I moved away from my friends and my boyfriend. I was doing okay, but now everything is just getting to me. I miss my boyfriend like crazy, but the past few days, it seems like i care less. I don't want to forget what i had.. I just feel very.. apathetic.
Anyone have any advice?
Thank you.
2007-07-27 03:38:50 · 16 answers · asked by ? 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
People tend to adapt to their situations. If you are starting to care less, it just means that you are becoming more comfortable in your new environment. Don't worry...it's a good thing.
2007-07-27 03:41:34 · answer #1 · answered by Joy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Do something nice for someone else. A great "high." Try volunteering in a nursing home. You will find many people there who have their mental faculties, but are physically handicapped to the point where they need 24/7 care. See if you can get them interested in conversation or maybe they like to play cards, etc.
I speak from experience. I began taking my Mom to visit a friend and when my Mom passed away, I continued to visit the woman. Over time, she became like an aunt to me. I learned she loved games and was darned good at it. I brought in scrabble, a checkerboard, cards and a battery-operated card shuffler. Again, over time, we got several other ladies to join us. In a few weeks, these women began to meet, on their own, in the dining room, every afternoon for cards. I felt pretty good knowing I started it.
Try it. You won't be sorry. If working with the elderly doesn't "grab you," you could work with sick kids - read to them, play games, etc. The day is very long for someone confined in the hospital.
2007-07-27 03:49:34 · answer #2 · answered by TheHumbleOne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hang in there kiddo! Lift you head up high, and be thankful for your health, and the health of your friends and loved ones!
Young love is a great thing, but very rarely do people end up marrying and spending the rest of their lives with their high school sweetheart or love interest. The odds are that you will most likely stay in touch with your friends from school more than any of your old love interests. Crazy to think...I know!
Just try to keep your spirits high and have a positive outlook on life. With a positive outlook, and a postive attitude, others will most definitely gravitate to you and you will soon have more friends and potentially another love interest!!!
2007-07-27 04:21:25 · answer #3 · answered by wlegend 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, my guess is that you've moved far enough away that you can't see him every day or every weekend... also it seems that you're young enough that truly, it would be best if you moved on.. you don't have to forget those in your past, but realize that you are in a new place, and try to make some new friends.... over time, the boyfriend will go away... and new ones will appear..
so remember the past, but move towards the future... and live in the now...
2007-07-27 03:43:28 · answer #4 · answered by Kevin c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep the fire burning, communicate.
even if you're a stone's throw away to your loved ones but fail to communicate it all sums up the same as leaving them to be thousand miles away
in this day and age, with the cheap telephone rates, internet where video chatting is very free, it wouldn't be very hard as compared years ago.
doing your end of the bargain is easy so make it work and appreciate them and have meaningful talks, agree on a schedule and do it regularly.
2007-07-27 03:49:25 · answer #5 · answered by shiela 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
aww ur avatar is crying :(
Dont be sad..and dont let these emotions get to you...I moved away a long time ago..and I was so depressed that I ate and ate and I gained 20 pounds! yea..how gross! you dont want that okay? I decided that I will adapt and meet new people and I worked those pounds off. Just be positive, stay in touch with old pals and try to adapt and meet new ppl. ok?
<3!
2007-07-27 03:45:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In painful situations our bodies and minds often adapt to deal with the pain. Sometimes we become obsessive compulsive. Sometimes we stop caring. It's a natural process and it is okay. Moving on doesn't mean that you are somehow losing the memories that you valued. Accept your feelings whatever they are and allow yourself to heal in whatever way that happens.
2007-07-27 03:44:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't try to forget what you had, just be happy that you had it to begin with. Keeping a journal helps keep those memories for later dates. Cheer up, think of your move as a new beginning :)
2007-07-27 03:43:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure u're gonna find more new friends and if u feel like it's not working out between u n ur guy bc he's so far then why don't u break up w/ him and start seeing other ppl??
2007-07-27 03:42:18 · answer #9 · answered by Lulu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find some activities that makes u busy might help. avoid to listen to love songs. it makes u feel worse i guess...
join the gym or any club nearby so u could start making new friends.
2007-07-27 03:47:47 · answer #10 · answered by reachmygoal 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋