help with a arguement i had with my boyfriend last night . ?

Question

well yesterday my boyfriend was mad out of no where . so yeah he told me to go to sleep `cause he didn't want to act like a jerk to me and say things he didn't want to mean . i said NO i`ll put up with it, `cause i usually do. but then he was like no go to sleep, i was like okay ... and then he called me back and was like why didnt you call me back. i asked him do you want to talk to me ? he said NO. i asked him did i do anything and he said no so i was like okay .. and then we hung up and didnt call him back, i didnt want to deal with it and then he called back and was like YOUR SUPPOSE TO CALL ME BACK and i was like you told me you didn't wanna talk to me you know? he said YOUR SUPPOSE to put up with me. i was like okay, & he told me he had a feeling we were gonna fight and then later he was like LETS FIGHT i was like WTH. you know and he just started by saying YOU PISS ME OFF ! stuff like that you know. he was pissed off because i didnt put up with him , i didnt call him back after

and like he was mad because i take things up the butt. and when i was apologzing he told me he doesnt care and that i dont mean anything to him .. that kinda of got me sad .. T_T today i was planning to go bake cookies and walk to his house and give them to him. i dont think i wanna stay long cause yesterday he said if you were right next to me i dont wanna be with you & walk out of the room .. help what do i do ..

when he`s mad he talks from the BUTT. so he doesnt mean it .. but idon tknwo

Answer 1

First of all, you need to dump this guy. He is very verbally abusive to you. And you seem timid, so he is taking advantage of that. and look back at your statement, HE had a feeling we were gonna fight; he was just looking for someone to fight with, and you were his target. you should have told him either, go find someone who wants to fight with you or try to figure out what is really bothering him. sometimes people who feel like s**t, want to make other people feel the same way and then somehow they themselves feel better. I would not have let the conversation go on any further than the very first one. Next time, if there is one; dont pick up the phone to continue the arguement, show him you are a strong person and you will not be walked on again. You DONT have to put up with anybodys crap! and if you piss him off, he will get over it. but lets focus on you, not him. dont you get pissed at him? and if you do do you let him know it? and how do you let him know? or do you keep it bottled up inside? these are some things you should look at. i dont know you personally but, if any "man" talked to me that way, he would hear a very loud click on the other end of the phone and if he called back, he would only hear ring, ring, ring.

Answer 2

wow, at first it sounded like he was mad about something that had nothing to do with you, like something didn't go right at work (or school) and you were just closer to take it out on. But it also could be he's upset with you for something but doesn't want to confront you...maybe he heard a rumor and instead of asking you to clarify just decided to be mad about it. Either way, I'd ask him...hey what's up?
Good Luck...and the cookies are a sweet idea.

Answer 3

no brainer...leave the jack A$$... all he wants is to control you emotionally because you give in sounds like hes a headcase you dont need to deal with...its his way or the highway so to speak..let him know that when hes ready to treat you with some respect and dignity to give you a call otherwise dont bother. when he says ok or does call and he starts off hang up on his butt and move on but dont stick around in a situation like this it will emotionally make you sick

Answer 4

well first thing i need to teach u something and its basic

in order to love someone first thing u need to do is love your self

OK
u shouldnt be putting up with this crap from ur bf
u ask why? because that s not a healthy relationship thats abuse

ur bf has a control issues he wants to control u and thats not cool
he verbally abuses u
i hope he doesnt physically abuse u

u know what u need to do is stand up for ur self n that s it

he s doing this to u cuz he already knows u will put up with it
and u r

by him gettin upset at u for no reason its ridiculous
dont tolerate it

good luck girl

Answer 5

ok, first of all, none of this fight was your fault so do not bake him cookies or apologize. you are his girlfriend, you don't have to take his crap. obviously something was wrong with him last night ans you gave him multiple opportunities to talk about it and he didn't want to. he needs to grow up and stop playing games. i don't tell people that i don't want to talk and tell them to just go to sleep and then expect me them to call me back. if he is saying hurtful things to you, like you don't mean anything to him, leave him. you deserve better.

Answer 6

Sounds like you both are really immature. And your way of handling issues in your relationship is causing the relationship to eventually cease. One of you need to be the bigger person and apologize and reach some type of agreement.

Answer 7

Dump him, he has issues, life's too short. He expects you to know the rules of his game, but he's making them up as he goes. Pointless to play, unless you like to lose.

I suspect he's feeling very guilty about something, but regardless, he obviously doesn't respect your feelings, and you deserve better. So tell him you've had enough of his childish behavior and kick him to the curb.

Answer 8

Sounds like a jerk! Dump him and meet a nicer guy.

Answer 9

Put laxitives in the cookies and find a new man. This guy is wacked.

Answer 10

Your boyfriend is obviously immature, insensitive, and unstable. If I were you, I'd dump him and find a guy that will treat me right. He's just playing mind games.