Father in law's ashes mailed to the house, in a wrapped bag, creeps me out, see details???

Question

My husband's father died last year. They weren't close AT ALL, in fact hadn't spoken in at least 6+yrs. He was sort of a hateful man, who husband never knew was his father till age 15 1/2yrs. old. His wife splits up the ashes and mails husbands sister and him some, in a baggie, taped up, in a cardboard box. Hubby opens box, and now they are in a clock that has a drawer in it....Father in law was very nasty to me, for the most part of the 27+yrs I am married....I am Jewish, he was very prejudice and actually pointed a loaded gun at me once, from a 8 ft distance, man used to hunt a lot when in good health.....I don't want them in my home at all.....ya'll are the only ones who know this, I don't want to hurt my husband by saying that, even though they weren't close at all, still I know that sounds bad....We live very close to one of the largest fishing/hunting areas in the country...take him there! Do I voice my opinion, or stay creeped out?.......

Answer 1

Talk to your hubby about taking them to a place his father would have loved. Say a prayer and move on. Your hubby might not have thought about what to do with them and need some help in the area.
I would be creeped out also. Maybe your hubby has already forgot they are there. You never know

Answer 2

You and your husband need to decide where to dispose of the ashes. Yes, since the father in law loved to hunt, then the area you describe would be perfect. BUT, you must talk to your hubby and decide together. He secretly may wish to dispose of them too. Just be loving and sincere when you talk to him. This was the only father he had and he surely has some feelings for him even though they were not close. And just for you ,dear. Half of that home is his too, so, just in case he decides he wants to keep them, you will need to get over all the animosity toward this dead man. He can do you no more harm.

Answer 3

well, they are only ashes, but i guess i can see your point.

my father is much like the man you describe, and well, he creeps me out and i don't even talk with him!

you can tell your husband how you feel -- i'm sure there was no love lost between him and his father from what you said.

and mailing ashes is rather insane!! yikes....

you could always dump them down the toilet and flush them? replace them with something that looks similar if you don't like it?

i hope you get good suggestions here.. i'm grasping at straws! take care ok?

Answer 4

tell your husband! if he respects that then he truly loves you.