my ffmil insists that we serve beer in our weeding reception but I think it's not neccessary to have beer since we are already serving champane, wine, and liquor. But the in laws keep on telling me if people don't want to drink those three kinds of alchohol at least they can have beer. I think there's more than enough alchohol served in the reception, if the guests don't like the ones we have, they can just drink soda, plus I think beer just simple don't fit into a wedding reception. (beer is perfect for watching a game, but wedding reception? i don't think it's a good idea) Should i listen to them and just gave up on the whole issue, or should i tell them no?
2007-07-27 08:25:01 · 27 answers · asked by Renee L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I really don't want anyone get drunk on my reception party, I am planning on to have one bottle of wine or liquor, and a bottle of champane per table, which sit about 10-12 people. That way i have some control over the achohol being comsumed, but i don't know how to give out beer. Thanks for all your help
2007-07-27 09:21:33 · update #1
if you do not want beer, do not serve it. what you have mentioned is enough. you will never please EVERYONE in life, so just focus on making your day what YOU want it to be.
2007-07-27 08:28:40 · answer #1 · answered by Christina V 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Yes you should serve beer. It's not like they are going to be served out of plastic cups with your cousin doing a keg stand. Beer can be classy too.
The truth is your job as hostess is to make sure your guests are happy and comfortable. You already have two people telling you they prefer beer over wine therefore you need some sort of beer available. Many people only drink beer, it's very common, more common than wine drinkers. For instance, my stepmom drinks beer because wine gives her migranes and she doesn't like to get smashed on heavy liquor and try to drive. Usually you just get a keg of the big three....bud, coors, miller.
2007-07-28 02:15:21 · answer #2 · answered by pspoptart 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think liquor is neccessary. Opposite from you, I think that wine/champagne and beer go better with a wedding. Beer is such a social drink now that does not neccessarily have to be served at just sporting events. I agree with another commenter... serve beer in nice glasses and having it on tap is a nice way to serve the beer. Liquor is most expensive and from the weddings I've been to, most people were either drinking beer or wine. If you do serve liquor have maybe 3 specialty drinks that will be made so that you don't have to buy a lot of liquor.
2007-07-27 16:04:42 · answer #3 · answered by J J 2 · 1⤊ 3⤋
I've never been to a reception that did not offer beer. A lot of people don't like wine or mixed drinks. They don't serve the beer in cans, either in a glass from a tap or in bottles. Nothing wrong with that! Go ahead and keep the inlaws happy and have some beer.
2007-07-27 16:02:23 · answer #4 · answered by Darlene mouse 4 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Is this really about concern for the preferences of the guests or the personal preference of your future in-laws? If its the former, then I wouldn't worry about it; if its the latter, then maybe I'd reconsider.
I'm not quite sure why the in-laws are involved in planning the reception at all. Are they helping to pay for it? If so, then some input from them is to be expected. Traditionally the bride's family pays for, and completely plans, the wedding reception. And often the groom's family plans and pays for the rehearsal dinner.
Also can't help but wonder whether this is just a difference of opinion or a brewing control issue. Only you know that. But if a control issue, then this might be as good a time as any to draw your line in the sand.
Good luck to you both.
2007-07-27 15:45:10 · answer #5 · answered by Tom K 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I don't see the issue with having beer. If you are trying to please your guests then I would suggest offering the beer, too. If you don't care about pleasing your guests then don't have beer... you're paying for it, not them.
Maybe you could have a cash bar where just the champagne/wine for the toast is in free and the rest the guests have to pay for. The last wedding I went to the beer and wine was free but everything else wasn't. Caterers can make up any type of menu you want, all you have to do is just ask!
2007-07-28 00:20:32 · answer #6 · answered by ravens_angel78 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
First of all, it's not worth arguing with anyone over!
Second, with the exception of a completely dry wedding, I have never EVER been to a wedding reception in my life that didn't serve beer - and that includes a wedding at a vineyard! Most people will take advantage of a glass of wine, or possibly a spirit drink, but most people would be happy to just have a beer.
Seriously, at the end of the day, make your fmil happy and serve the beer. No one's going to think any less of your wedding because of it.
2007-07-27 15:55:22 · answer #7 · answered by sylvia 6 · 1⤊ 3⤋
It is your choice, but I don't think beer is 'cheap'. Beer has been made for thousands of years. Today there are many great microbrews that provide excellent variety beyond Miller Lite. Give me a nice brown ale over wine with my steak anyday.
You do have the image of the slob beer drinker. But the same can be said for Maddog wino and the cheap whiskey drinkers. Not to mention that it is harder for a person to power drink beer than liquor.
But it is your special day. Do what makes you happy.
2007-07-27 15:41:13 · answer #8 · answered by Phil 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Let them pay for all the beer. Then encourage everyone to drink it. Do not uncork all the wine at once. Personally, I had some wine and some champagn for the toast only then I just served soft drinks. I do not think that hard liquor or beer is necessary, but it is your call. My father in law bought the champagn and we bought a bottle of white and a bottle of red for each table of 6 people and passed the water and had soft drinks galore. I do not see it my job for people to get drunk on me. So. that is my opinion and what I did. You just do what makes you feel comfy!
2007-07-27 15:32:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 3⤋
I would serve beer. If you are having the other three... why not? But, ONly bottles or Only draft in nice glasses. You dont have to serve it in cans. I went to two weddings that were very formal and they both served beer. I drank beer at their weddings. There are some people (guys) that prefer to drink beer becuase on Liquor they are too mean or out of control, whatever. Id rather have bottles of beer in the trash then people trashed and acting silly.
2007-07-27 15:29:38 · answer #10 · answered by maedaze810 3 · 3⤊ 3⤋
I don't like beer personally but I don't see what's wrong with having it at a wedding reception. Honestly, if people are going to be getting a bit tipsy, does it really matter what they're getting tipsy on? If you're worried about people getting drunk, they'll get more drunk off the hard liquor than on the beer.
If you really, really don't want it there, then don't serve it. However, if your inlaws are paying for the alcohol, you should probably listen to their opinions...
2007-07-27 15:53:39 · answer #11 · answered by tink 6 · 1⤊ 3⤋