So during my first visit with the nurse at the OB's office (I am 4 months pregnant) I was asked a series of questions, one being "Religious affiliation?" I replied "none." She then asked "So you don't go to church? What church do you go to?" I replied "none." She looked puzzled as if she didn't know what to write down on the paper. I stated "You can write down atheist if you would like." With a fake smile she wrote it down and continued the questions. I then noticed her gold cross necklace so it was apparent that she was religious.
I found this to be very innapropriate. Is it just my hormones that made me irked? I don't care that she asked me about my relgious affiliation, but I did care that she continued with it by asking about church. What do you all think?
2007-07-27 04:11:11 · 24 answers · asked by inbetweendays 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
UFO- LOL: I thought about telling her that her cross was hurting my eyes.
2007-07-27 04:17:15 · update #1
TY for making me feel as if I am not *all* that crazy and the congrats on the babe. :)
kclightman: oh you are so right re: credit cards!
twinsma: I did tell my doctor I would prefer not to see that nurse any longer and he acted like it was no biggie and a common thing. Maybe she ticked off others too.
LOLOL queenofyack!
You are right aisling- everyone is entitled, including me.
somewannaknow: thank you my DMB friend.
Bahmo: I do agree with you. I think she looked baffled because perhaps she was not used to the response and got nervous about it. Still bugs me LOL
2007-07-27 04:38:41 · update #2
Curious compound: LOL~ do you think Reportbot can get rid of her? :)
2007-07-27 05:33:42 · update #3
She was totally out-of-line. Once you mentioned none, she should have left it at that. It is only asked for certain medical procedures that are not wanted or wanted in any health situation.
You may want to rethink her being involved with your pregnancy. She may irritate you throughout its entirety.
You don't need that. Minimally, let your OB know that she acted in an innapropriate manner.
Hey, midwives are non-judgmental- (in general)
seeing as how early-on you are, you could probably get in w/one now just for a consult & see how you like their demeanor better.
Just a suggestion. Hope you feel great your entire pregnancy. ♪☺♥
2007-07-27 04:27:14 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Everyone is entitled to their own belief systems. It tends to be a little nerve wrecking when someone is a different belief than you and you've been taught that anyone different or not of the same religion is bad. It's just the matter of perspectives. Don't be 'irked' by something that little. Just blow it off. And concentrate on the new life you have growing inside of you. By the way, congrats on being a new mommy.
2007-07-27 11:22:19 · answer #2 · answered by a Goddess of Fluffyness 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would have been irritated by this as well, regardless of hormones. It was a slip of professionalism. At least it stopped there and didn't go any further. If for some reason it comes up again in the future, I'd say something.
2007-07-27 11:15:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
While I think this was inappropriate, I doubt it was intentional. Some people have trouble thinking outside the box. It probably never occurred to her that there is an entire segment of society that does not go to some sort of house of worship. Perhaps she thought that you were one of those new-fangled fundies who go to the unaffiliated mega-mall churches.
2007-07-27 11:28:55 · answer #4 · answered by Bahmo 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I had a similar thing when I had to register with the clerk in the ER to get stitches in my finger. They asked my religion and I said, "none" and then she looked baffled and said "can't you just put down one you used to go to?" LOL. No, your right to be bit bothered, its a bit ignorant. Don't let it get to you too much though, its her ignorance. Congrats on the baby!
2007-07-27 11:18:35 · answer #5 · answered by Zen Pirate 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
lol that is pretty crazy. i think i know why she is asking your affiliation. don't some religions have birth rituals that must take place soon after delivery? but it seems like a simple "none" would be enough. i cant believe she asked about going to church. thats just stupid to do.
no its not your hormones but dont let the stress get you. laugh about her instead. lmao i think its pretty funny. just imagine what would have happened if you said you go to the church of satan and you want your preist at the delivery so you can sacrifice your child immediately.
2007-07-27 11:15:44 · answer #6 · answered by ♨UFO♨ 4 · 6⤊ 1⤋
I had a guy come into my house to do some repair on my couch. Did a great job and proceeded to ask about church and tell me what church he goes to.
I was trying to be patient with him and nicely tell him I was not interested. I finally had to tell him "You realize youre in my house, right?"
2007-07-27 11:21:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Kind of reminds me how all department stores try to get you to sign up for their credit card, and no matter how clearly or firmly you say "No" they keep talking about the benefits and keep trying to sell it.
It was inappropriate, but hey, at least she stopped there. I think you handled it with grace.
2007-07-27 11:18:45 · answer #8 · answered by KC 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I would be irked, too, but I think she probably did the best she could. I mean, if she is one of those who thinks you're going to burn in hell or whatever, she probably had a real inner struggle to not give you a come-to-Jesus speech. Just be glad she shut up when she did.
And congratulations on the upcoming happy event! :-)
2007-07-27 11:21:18 · answer #9 · answered by ZombieTrix 2012 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
YES!!! It is none of her business what you believe! As far as she is concerned you believe in comfortable, equitable, and fair medical treatment. That's it. What does that have to do with religion?
I'd complain.
2007-07-27 11:22:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋