I had a friend whos daughter stayed at my house for 1½ month on vacation. This "child" is a few months short of her 18th birthday. My youngest daughter is 14, a few months short of her 15th birthday. Well, come to find out the oldest was "doing things" to my daughter that I do not care to mention but you can imagine. When I asked a social worker how to go about this situation and what is the procedure, she said: "That is child-on-child assault and we are not interested in that, we only investigate adult-on child molestation, if you report it then DSS will find you (ME??!!?) in neglect and we can sue you for custody of the child." Mind you, I was at WORK while this was happening!!! How am I neglectful for leaving a 14 year old and an 18 year old alone in a house because I have to work??? Then I mentioned that maybe I should go to the police, she said that the police will only report it back to DSS and it will be the same procedure. Anyone can help with this?? Thank you!!!
2007-07-27 06:21:24 · 5 answers · asked by ~*~Sunny~*~ 3 in Politics & Government ➔ Law Enforcement & Police
In my own state sexual contact by a person over 18 with a person under 16 is an offense.
Being uncertain of your state makes it a bit more difficult to answer, however, most states fall in line with the same limits.
I suspect the social worker was being a bit out of line (in my opinion) and I cannot see you, who at the time of the incident was at work, being held responsible.
You can always contact a local attorney who SHOULD provide you guidance/initial counselling free of charge.
Best wishes.
2007-07-27 06:28:13 · answer #1 · answered by KC V ™ 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
have you asked your daughter how she feels about the situation?
even with a child-on-child assault there should still be an investigation.
you could not be held responsible for what happened. this social worker has no clue what the hell she's talking about.
pursue this further IF that is what your daughter wants to do.
when a 13 yr old boy asked my 9 yr old daughter to have sex (thank God nothing happened) i reported it and there was a full investigation. the boy was supposed to go to counseling and the mother ended up moving to another state so he wouldn't have to. worthless *****!
sorry just me venting.
anyway the point is that if you feel there should be something more done then go with that feeling.
unfortunately (if you decide to pursue this) there's not really anything that can be done. she was underage when she violated your daughter and can't be charged as an adult.
get your daughter counseling. i think that would be the best thing. then she can talk to a neutral party and be more open to healing. you should see someone as well to help you through the hard time i'm sure you must be going through as well.
whatever you and your daughter decide to do i wish you the best.
2007-07-27 06:38:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
if it was consensual i don't see how it can be a crime. morally you may be against it,but i don't see how any laws were broken. DSS is a very strange bunch,it is best to leave them out of your life
2007-07-27 06:36:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think kids will be kids
if you haven't over reacted and traumatized her yourself, I'd be surprised.
I'm sure she knows your feelings by now, so you should let it go.
2007-07-27 06:39:06 · answer #4 · answered by Deidre K 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think thats called sexual misconduct with a minor call your local police instead they will know what to tell you
2007-07-27 06:26:13 · answer #5 · answered by chrysti's midlife crisis 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋