For my brothers & sisters in Jehovah.?

Question

I'm giving a Baby Shower for my neice. I want to use the punch bowl I gave to my mom-in-law 20 yrs ago.Before she fell asleep in death, she gave it back to me. She & I left it where she had kept it over the yrs.(1-I was staying @ her house 2-it was of Little importance, as she was losing her fight for life).
I went yesterday to get it, my bro-in-law (lives in her home-his home now) let other family members use it 10 wks., ago for a graduation party. The sis-in-law gave me the bowl & not the cups. I Know if u borrow something from some1, that is who u return it to. She & I Knew Mark(b-i-l) told me, that's how I knew they had it.She said no, the cups are delicate. & It's Mark's. After I told her it's I bought it for her,& She gave it back 2 me,
I want to know how do I handle this. She implied we (the neice, my mom-in-laws Only dghtr, 2 sons & myself) wouldn't take Care of it. I told her I don't want the set split up. Also, her argument of "it's Mark's" Does Not Hold water; see details

bc she Already gave me the bowl.So saying it belongs to some1 else & that's who has to get it, is invalid. I am So HOT-Mad that she has the gall to imply such a thing. That I wouldn't take care of it. That she didn't give me the cups. It's my bowl! & cups! The shower is tomorrow, she's leaving 4 Conn., tomorrow, if I don't get them today, I won't have them 4 the shower.Then I'll be Angry!!! & I want to tell her off, in a not Christian manner.I've been calling Mark to go get the cups, but haven't got ahold of Mark yet.Time is running out. And I Am So MAD-HOT-and getting angrier by the minute.If I don't get the cups, I will be real ugly!! 2 her. This won't please Jehovah. But, I have No Use For Her in my Life!!! My hsbnd., who is not in the truth, has already 'started' in on her.
B-t-w I married into the family more then 20 yrs ago, she less then 10. I have a Much Longer history w/ my hsbnd's family. They know me to not be a liar---
I said she gave it back 2 me.Plz help me, 2 plz Jah.

thk u Adam's Rib.
For the jerks, its my punch bowl.
The neice, is my mom-in-laws
"closest & most beloved grand-dghtr.," She wants the set 2 use, as well.

KimD, we also go to Weddings, Graduations & B-B-Q's....
it's wholesome gatherings to look to attend. Tkx.

Oh Yeah, & we will be saying prayers.

thk u sis's,I am not mad @ any of u or what was said,I asked.I need/ed my sister's, I really do.Today as I was steamin' I started thinkin' of what is really important; following what I am being taught."put wrath behind me," & so I carried on;I'm gonna leave the Q up, to wait 4 a mature Christian brother. And more answers.My husband is not going to let the bowl go.That is his word.And I have to step aside & let him do what he's gonna do.As more than 1 said, it is his siblings.He said as much.I live by my emotions.I feel so many emotions,passionately; in this.I prayed w/ my grd-dghtr tonite, read to her from her Bible.I'm gonna wrap all this up, here @ my house.& Go be with Jehovah, b4 I go to sleep.
Thk u sisters.

trublue, thk u, this reaches into my heart...me.I am not offened, I need support. I need to hear Jehovah's word, thru his ppl. I need His support. I want to plz Him, to worship Him in the way he says to. i'm happy I had calmed down, b4 it got to late. I read to my grd-dghtr tonite; I read the story of the copper snake, in the wilderness. Jesus, is whom I need to keep my eyes on. Not, the serpents on the ground. As He bends & shapes me, I feel the burden of the weight, I remind myself, the yoke is light. I love and thk all of my sisters for their time & patience. I need to get to bed; so, I'm out for tonite.
Agape, Bambi.

just a tid bit,When my hsbnd & I spoke about it; I told him I was willing to let his bro keep it @ the house, if he really wanted to keep it "@ the house"-mom's house. That kinda surprised-bewildered him, but, he said its a done deal. I did what I did, he won't give it up. So we'll see what happens, in a couple wks.

We had the shower, it was nice. She got some things she needed, she had made a list. My mom-in-laws, across the st., friend, loaned us a bowl w/ cups. The punch was deeeelicious.

Answer 1

My sister......please don't be so angry. I know sometimes some people can really get to us. I understand the sentimental value of this to you, I really do. But remember we as Jehovah's people cannot let our anger burn in this way. There are things to come that are of so much more importance.....we must be ready to keep our anger under control at that time. If we cannot do it now, then how can we when that more important time comes. When I start to feel this way (like thinking about the people responsible for my daughters death 3 months ago) I pray for help to deal with the anger. I then look at the hardest times as blessings to make me stronger. Maybe it sounds stupid, but think about what has been being studied in our bookstudy, you know how close we are. Look at this as something to make you stronger...Remember Lot's wife (it's what she longed for that was important to her, she should have been more concerned with her life and her family). It's not worth you being so angry. If I offended you I'm sorry.

Answer 2

I would have your husband who is the actual blood relative handle it. It was his mothers, you bought it for her and she gave it back to you before her death. Let him explain how you really wanted to use it for your nieces baby shower. As you are the only one who actually spend money on it, you would be the one to take the most care of it, because it has more sentimental value and monetary value to you.

If your sister in law doesn't budge, it's best to just drop it. It's not worth having ill feelings toward each other.

I had a similar thing happen. My Mom died when I was 9 and there was little left of hers. My step-mom gave most of it away. I didn't have anything at all of hers. A few years back she gave my step-sister a spice rack that had been my Mom's, nothing fancy, but it had been my Mom's. I was upset when I saw it at my step-sisters and told her it had been my Mom's, hoping that she would give it to me. She didn't offer..so I dropped it. Later a friend had a dresser that she had gotten from my Mom over 30 years ago and gave it to me. So now I have something, so I feel better about it.

You want to be the bigger person and always try to keep the peace.

Answer 3

This is one of those touchy human things. I agree with you sister. If this woman isn't a sister in the truth, you're not going to get them. I feel for you. Hard to let it go but love covers a multitude of sins. Some things we just have to let go of. As your time is too short to get into it. I'd let it go till she gets back from CT. (I was raised in Waterbury, CT). Then see if you can get them then. As for the shower, I don't think you'll have them for it. I would by all means ask her why she thinks you and your family would not take care of them. That's a thorn in the side. Be prepared to let them go. It's just stuff. Doesn't let the emotions out of it though.

Answer 4

Mark should be the one to ask for it back. where is your sister in all this. all the people are a little confusing. you may just have to practise long-suffering and love. i hope it all works out.

Answer 5

Sorry, possession is nine tenths of the law. You should have taken it to your house before her death.

Answer 6

For my brothers & sisters & pets & neighbors & acquaintances in stupid rambling.?

The Other Day I went to the Store. I bought a couple new shirts and a Thing of Sports Drink for my Cousins & friends 4 a Party @ their house. I wanted 2 be Nice to them because They're my best pals n I don't want 2 Hurt them. After it was Fun @the Par-T bc We ate lots of H2O-melon and bbQ'd some Ribs 2. The ribs Were darryl's b/c he's cool. When my Greatgrandmother died 4 yrs ago, it was Sad but she Won the fight and Will return to Jehovah. I was sad with the stepbro-in-law 4 her but i think She will b happier now with Him n not here n-e-more w/ us in this realm. She had Heavenly hope, so I hope she was right.
I want 2 know how 2 handle this. I implied we (Steve, step-bro-in-law, neighbor, Joe, Bert & Ernie, my cousin, his friend, Jim Carrey, your mom, myself, & the boogeyman) didn't know how 2 do it. Plus, there's your "Does not make sense" argument; see question


PS: Using the punch bowl of a dead person is superstitious and occultic, and we wouldn't want that, now would we?

Answer 7

What on earth are you talking about? What, exactly, is the question???????????
You need to clarify your question and edit out un-related issues.

Answer 8

Yet another rambling on by a Witless. What does not your precious cultist watchtower tell you what to do in this situation? You act like a 10 year old. Your a damn adult act like it and take what is yours back.

Answer 9

you can host baby showers yet you cannot celebrate a birthday? i find that amusing

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it's still amusing to me...especially with the thumbs down
EXPLAIN why you can go to a baby shower, yet not celebrate a birthday....you can attend weddings but not celebrate anniversaries....