ok her maid of honor is not doing her job...there are 5 bridesmaids. 4 of us missed the bridal shower...i know the MOH didnt tell me about it until 2 days before. she is getting married in 2 weeks and i have not herd anything about the bachorlorette party, all i new was the MOH wanted to do somthing on a sunday, well we have 2 sundays left until the wedding and i cant pull money from a tree so i kinda think we should know whats going on by now! right? so should i tell the bride whats going on and that im going to plan a back up party...the bride was really upset that most of the bridesmaids didnt show and i dont blam her, so i want her party to be great and the MOH isnt telling us anything
2007-07-27 07:19:03 · 14 answers · asked by lovely 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
i called the MOH yesterday and she still has not called me back
2007-07-27 07:23:20 · update #1
This sounds like what I just went thru. One of my best friends just married my brother. She has a younger sister, so the sister was the MOH...but yet I did ALL the work and paid for everything with no help from any of the bridesmaids. (the worst weddingparty ever!) Anyways....I was stressed out the whole time trying to help the bride plan the wedding and going behind her back to plan the bridal shower and b-party. I wish I would have said something to her about her bridesmaids esp. the MOH. I think that it will make you feel better. Just remember that she is prolly stressed out too, so be gentle and try not to step on any fingers or toes. I would ask the bride if she wants you to plan one. I planned one night and the MOH planned another..we did a friday night saturday night thing...and let me tell ya...Saturday night was a whole lot better! ;)
*good luck! I strongly advise saying something to her...I know how this feels
2007-07-27 07:28:11 · answer #1 · answered by betney109 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely you guys should step up and plan something for her. Unfortunately some brides feel like they have to coose a MOH because they're family or something like that, and they wind up being flakes, while in the mean time the poor bride is left hanging with no parties, etc. and a crappy wedding experience because her MOH dropped the ball.
If I were you, I would take the bull by the horns, and not even bother telling the MOH, until you invite her to the party that YOU ALL planned. If she complains, explain to her why you did it, straight up. Tell her you care too much about the bride to sit by and let her MOH dawdle away precious time.
I would tel the bride what you're planning, but maybe not go into quite as much detail, maybe after the wedding you can. Weddings are stressful enough that you may upset her by telling her.
2007-07-27 07:31:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
At this point, the bride is probably already super-stressed! Why don't you call the other bridesmaids instead and see if you can band together. You can plan a lingerie party (or some other kind of hybrid between a shower and a bachelorette party). Then, if the MOH does have something planned, you won't be stealing her thunder. If she doesnt, the bride still gets to enjoy your thoughtfulness. Just remember to be the bigger person and invite the MOH to anything you plan. Making an enemy of her wont help your situation or the bride at all.
2007-07-27 07:27:37 · answer #3 · answered by corinne1029 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Didn't you and the rest of the bridesmaids wonder when the bridal shower was going to be? You say that she told you about it 2 days before the shower...when did you think that it was going to be? If you hadn't heard of one being planned, why didn't you ask the bride if you could throw her a shower? Don't tell the bride anything. Talk to the other bridesmaids, organize a bachelorette party, and let the MOH know when it is. End of story.
2007-07-27 08:34:15 · answer #4 · answered by drruth 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Keep trying to get in touch with the MOH and tell her she needs to keep the bridesmaids informed ahead of time in order for plans to be made.
If the bride says anything about the bridesmaids attending or not, let her know why. She shouldn't have the added stress of BM's and MOH not communicating with one another.
Keep calling MOH till she either returns the call or keeps you all informed of activities.
2007-07-27 08:08:40 · answer #5 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd call the bride and tell her that you think the MOH is really busy cause you can't get in touch with her. Say you're not trying to undermine her but you want to make sure the bride has an awesome bachlorette party so you'd like to have something planned. Then just ask her if there is anything in particular that she'd love to do, or has the MOH mentioned anything to her?
The way I see it, who minds having twice the party!
2007-07-27 07:53:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Call the bride and the MOH and tell both of them you have called the other. This should ge someone hopping. Be truthful and direct, not rude. Just matter of fact. Then if you still get no response, plan something for her yourself, invite everyone, and then see what happens. Brew some coffee, break out some old records, open up some nuts and oreos and play poker. The world is full of fun alternatives and stupid people. You gotta roll with the punches!
2007-07-27 08:07:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, talk to the bride, and get the other bridesmaids on the same page. This would be very nice of you to plan a party being that the MOH is falling on her face.
2007-07-27 08:26:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would seriously ask the MOH what the hell is going on...and if she can't clue you in, go to the bride.....Thats not right on the MOH to leave everyone else out. I see it as she wants the bride all to herself!
2007-07-27 07:27:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My sister-in-law had a MOH like that.... just take over the batchlorett party yourself.... The bride doesn't need anymore stress. As far as the money thing you can make it cheap take her to dinner and rent romantic movies.
2007-07-27 07:44:21 · answer #10 · answered by mhireangel 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋