What is her motive? Why is she comparing my ring with the ex's ring?? I really like my ring and it's probably worth more than the ex's!!!
2007-07-27 07:02:34 · 30 answers · asked by penelope 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
sounds like she is a problem starter. just smile and tell her you are not into tacky huge jewelry. :P
2007-07-27 07:08:22 · answer #1 · answered by Christina V 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Wow, she sounds a little vindictive and nasty. I would just try and do my best to let her know that her little comment didnt get to you. Obviously it did, but letting her know it did, gives her the satisfaction she is after.
The most important thing is, while that girl may have got a bigger diamond, she is his ex. So the big diamond didnt help their relationship. You love your man and you love your ring. Dont let the horrid old bat taint your love of your ring or your man.
For all you know, the ex might have had a bigger diamond but it could of had flaws. He might of learnt more about diamonds since then. Yours may be smaller and better quality. Big doesnt always mean more expensive or better. You are probably right in saying that yours is probably worth more.
It sounds like this woman is going to take pleasure in comparing you to the ex. Just try not to let her get to you.
Good luck with it.
2007-07-27 16:36:55 · answer #2 · answered by bluegirl6 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on your situation, hon. Are there problems with her? Does she not approve of you for some reason? Is she generally a catty person? Or just a scatterbrain that might have let it slip? Does she still talk to/like the ex? It can be many, many things - but all of them in poor taste. I'm glad you like your ring - but bear in mind, it doesn't matter what it's worth, there shouldn't be any comparisons - it matters what it's worth to you. Not dollar-wise/size related either. But what it symbolizes.
2007-07-27 15:30:03 · answer #3 · answered by Starry Eyes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because she wants to cause trouble.
Do you two get along as far as you know?
Do you know the details of the ex and why she is an ex and how his parents felt about her?
I would ignore her. You love your ring, so Bleh on what the ex had as an engagement ring!
Congrats!
2007-07-27 15:11:41 · answer #4 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's probably just concerned that you didn't get such a big ring. Its a reflection on your fiance, not you...perhaps she is upset with him for not buying you a big rock, too. Lots of women are so silly when it comes to carat size, for whatever reason.
Don't worry about it too much. If you like your ring that's all that matters. Just shrug it off. Your mother in law will probably say lots of things you don't like or understand...just don't let it bother you :)
2007-07-27 14:09:48 · answer #5 · answered by elsie 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Because she is a twit and has control issues with her son. If she tells you this again, just put your hand on her shoulder and tell her "You know, it is ok that the former had a bigger diamond! She didn't really know what real love was....my diamond is what I want it to be and so is he, so the size of the past is of no issue, and I am glad glad for that! Thank you for raising me such a beautiful husband!" It should shut her up. And, to me, this is how you must feel anyway, so it is the truth. Get past it and enjoy him!
2007-07-27 14:24:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
could be one of two things, either she liked the ex more, or she's worried you'll be the new "ex". Obviously she has her son's best interest in mind so either way she's concerned you two won't work out either, and she's testing you, will you stay do you care how big the ring is, etc. She's making sure you're in it for the long haul, for the Right, reasons
2007-07-27 14:09:00 · answer #7 · answered by S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because your future mother-in-law liked his ex more than she likes you. She's trying to start trouble, thinking that you'll be jealous, and ask him for a bigger ring, then she can tell him that you're immature and a money-grubber, and you'll break up.
Maybe next time, tell her in response that the ex may have had the bigger rock, but YOU got the guy, and that's more important.
2007-07-27 14:07:51 · answer #8 · answered by Frinn 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he was in better shape financially at the time. Maybe she bought it herself. Who knows, if you are happy with the ring he gave you, who cares about the rest. He worked his *** of to buy you that one and you love him for it. That is all that matters. After all he is marrying you not his Ex Fiance.
2007-07-27 14:08:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
oh there is a jelly mother in law in you guys marriage maybe she like her son ex don't worry she not the one u r getting married to.congrat.i Hope it work out between u 2
2007-07-27 15:29:40 · answer #10 · answered by mammie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She was trying to get you riled up for some reason or another. JUst ignore the comment and enjoy your husband and your engagement. Try and forget about the exes- that can only lead to jealousy.
2007-07-27 14:10:48 · answer #11 · answered by Hannahs Mum-one on the way 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋