I can't believe it when my 8-year-old 2nd daughter said that she don't know the production of 8 and 7. I think that an 8-year-old child has to "master" the multiplication table. She is bad at literature, too. And she is too lazy, I think because she doesn't want to do what she's not good at. Is she... ok? Her sister is much more clever than her. Or my standard in my children is too high?
2007-07-27 05:52:23 · 17 answers · asked by Phuong Linh B 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
And I'm sure you're helping her a ton since your grammar is horrendous. But that aside, every child is different and learns at a different pace. She may just need a little help that's all. Try talking to her teachers at school. They are usually very helpful and are more than happy to help you and your child.
Calling her "not clever" and comparing her to her sibling will do nothing for her self-esteem.
2007-07-27 05:57:49 · answer #1 · answered by rebecca d 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
When you say your daughter doesn't know the "production" of 8 and 7 I assume you are referring to the product of 8 times 7. If you asked your daughter this question wording it similarly to what you worded it here, I'm not surprised she couldn't answer. I'm considerably older than 8 and had to guess what you were asking.
I realize you may not be a native English speaker so cut you some slack there. However, I think it is important that you improve your English so your poor daughter doesn't have to try to interpret what you are saying since it is quite a bit different than what she is being taught in school.
And, yes, I agree with you that it is important that children learn the multiplication tables up to the twelves. This will come in handy for them throughout their school years and during their entire life.
You say your daughter is not good at "literature, too" because she is lazy. You assume it's because she's not good at it.
Have you ever considered that your daughter may have just given up since you likely keep comparing her to her sister who probably does better in school than her. Or, perhaps she is just reacting through passive-resistance to being unfavorably compared to her sister.
It's difficult to judge on the skimpy information presented in your question, but I think the solution to your daughter's poor academic performance may start with you changing your attitude and how you speak to and treat your daughter. Perhaps a little praise for those things she does well might inspire her to excel in other areas as well. Think about it.
2007-07-27 13:11:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
No one wants to do what they're "not good at." That's a given.
But the other posters are right. You do need to stop comparing her to her older sister. It's not a helpful situation.
You need to talk to your child's teachers, once school starts again, and find out what their assessment of how your child is doing.
In the meantime, you can help her learn her multiplication tables by making a game out of it. If, for example, she wants some money, have her figure out what multiplication formulas would work (i.e., $5.60 is 8 dimes doled out 7 times).
Also, find out what her particular strengths are, and play to those. Is she gifted musically? Is she athletic? Is she good with her hands and can fix anything? Find those strengths and use them to help her along with those areas where she's not so strong.
2007-07-27 14:11:41 · answer #3 · answered by KatJones37 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you need to stop pressuring you daughter my niece is also eight years old and she knows some of her multiplication tables but not all of them you have to remember that math is difficult give her a break and never let her know that you dont thing she is clever be supportive and try to make a game with the times tables like jump rope 8 time 1 is and so on while she jumps rope and when she messes up have her start over again or something like that thats what my 3 grade teacher did in my school it was fun but do not pressure her she will just grow to hate math and it couse her great difficulty in the future good luck i hope i helped
2007-07-27 13:01:08 · answer #4 · answered by mother to Eva Nicole 4/25/08 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Do not compare your daughter with one another in front of each other. It may be that she already knows you think her sister is smarter than her so she has just given up. I have three children and all 3 of them have things they are good at that the other is not. Maybe you need to praise your daughter on the things that she is good at and when she makes a good grade for something that she is not good at praise her for that to. Have you set down and practiced with her. Practice makes perfect. The more she does the things she is not good at the better she will become.
2007-07-27 13:20:35 · answer #5 · answered by Cristy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Almost EVERYONE is going to have a clever kid, and then a kid who needs extra help--most teachers have that.
9 year olds have to master the multiplication, but 8 year olds have to start learning them. They have levels, they need to pass it before 5mins, they get two tries. If they dont suceed, I dont know but I passed them :)
I would tooter her at home and do a little extra practice.
Literature? give her something called Speech in her school, they help with pronouncing words.
PS: Dont compare her with her sister it will only make her too sad for school and too much pressure.
2007-07-27 13:10:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
The girl's only 8 years old, and doing the 8 multiplication facts are hard enough for her. Don't get down on her because then she'll feel like you think she's stupid and that's an awful feeling. Take your time with her she'll get it soon enough.
2007-07-27 13:43:54 · answer #7 · answered by luvsthepink 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Multiplication is not till fourth grade, you are pushing to hard just give her time and she will learn this. Children have very bad grammar at this age you really have nothing to worry about. At seven they are just barely learning to read. The school will help her get caught up.
2007-07-27 18:41:44 · answer #8 · answered by trhwsh 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop comparing your children. Your younger daughter is NOT her sister, nor is she her sister's clone. She is an individual and should be treated as such. Obviously she doesn't want to do anything because YOU keep comparing her to her sister and she feels that she will never be able to live up to a sibling that her parent's obviously love more than her.
2007-07-28 05:02:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
first of all you should never compare your daughter to her sister. and you may think she is lazy but she probly isnt... Your child may have a problem and need special classes and you thinks no she is just lazy. most kids get frustrated because they can't grasp somthing so they give up. you need to talk to her teaches see if she is doing poorly there. And give her one on one time with just you and her. Read to her ask her questions. you need to spark her intrest in reading and math but don't get mad because she doesnt understand it. Take you time and be paitent she is only eight give her time and never say well your sister can blah blah blah... Well i wish you the best of luck. And let me say if she never gets it and is slow you are still going to love her anyways. right
2007-07-27 13:01:20 · answer #10 · answered by jlovemealways21 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋