently they have to vacate the house that the freinds rented and wants to move home. I assume they ran out of money. I want her home but am sure that she assumes like before she left. What to do?
2007-07-27 08:31:14 · 8 answers · asked by diane f 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
one guideline should be that she have a job and pay half of all bills such as electric ,phone and whatever else is there is to pay concerning the home . tell her that if she steals anything she is out of the home no ?s asked . and she will help you clean the home as well . be strict with her and dont put up with nonsense . good luck .
2007-07-27 08:40:25 · answer #1 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Okay... So, she has proven that she is not good with money, or friends...So she get's a full time job, and you teach her how to do finances...Dave Ramsey is a good book to get her...She must pay for rent, utilities, and be on the tightest budget you can come up with..If she does not, she's out..This may be your last chance shot with her to make her a responsible adult..I know we all screwed up at that age, but we all want different for our children, right? Help her through this, and she will thank you later!
2007-07-27 16:08:07 · answer #2 · answered by Momto8gr8 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I can tell you what my mom did when I moved back home at 18 after leaving college. I had to get a part-time job at the very least, I had to chip in for the groceries and I was completely responsible for paying for my own car and insurance. I also had to respect her home and not come and go at all hours of the night.
2007-07-27 15:41:32 · answer #3 · answered by triviapunky 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
lay down some rules .. its your house and your being a good mother by taking her bake .. shes 18 a legally not your resonsiblity .. so its your time now too.
call her up tell her you think it would be nice to spend some time togethe rbefore she goes on with her life and wont be around as much .. and tell her your rules .. like no friends when noones home .. no taking your things out of the house .. and maybe make her do some chours to pay for her "rent" or even pay some rent for food and stuff..
good luck and hope everything works out for you!
2007-07-27 15:36:22 · answer #4 · answered by i LOVE my BOYTOY! 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
aaaaay, she is still a young girl who need all the help she can. See in a traditional Latino family children get to live with their parents until they get married or decide to move out. I moved out of my parents when I got married at 24 but when I started working (at 18) I used to help my dad with rent and bills. You are the only person that can help your daughter... take her back.
2007-07-27 15:52:36 · answer #5 · answered by Mother'f3 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
pay rent dont ask you for anything like spending money or gas money you should take care of the food its kinda the motherly thing to do and i dont think you should set a curfew she is 19. Also br strict dont give in they are your rules write them out kind of like a contract have her sign them have punishments for her actions if she messes up just show her you mean bizness.
2007-07-27 15:41:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
at 19 she's a adult, i wouldn't let her move back in unless she 's already enrolled into higher education courses, other than that she's already made her choice and your house is just that your house and not hers
2007-07-27 16:01:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
that isnt a question that should be on here. first of all, i cant tell you what to do with your daughter, i'm not the one who raised her. that choice is up to you, not me.
2007-07-27 15:36:23 · answer #8 · answered by Oliver 4 · 1⤊ 3⤋