What do you think of these thoughts on Christianity?

Question

These are generalizations that do not apply to all Christians, but do apply to many I come into contact with. They cannot cope with reality, particularly negative aspects, so they believe for comfort. They have a dillusion that they have a relationship with an invincible, silent "God". They justify their incompetence with "God has a plan". They believe that atleast 70% of the world is going to hell. They believe that Muslims are evil. They constantly condemn people. They use the predetermined destiny theory to justify them not taking control of their own lives. I am bitter because my wife is a Christian and we do not agree on anything. Its frustrating for me and it effects my life so I'm looking for some perspective, not critism from Christians. I believe in my heart that these things are true. I'm not trying to bash, but this is what I see every day.

Answer 1

Have you ever considered the possibility that you were the problem?

Answer 2

I'm not going to answer your question directly. However, I'm curious. How long has your wife been a Christian? How long have you two been married?

If she became a Christian AFTER you two got married, I can imagine how hard that must be on you...AND on her.

The thing is, Christians are only human, so we're limited by what humans know now. For me, I don't believe in God because I can't cope with reality. I coped for the first twenty-five years of my life without God, while I had to bury friends and relatives, and while so many terrible things happened to me I thought I couldn't stand it. I actually turned to God at a point in my life where I hadn't had to attend a funeral for a couple years.

I don't believe that 70% of the world is going to hell. The God I know is merciful, and would NEVER send a person to hell without them having earned it. I don't believe that Muslims are evil, I just believe they're wrong.

Look, people will NEVER have all the answers, not to anything. However, there is one person who DOES have all the answers, or at least makes it so that when we can't find the answers, it's okay: Jesus. His teachings are perfect.

I understand perfectly that you and your wife probably BOTH feel like spiritual widows. I am a Christian, while my husband is a non-religious theist. If you have any questions about how your wife feels about things, please feel free to email me. And also...tell her that if she hasn't read "Surviving a Spiritual Mismatch in Marriage" by Lee and Leslie Strobel, perhaps she should. It might do YOU some good to read it too. Lee was in the same situation you're in. He was an atheist when his wife, Leslie, became a Christian.

I hope this helps.

Answer 3

If you're not a believer, why did you marry one? And more to the point, why did she marry you? Christians are cautioned against entering into such relationships for this very reason. But you are right, not all Christians believe these things. I can cope with reality, but reality doesn't do a good job of coping with me. It is not very comfortable for me to believe what I believe, I believe because I believe it's true, and quite often this is not a comfortable thing. I do not believe that my relationship with God is any part of a delusional thing, and in fact, think that those who deny there is a God are the ones who are delusional. I do not consider God to be silent at all, but I do believe His "voice" is not "heard" with physical senses. The only justification for my failures is that I messed up and/or made a mistake, but I do believe that God has a plan, and He's promised that all things, including my mistakes, will work for my good if I will love Him. Atheists have no such benefit from this promise, so your mistakes are your own and may well benefit you nothing but hardship and strife in the end. I have no idea what percent of human population will go to Hell, though I'd estimate it high; I don't concern myself with such things, however. I don't believe that Muslims are evil. I don't condemn people, though I may condemn their actions. Predestination is in relation only to salvation, and not blanket protection for just floating along on the breeze of life. I believe that God calls us to choose a path and to travel that path. Now, I'm not boasting or setting myself above anyone else, just addressing the points that you make. I'm no exemplar of Christian faith, just another human being, seeking truth, doing the best I can with what I know and believe, like anyone else should.

Answer 4

I am so sorry to hear that is how you feel about Christians. The truth is there are a lot of hypocrites out there, it is sad they give Christ a bad rap. I am a Christian and I can see what you are saying. I don't believe Muslims are evil, I don't believe in predestination. I believe we are saved by grace and Christ desires for all to come to know Him. My God is not a silent God, He speaks through His word and having a relationship with him. He is not a religious God but a personal God and cares for every person...after all each person is made by him. Of course He would care about something He created. I don't know about 70% of people going to hell either, no where in the Bible does it give a percentage. I try not to judge others but to focus instead on my relationship with the Lord and keeping myself in line! :-) I am sorry that is what you see in Christians. I am glad deep in your heart you know the truth and I pray you keep seeking and that you will experience the true love of God. Does your wife know you feel this way??? You need to have a long talk with her, I hope things get better between the two of you but even more so I hope you find the love of Jesus.

Answer 5

Reality you say- I think the most real thing in my life, is my relationship with Christ. I do not believe for comfort, even though He gives me comfort. I believe because He is God, and I am not, and He made a way for me to live eternally and free from the bondage of sin- no I am not perfect, so please don't think that because if I said that I would be a liar- however I am a child of God that loves Him, and desires others to come to know Him too- and the only way to come to know Christ is to admit we are a sinner and then God's love and grace can come into our lives. When the true born again believers, talk about needing to "give up your sin" they are not just pointing fingers, we had to do the same thing. Why are you so bitter that your wife is a Christian?

Answer 6

first of all: I PROMISE I WILL NOT CRTICIZE YOU. i may say something you don't like, but no criticism.
second, i cope plenty fine with reality. in reality people still die, in reality there are people that still need me, in reality i have a little sister that looks up to me, in reality i actually have an entire group of younger girls at church that look up to me. in reality, i know i am held respnsible for the way i act because that will influence how other people that watch me turn out. i have a great sense of reality, and because of that i incorportate God and the Bible into my everyday life so i have a firm guideline as to how i am supposed to live. My God is not silent, He may be to you because if you are not a Christian, He won't speak to you. God does have a plan and it even includes you, although you may not realize it. i have no idea how many people are going to hell because i am not to judge who is a Christian. i don't believe muslims are evil, they are people just like i am a person. they just don't do things right all the time, just as i don't do things right all the time. the only predetermined destiny i have is that i have already determined that i am trusting Jesus to take me to heaven. i am sorry that you and your wife are having difficulty in your marriage. this is actually talked about in the Bible because faith or lack thereof is such a big part of a personality. please feel free to email me if you are willing to let me try to help, i would be glad to do anything i can.
DIVORCE IS NOT THE ANSWER!!!!!!!

Answer 7

The bible says that the princes of this world, meaning the rulers of the darkness of this world, spiritual wickedness in high places, would not have crucified the Lord of glory if they had known the mystery hid from before the world, our faith, which stands in the power of God.

They did crucify him and all throughout the church age the princes of this world have been trying to destroy the hope that the faithful have, constantly inventing new ways to push the truth into the corner, out of sight.

Today it's the modern gospel, one of "anything goes," the social gospel, not wanting to offend anyone by pointing out sin and the fact that all come short of the glory of God. It's a gospel that is bought and sold. It's Harry Potter, a sorcerer, who practices abomination being held up as a type of Christ.

This is not the faith once delivered.

Our faith stands. In the power of God.

Answer 8

So, most Christians have no coping skills, are delusional, incompetent, and judgemental? I'd hate to see what you would have written if you WERE bashing.

I could also say that all atheists suffer from a superiority complex, cover up their own ignorance by saying "Darwin said it", are convinced that all religion is evil mind control, and are incapable of tolerating Christianity.

Perspective is a wonderful thing, my friend. Try to see things from the other side once in a while. This will definitely help your relationship with your wife as well.

Answer 9

I am a Christian, so maybe I can help with some of your perceptions. I believe that God leads me to control things in my life. I don't just sit back and wait for God to give me gifts, He wants us to strive for excellence and take initiative. I feel the Holy Spirit in my life is why I have a personal relationship with Jesus. I can feel his presence which is not to say he physically knocks on my door, but does spiritually. God's people should try to reach everyone possible to accept Jesus. We must rely on faith because we don't understand the complexity of the afterlife in heaven and hell. Our human minds can comprehend so much, which is why it is easy to refuse Christianity. But God does comfort us and give us faith to follow his word. I believe in my heart that the world will one day know that Jesus is Lord.

I can see how you have a major conflict with your wife. Some of the characteristics of Christians that you listed can be seen as anyone, such as many cannot cope with reality, justify incompetence, condemn people, and not taking control of their life. Can't that be seen as problems for all people?

Finally, my advice is to try to give in a little and visit your wife's church, if she goes to one. I don't know specifics on what denomination she attends, but that doesn't matter to God. I am a new member at my Church and feel right at home with Christian fellowship. No one pushes me to do anything I don't volunteer for. If you can't try it for God yet, do it for your wife. God bless you.

Answer 10

I can't argue with your experience. Mine has been different.
Maybe it's the Christians I associate with and are my friends.
To me the people that don't see the evil in the world are not coping with reality.
The people that try to read evolution from molecules-to-man out of bacteria mutating a resistance is not dealing with reality.
God commands us to be active agents in this world not passive - if they are passive they cannot claim their religion.
God does have a plan, but he didn't put me here to spend my life waiting. I have gifts (we all do) and he gave them to us for a reason.
Because I believe in God I am active, and thirsting for knowledge.

Answer 11

2 Timothy 4
1 I solemnly urge you in the presence of God and Christ Jesus, who will someday judge the living and the dead when he appears to set up his Kingdom: 2 Preach the word of God. Be prepared, whether the time is favorable or not. Patiently correct, rebuke, and encourage your people with good teaching.

3 For a time is coming when people will no longer listen to sound and wholesome teaching. They will follow their own desires and will look for teachers who will tell them whatever their itching ears want to hear. 4 They will reject the truth and chase after myths.

5 But you should keep a clear mind in every situation. Don’t be afraid of suffering for the Lord. Work at telling others the Good News, and fully carry out the ministry God has given you.