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One of my groomsmens has informed me that due to unpredictable issues related to his job he may or may not be able to attend the rehersal. Thus, he said that he understands if his role is changed to that of friend of the family.

Now, I know that historically all particapants in the wedding are expected to show, but if he has to work I understand. Is it important that he absolutely has to be at the rehersal? At the end of the day, he probably can just follow the other groomsmen and do what they are doing. On the other hand, I also don't want this to cause problems in the ceremony.

2007-07-27 07:35:05 · 21 answers · asked by George C 2 in Family & Relationships Weddings

21 answers

If you don't want it to cause problems, I would ask your fiancee... having just got married, I realized that making sure my wife-to-be was not stressed was my biggest respeonsibility. If she thinks he can handle it without the reheasal, then don't change anything... if she is going to be stressed knowing that he won't have been there, then make a change. It sounds like your friend will understand either way, so make sure your fiancee has a say.... In terms of actually handling it, the groomsmen don't actually fo much, so I am sure it will be fine, as long as everyone is ok with it.

Trust me on this... you want your finacee happy on that day!!!

2007-07-27 07:40:08 · answer #1 · answered by Lafiite 2 · 3 3

No, it is not mandatory . . but the ceremony may flow a little smoother because he is familiar with it.

I have had rehearsals where only the Bride and Groom could attend, and I have had rehearsals where fifty people showed up (and most of them weren't in the wedding party).

A rehearsal is just that . . the opportunity for everyone in the wedding party to become familiar with the processional . . the ceremony elements and the words . . and the recessional. If this person has ever been to a wedding before I'm sure he'll catch on very quickly.

The only thing mandatory at a wedding is a valid marriage license . . a bride . . a groom . . and an officiant. The world will not fall apart because this man cannot attend the rehearsal.

Answered by: A Certified wedding specialist / A Professional bridal consultant / A Wedding ceremony officiant

2007-07-27 10:41:43 · answer #2 · answered by Avis B 6 · 1 1

No, it not mandatory for him to attend, especially if he has a valid reason like work. Ask him to get with the other groomsmen early on the day of the wedding and with the bridesmaid he is supposed to walk with so they can let him know what he is supposed to do. Walking down the isle isn't that hard, so he should probably catch on pretty quick.
Let everyone know at the rehersal that particular groomsmen isn't able to attend and that they will be in charge of filling him in on the particulars of his duties. Everything should work out fine.

2007-07-27 08:11:34 · answer #3 · answered by LSU_Tiger23 4 · 2 2

I would just let him stay in. There really isn't much involved for him to do. Just walk down the aisle with the bridesmaid and take his place in line. She will be able to guide him a little and you can give him a quick run down of everything that morning.

Really the rehersal is more for the people who have complicated parts like the parents and the couple.

2007-07-27 19:29:11 · answer #4 · answered by pspoptart 6 · 1 0

No, it is a pretty simple role, actually. I wouldn't let his job requirements cause him to not be able to be in the wedding, especially if he's an important person in your lives. Just appoint one of the other groomsmen to fill him in on what to do before the wedding. He should be able to follow along just fine. Best wishes!

2007-07-27 11:28:11 · answer #5 · answered by LoveWithNoBoundaries 4 · 1 1

well first make sure he is definitely going to be able to make the wedding. if thats not a problem then missing the rehersal shouldnt be a big deal. you can go over with him what he has to do before the wedding. its not like he has a difficult job or anything and the guys always get there before all the girls arrive anyways so there should be plenty of time. I think its great that you understand he has to work and all though. alot of people would be freaking out about it. congrats and good luck

2007-07-27 07:56:38 · answer #6 · answered by Jenn ♥Cadence Jade's mum♥ 7 · 3 2

Ask him to be there if it's at all possible.

Groomsmen and bridesmaids are supposed to there to help. And attending the rehearsal is part of their responsibilities. In general terms both groomsmen and bridesmaids are a total and absolute waste of space.

2007-07-28 08:55:00 · answer #7 · answered by Feinschmecker 6 · 0 1

I think mandatory is a slight overstatement. I know that I would WANT him to be there, but we all understand that stuff happens.

You might ask one of the other groomsmen to catch him before the ceremony starts, just to go over the general plan. As long as he's not the best man, it will probably only take 10 - 15 minutes for him to understand what he is supposed to do during the ceremony & reception.

2007-07-27 07:40:23 · answer #8 · answered by abfabmom1 7 · 3 3

Ideally, all attendants should attend the rehearsal. However, if the wedding is fairly traditional (or even if it isn't) he can probably just discuss what he needs to do with the other groomsmen before the wedding. As long as you are okay with him missing the rehearsal (and any events you have planned for afterwards) it shouldn't be a problem.

2007-07-27 07:37:20 · answer #9 · answered by anon 2 · 4 3

Probably not. If he has been to wedding before, I am sure he knows what to do. It is not like he has lines he has to say just perfect, he just needs to escort a bridesmaid up the isle or just stand there, depending on how you want it. Someone can explain to him what he needs to do and he will be just fine.

I don't see that it will be a huge problem. He is not missing the wedding and that is the important part.

2007-07-27 10:28:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1 1

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