2007-07-27 03:53:04 · 49 answers · asked by lucy a 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If your bf did do that to you there is no way you should forgive him.
2007-07-27 03:55:55 · answer #1 · answered by Slimm D 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
NO! I have an ex boyfriend who tried to kill me. I now have a restraining order on him and he served jail time for trying to kill me. He told me he was sorry but he didn't mean it. THEY DON'T MEAN IT! He's not sorry. If he truly was sorry the he wouldn't have done it in the first place. This isn't like he called you a bad name and can just take it back. HE TRIED TO KILL YOU. You are luck he wasn't successful. But what about next time. Say you forgive him and go back and he does it again. Except this time he IS successful. And you are dead. What then. It's not worth it. And you are worth more then that. A man that loves you would NEVER EVER try to hurt you let alone kill you. Get away from him and stay away. There's some other guy out there for you and he will love you, not hurt you.
2007-07-27 03:59:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lucy A,
What you described in your question is exactly what happens in every physical abuse case. It happens so often it is common knowledge with psychologists/psychiatrists. Don't continue this relationship! It will only get worse because your bf does not know what real love is. He will say he's sorry, pamper you with gifts (it's called the newlywed phase), then he will start to blame you for all the troubles in the relationship, he will verbally abuse you, then he will physically abuse you, and blame you for his physically beating you. This process happens in too many relationships. So do yourself a favor, forget about this guy. He won't change, it will only get worse! Set higher standards for yourself. Men will treat you the way you let them, generally speaking. So if a man doesn't treat you like a lady, i.e. open doors for you, respect you, encourage you, etc. don't even give him a chance.
I hope you make the best decision for your life.
2007-07-27 04:46:10 · answer #3 · answered by farfromhome5yrs 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forgiveness is hard, but it is Biblical, whether or not the person asks for it, or deserves it. So yes, forgive him. But if he tried to kill you, that is serious. You cannot be in a position to allow him to try this again. It is your social responsibility to report it to the police in case he tries it again, whether with you, or another person. How would you feel if he killed someone else? I heard of a Christian lady whose husband tried to kill her. He was very sorry etc and went to jail. She forgave him, they got back, he tried again and succeeded. If he loved you, he would not try to kill you. I know another case where the husband hit his wife, apologised, very sorry, it'll never happen again. Though it got worse and he bullied and hit her for many years until their son was old enough to stand up to him. Don't take a chance on your life.
2007-07-30 14:09:12 · answer #4 · answered by Dav 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy obviously has an anger problem, and it won't go away without professional help because it will be very deep rooted. It probably isn't his fault because it will be the environment he was brought up in, hence why it will be so deep rooted. Forgive him but get him out of your life immediately or you will eventually get pulled under. Men like this are charming after they have been or nearly been violent, and that can make them easy to give in to, but remember what he is capable of, and get out before it is too late.
2007-07-27 04:43:08 · answer #5 · answered by pamperpooch39 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok ur bf tried to KILL U ok KILL U!!! i dont think i would have forgiven him unless he has a very very VERY strong reason on why he tried to kill u. want my advice: if he tries to hurt u in any way or try to kill u agin i would break up with him and try and get him some help.
2007-07-27 04:01:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is this from a personal experience?
If it is, you need to get out. End the relationship. If he has done this once and you were able to stop him what if he tries again and your not so lucky?
2007-07-27 04:36:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He obviously needs help. and i'm not saying that in a mean way i mean he seriously needs 2 get help. You need 2 get help 4 him and get away fast. just think about it, would u really want 2 marry someone who tried 2 kill you? that is awful. he obviously isn't in love with you if he tried 2 kill you!! i mean think of this, if ur best friends boyfriend tried 2 kill her would u wnat her 2 spend the rest of her life with him? even if she loved him? i wouldn't. hope i helped!
2007-07-27 03:58:44 · answer #8 · answered by carly* 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Better question i think you need to ask yourself is are you willing to let him kill you.....come on be smarter you shouldnt even have to ask this question. Forgive him just never forget and stay the hell away from him.
2007-07-28 16:54:32 · answer #9 · answered by hellion 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell NO !!! after trying to kill me he'd be facing charges and only being forgiven after his prison term is served
2007-07-27 03:56:35 · answer #10 · answered by Rainy 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
NO, that's crazy, if he tries to kill, you sorry cant take that back if your died. and once he does it trust me he will try again, and again and oh ya again. been there, sorry is to make him feel better, not you,
He needs help and its something you cant give him, its him that has to want it, and sorry is not going to fix it. next will be hitting you oh i am sorry, slapping you oh i am sorry, and yes maybe even death oh i am sorry, it will never get better,
You need to watch yourself and take care of you, he will not do that, he is a angry person and i am sorry wont fix it.
i wish you the best and take care of yourself. :( :))))))
2007-07-27 03:58:21 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋