how far is too far as far as intimacy in dating? I have Christian morals and my bf and i just want what God wants. But when things heat up and i find him in my pants or shirt, i wonder, "is this too far?" The Bible forbids sex before marriage, but what about the other stuff? I most would appreciate answers from people in relationships with Christ as the center. Thank you and God Bless.
2007-07-27 08:26:42 · 10 answers · asked by kristin p 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
im not talking about having sex
2007-07-27 08:39:09 · update #1
do your conscience get to you? do you feel convicted doing what you do? i read one time that "what you feel is a sin is a sin to you" . the holy spirit will have to be your guide, and if your not at peace when doing it then maybe you shouldnt.
2007-07-27 08:34:10 · answer #1 · answered by warrior*in*the*making 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can't answer from a Christian perspective, but I have told my own kids to be practical about sex. Until you are emotionally and financially prepared to be a parent, tinkering with sex is foolhardy. You don't have to rip off each other's clothes to show your love for one another. Enjoy holding hands, kissing, and talking together. Those are glorious things to do that don't come with such a high probability of creating a crisis in your lives.
2007-07-27 15:34:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everything is a sin, just depends on who you ask. People say you should wait until marriage until sex, but really what they are saying is that you should wait until you are sure you want to be with your partner (my opinion). If you do have sex, you have to be prepared to take on the responsibility of having children. It will change your life and if you aren't ready that's not good to bring a child into and it will not be good for anyone.
2007-07-27 15:32:51 · answer #3 · answered by Dan Theman 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I believe it is too far, as you are uncomfortable in asking. The rule we teach teens, is if clothing is normally covering it, don't touch it. As you can figure, one thing can lead to another. So stop it before something happens that you didn't plan on. If you really love each other, then plan on marriage, and then you don't have to worry about it.
2007-07-27 15:51:09 · answer #4 · answered by RB 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it feels good do it! Just remember the action has consequences and you need to practice safe sex. God will sort it out in the end!
2007-07-27 15:40:49 · answer #5 · answered by inepty 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he makes you feel comfortable, go for it. Don't base your morality on something unrealistic like the existence of god. If you do have an intimate partner feel free to explore each others bodies. It's definitely best if you're in some sort of committed relationship but you don't have to wait until you're married. A lot of times that's too unrealistic.
2007-07-27 15:31:53 · answer #6 · answered by scheidemann2007 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
personally i think that is too far but you have to know yourself and put up your own boundaries...i know not to allow that personally because i know i wouldn't stop there...if you feel guilty that is probably the holy spirit telling you to slow down...
I wish you and your bf the best...God bless!
2007-07-27 17:09:25 · answer #7 · answered by Chriss 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think all sexual contact before Marriage is a sin, but realistically, there may be other issues at play.
My advice with you is wait until you guys are married.
2007-07-27 15:29:56 · answer #8 · answered by nom de paix 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I can only tell you, sex is sex, it is not just intercourse. I have always felt that no sex means no petting, oral, anal or anything like that...
2007-07-27 15:30:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask "Is this too far?" then the answer is probably "Yes, it is."
2007-07-27 15:29:31 · answer #10 · answered by Nandina (Bunny Slipper Goddess) 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋