atheists! christians! question for eveyone about sex!?

Question

i know not everyone thinks its wrong to have sex but is it wrong to have when youre young? i mean how do you know when its okay?

im 14 btw...

Answer 1

Taking away all religious and cultural beliefs, I think 14 is too young. Sex has all kind of implications and consequences (STD's, pregnancy, emotional impacts) that you need the maturity to deal with the right way. Practicing safe sex is great, and I STRONGLY urge you to use condoms when you start having sex (at whatever age that is), but it doesn't protect you 100% from any of those things.
Really really think carefully about it, and ask yourself firstly if you're ready and capable to deal with any unwanted consequences if they did happen, and secondly is it really the most important thing for you to be doing right now. Honestly, I think you should wait a few years, sex will always be there, but the rest of your life might not be if you get it wrong! Good luck, I hope this helps you make a good choice.

Answer 2

Yes, it's wrong to have sex when you are that young...regardless of your belief system. It is wrong because you haven't had enough time to really make informed life decisions or deal with the consequences appropriately.

What if you become pregnant, at 14? No matter what you do with the pregnancy, this will affect the rest of your life! What if you contract an STD? How will you feel when you are 30 and still have something you got when you made a young mistake?

Even if none of this happens...what happens when you break up, (and you will...you are only 14!)? You will be even more broken hearted, confused and hurt!

Yes, you will know when it is ok...when you are not questioning whether or not it is ok. When you are able to deal with all of the repercussions of sex, as well as the emotional and physical part of it you will be ready.

Answer 3

I personally think that 14 is way too young, that is my opinion, as a mom.

I think that you should be much more emotionally mature to enter into a relationship that involves intimacy.

I think that you should be able to handle the consequences of pregnancy, should that occur, before you get intimate with anyone.

I think that if a boy cares about you, they will wait. If they don't and they try to pressure you into intimacy, it's not love and RUN, don't walk, away, far away from that boy!!

I also think that you should talk to a parent or counselor, that's what I would want my kids to do, so that they can give you insight into this matter, rather than seeking answers on the street from people that won't be affected by your choices.

Good luck hon, I hope this helps you!! : )

Answer 4

you should be married to some one. Have a commited partner. Sex is not taken as heavily as it should be. When you have sex you are taking on the responsibilities of possibly having children. If you can not be commited enough to raise children and for them to have a father and monther you shouln't have sex. However people have found ways to reduce their chances of having children but then those chances fail them it is often justified killing the baby. The problem is it like playing russian rolute with a baby except there are more chhambers in the gun. maybe one in a hundred or thousand is loaded. When the baby appears the triger is pulled because these people arent prepared to have a baby so they kill it. This is a tragedy and a delima presented from humanity messing with their nature so they can satisfy their pleasure. However there are those who when presented are willing to take on the responsibility. Also many anti-pregnancy drugs allow the egg to become fertilized but as that life starts to grow it will try and attach to the uterus wall but because of the barrren ness of the woumb the life dies. Many health problems with using pregnancy drugs as well. It is often people have difficulty getting pregnant later after using anti-pregnancy drugs. The full extent of what we are messing with is not fully understood.

Answer 5

Never mind the "right or wrong" question ... at your age it's a bad idea. Plain and simple.

If you do it with a guy who's 18 or over (or 16, depending on the law in your location), you can get him in trouble for statutory rape even if you are 100% willing. There's a reason why underage girls are called "jailbait."

Regardless of the age of the guy, you're taking the risk of a pregnancy or an STD, even if you use protection. If you're not ready to take responsibility for one or both of those, don't have sex.

Answer 6

There are just too many risks when you're that young. Do you want to end up pregnant or with a sexually transmitted disease? There is also an emotional toll-sex isn't casual and is never 'just sex'. If you're going to have it, you should be a bit older and it should be with someone you love, and preferably someone who loves you back and wants to commit. Also, you need to use some sort of protection, like the pill, and he needs to use protection as well. I hope you decide to wait to you're older as that is the only 100% way to be safe. But if you decide to anyway at least be safe.

Answer 7

In most states, it is a crime to have sex if you are under the age of 18. A person over 18 who does it with someone younger will usually go to prison for it.

If both are under 18, it is still possible to charge them with "statutory rape". They could have a criminal record and spend the rest of their life listed as a "sex offender" and be unable to hold many jobs, live with several blocks of a school, etc.

14 is too young. Wait until you are married.

Answer 8

Nature plays a cruel trick on us all when we are in our teens, we are so compelled to really, really, really want to do the one thing that we are really, really, really not ready to do, financially,emotionally or intellectually. Please my dear, error on the side of caution. I am 42 I have 2 children, a good job, a good partner and it is still difficult. I always say when you are faced with a decision like this if you just wait the answer will come. You don't realize it now but you will see someday that 14 is way too young for sex regardless of religious beliefs.Take care of yourself.

Answer 9

Your too young. Wait until you are more emotionally mature. When i see this question on here I usually answer the same way. Do not have sex until you are willing and able to get a full time job to support your child without anyones assistance. If you are not ready to do that then you are not ready for sex.

Answer 10

Wait as long as you can. 14 is really young. I have worked with 15 and 16 year old Mothers (I am a teacher). It profoundly changes their lives, and 99 times out of 100, it really mess them up. Don't take the chance.