He split with me, from a perfectly wonderful relationship of 2 years, a month ago. This is the second longest relationship he has been in that I know. Said he loves me but needs time to sort out things in his head. We talk now and again, email every week or so. When it is time that I can ask him if we can do something together. We both love to fish. I miss him so very much. Trying to leave everything in his court. I am so confused.
2007-07-27 07:03:01 · 6 answers · asked by Steph 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Let me add that he has no intentions of seeing other people. Trust me. Everyone always throws the "he wants to see other people". He is not that kind of person. Otherwise I would not be wasting my time.
2007-07-27 07:13:14 · update #1
I am 41. And there is no..keeping me as a booty call. Sex is not the basis for this relationship. His sex drive is far lower than mine.
2007-07-27 07:14:23 · update #2
I have not been the one initiating contact. He has. He even called to ask some silly questions a few days ago. I do respond to his calls and his emails, but not always right away. I am trying to be distant. I don't tell him what is going on in my life, and I don't ask about his.
2007-07-27 07:16:13 · update #3
Use reverse tactics. Find something else to do. Don't be mean just become unconcerned and distant. You are too needy and clingy, you have given him the control. Don't call after him, don't look for him. It may be very hard to do, but if you do it right, he will soon come around to find out why you are not the insecure one anymore and he will become the insecure one and you will gain the control. Try it, it works really well.
2007-07-27 07:14:07 · answer #1 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quite simply....
It was left in his court and he dribbled the ball for a while than got bored with the game.
There are some men that perpetually believe that the grass is always greener on the other side no matter how "wonderful" a relationshp is
If he wanted to pursue this, he would have
Stop wasting your energy where it is not appreciated.
Find a man who is old enough mentally to handle a grown up concept like commitment.
2007-07-27 07:10:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay; the guy has commitment issues; he still wants to be "friends;" he says he loves you, but needs time to sort things out in his head. Hmmmm . . . Steph, let me ask you; what do you want? It's obvious you want this man, but does he really want you the same way you want him? He wants you as a friend and he loves you, but is that enough for you? It seems to me that you want so much more than this man can give you (and that is okay) at this point in his life. You were with him for two years; he should have an idea of what you want with him. Ask yourself this question: I am I willing to wait until he is ready/or wants to have a committed relationship with me and how long am I willing to wait? Otherwise, you could remain this guy's friend, knowing that he loves you, etc. "until the cows come home" and he'll continue to live his life as he wants to, sorting things out in his head and having you in his life as a friend. If it makes you feel better, give yourself a time limit on how long you are going to give this guy his time to "sort stuff out in his head." When the time is up, decide on whether you should move on or if he is worth waiting for.
2007-07-27 08:35:36 · answer #3 · answered by Kizmetkitty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said it yourself honey, he has commitment issues. Why do you want to stay with him? Love only works if it's returned. He's not returning it. Do you need to be hit by a truck?? He wants to play the field and keep you as a booty call. Move on.
By the way, how old are you?
2007-07-27 07:07:40 · answer #4 · answered by lanagrl78 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This one could stay single his whole life and not give a flying flute.
2007-07-27 07:07:00 · answer #5 · answered by Solar Ball 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he knows what he doesn't want...and hes not confused
2007-07-27 07:21:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋