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6 months before we get married so we can go ahead and get it set up or would it not be as special?

2007-07-27 04:26:33 · 14 answers · asked by monkeyfreak_09 2 in Family & Relationships Weddings

it wont be hard leaving cause i still live with my mom so she would help me or make me go home we REFUSE to be another statictic and have sex before marrige so that isone thing that will help us

2007-07-27 04:32:44 · update #1

i have known him for a little over 5 years and have hated for almost 2 we have spent the night with each other before dating and we know alot about each other and are togeather all the time we dont want to move in togeather before we get married

2007-07-27 04:39:56 · update #2

i mean dated eachother

2007-07-27 04:41:26 · update #3

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I'm sure having him begin to set up isn't a problem. It is special, though, to be able to get everything ready together. And when you say, set up, what does that entail?? Is there painting that needs to get done or is it just moving furniture around? Things like painting should be done together ... a marriage is all about teamwork and building your new life together. It would seem that if you send him ahead you just want everything to be ready for you and not deal with it. You should think about waiting until you can do it together.

2007-07-27 06:44:45 · answer #1 · answered by VAWeddingSpecialist 6 · 0 0

Go ahead and move him in. The time right before and after the wedding is very stressful. How are you going to move your hubby within a few days before the wedding, get married and all of a sudden have him there all the time.

I really think you need transition time. Living with someone is a big step. Planning a wedding is stressful. You should lessen your stress by spacing out big events like this.

Plus, I think it's good to get an idea of what your Fi is like before you marry him.

What happens if you find he has some secret live or habit that is just unacceptable. If you find out before the wedding, you will save lots of time, money and heartbreak.

2007-07-27 11:31:34 · answer #2 · answered by Answer Girl 2007 5 · 1 0

You ahve and will ahve a lot going on. The day you get home from the honey moon, the last thing that you are going to want to do is start moving! Go ahead and get as much done as possible now, and enjoy your time together later.

I don't think it will make it any less special, I would assume that you are going to be around there at your house too before the wedding, so go a head and make it feel like y'all's house!

2007-07-27 11:32:13 · answer #3 · answered by Lindsay G 4 · 1 0

Don't move in with him until you're married. I don't think it's a bad idea to have a house ready that you can return to -- as his wife -- after the wedding. In fact, it might be really nice.

I didn't move in with my husband until after the wedding, and it was a wonderful way to begin our marriage. So special and sacred and I loved knowing that he wasn't going anywhere -- finally. But then, I believe marriage and sex are sacred (which makes me an anomaly these days)...

Do what you know is right. Don't worry, question, or fret over people telling you you need to "try it out first." You don't. In fact, people who live together first don't make it as often as people who wait until they get married.

Use your mom to help -- and wait until you two are bonded for life.

2007-07-27 12:52:14 · answer #4 · answered by mj 3 · 0 0

I think you're making too big a deal over the entire situation.

Check the real estate laws in your area concerning buying property as a married couple as opposed to buying property as two separate individuals (a not-married couple). Then make your decision. There are tax/inheritance/dower-courtesy laws etc. that can make a big difference in your buying decision.

And you will find that just because you withheld from sex before marriage - won't make you subject to being just another statistic - whatever that implies.

2007-07-27 11:39:36 · answer #5 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 2 0

Me and my wife lived together for two years before we got married. We learned a lot about eachother and it helped us to build a strong marriage. This is an even better idea if you've only known eachother for a short period of time.

2007-07-27 11:37:23 · answer #6 · answered by Stoic fool 2 · 1 0

You should definetly move in get the house ready because after the wedding you will be tired the last thing you will want to do is open boxes and fix things. Plus you will get to know eachothers habits sooner.

2007-07-27 12:52:57 · answer #7 · answered by Ethan's Mama 5 · 0 0

You could, but think about it first.
I moved into what would be our triplex by myself for a month before the wedding. My husband moved in after we got married. It was a short enough time that I didn't think of it as 'my' place; I would wonder that in six months, he'd set up a bachelor pad!

2007-07-27 16:44:06 · answer #8 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0 0

I think it should almost be required to live with someone before you get married. You really get to know someone inside and out. after a year of living with my fiance I new we would make it. We stuck it out through some really hard times and I know that level of a lifetime commitment is there.

2007-07-27 17:19:40 · answer #9 · answered by dbethanid 4 · 1 0

Get it set up! There is enough craziness going on in the beginning of a marriage. If you can get a place to live nailed down adn feeling comfortable than you have a leg up!

Good luck & Congrats!

2007-07-27 11:30:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2 0

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