Everyone says that I'm gorgeous & beautiful & I have a lot of guys looking my way, but rarely do they actually come up to talk to me. Why is this? Oh, and why when I actually talk to them after they've been looking at me, they act offish & talk very little? It makes me feel as if I could never have a boyfriend. Some get warmer once I talk to them longer, but most don't. Its the strangest thing... could it be out of shyness?
2007-07-27 06:57:58 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't think guys are so shy at all. Quite the opposite. I know you have heard this silly saying before but blame the game, not the player. The way the game is set up, the man is the one who must make the first move, put himself out there, and get rejected 80% of the time and that includes the good players. Where am I going with this? You might be so attractive that no one really thinks they have a shot. These men might be just be in shock and awe of your very being that they are left with gaping mouth, no words. Seriously, some people are easier to approach. So what are you left to do? Subtle signs that you make can put others more at ease. Good luck.
2007-07-27 07:07:50 · answer #1 · answered by Rckets 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey there!! Well I can totally relate to this. I used to feel the same way. People would always tell me I was pretty and beautiful and I have a great body and all that stuff, but it was kinda rare that a guy showed feelings or interest in me. I must say that it really got me down. I felt as if I was missing something and did I have a problem that no one was telling me about? Guys would always stare at me and wink and turn heads but always approach my friends first. Also did you ever notice the guys that arent as attractive have more confidence to come up and talk and they actually have BETTER conversation.
Well I dont have a great asnwer for you except for I am just going to have to say you intimidate these guys. They are scared of regection. After I was married I went to a high school reunion of five years (Not that long ago) and well over three guys that I can remember told me that they had the biggest crushes on me and such flattering things. It took them a while to grow up and gain confidence. Too bad i had married. But dont worry about it! It's not you!!! They will come around when they mature. Remember guys mature much slower than women! Good Luck sweetie and you will find someone soon. The RIGHT guy that is waiting for you!
2007-07-27 14:06:50 · answer #2 · answered by A little Southern Comfort 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shyness, yes. Guys fear rejection. Its one of the biggest fears. Theres a lot that goes with a rejection--being "unworthy". He has to lay his ego on the line, and the girl can totally crush him. She could laugh in his face in front of all of his and her friends. Yes, guys fear rejection big time. Its even a bigger fear when a girl is exceptionally pretty, because he will get filled with doubts that he is not exactly worthy of such a fine girl--that she would only be interested in...wealthy doctors, handsome actors, etc, but not some aspiring student like himself.
2007-07-27 14:03:35 · answer #3 · answered by jxt299 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is because they are afraid you won't accept them. If you like a guy that might be shy, hang out with him a lot and hopefully he will have the guts to ask you out. If he doesn't talk that much, then you start the conversation every time. I hope this helps.
2007-07-27 14:09:01 · answer #4 · answered by Matt Ryan: Future NFL HOF 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that men sometimes like us - woman, need time to learn somebody better and then they are opened. But perhaps, they are fall in love with you so much and thay can't say nothing? Be patient and if you like so much one of this man ,try give him more time in this conversation and believe me in the end he'll kill his shyness :)
2007-07-27 14:16:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
umm do u have a friend with u when talking
do u or ur friends giggle when talking to them
all these could be reasons the guys r shy
or they just don't like u or feel ur to good for them
good luck
GB
2007-07-27 14:31:27 · answer #6 · answered by Wind Driven Wanderer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually, we think that a gorgeous woman would already have a boyfriend so we hesitate to even go up to them.
2007-07-27 14:05:55 · answer #7 · answered by Gunner For Life! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
shyness and they're probably just afraid of approaching you because your gorgeous
ive had this one girl call me gorgeous before and im a guy lol and shes like i know some girls who think your gorgeous and im like oh. i have never had a gf and im 24. go figure.
2007-07-27 14:00:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There are plenty of guys that won't be fazed by how attractive you are. The trick is finding the guy who is confident, but not a jerk.
Just wait.
2007-07-27 14:00:44 · answer #9 · answered by Peter N 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yup. if your really hot then some guys dont know what to say and they think that if they do say somthing you are going to reject them.
2007-07-27 14:02:51 · answer #10 · answered by Mantacore 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋