My friend just asked everyone if they want to go out drinking . I ofcourse at this stage cant. It sucks I want to hang out but if they are going to be drinking all the time I guess they cant be my friends anymore. If anyone else has been in this situation what have you done? I go to AA but Im beginning to find that that is the only place where I dont feel like a screw up. That isnt very many places.
2007-07-27 03:18:16 · 9 answers · asked by b 4 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Good for you for sticking to your guns and staying sober. Unfortunately if your friends aren't going to supportive of you it may be time to find new ones. They should at least be respectful of you. Sure they can go out drinking by themselves but if they're truly your friends they will set up other activities to do with you that do not involve drinking. For most people in recovery it takes a long time of being sober for them to be comfortable and strong in situations where other people are drinking.
2007-07-27 04:18:50 · answer #1 · answered by DawnDavenport 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, a lot of people find their entire social life revolved around drinking and now they can't hang around the same people or places. It can be very lonely but you HAVE to stick it out for your health and your loved ones. I haven't had the problem but my son in law has. It was really hard because his side of the family are heavy drinkers and he kind of has to avoid them. He did new things like stuff with his kids, fishing and at first he did spend alot of his spare time alone. But as you meet new people and have new past times that don't involve drinking it gets better.
2007-07-27 03:23:34 · answer #2 · answered by lurkingonthirtyfourthstreet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it can be tough. I have recently made a big change in my life, and I lost a lot of friends in the process. It has been tough, but I have been meeting a lot of new people because of it, and I am confident I will gain new friends as well! I'm not sure what your life looks like spiritually, but it may not be a bad idea to find a church near by, not too big, but somewhere you can go and feel safe! Best wishes!
2007-07-27 03:41:02 · answer #3 · answered by j c 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they cant be there for you and telling you to go drink with them when they know your trying to quit then there not friends at all.I would tell them that you don't feel comfortable when there drinking and they shouldn't drink in front of you if they care.I'm glad to hear about you trying to quit.Good luck to you.You can also try to find people on line that have groups that help you cope as well.Try to keep away from them and find new friends who will be there and help you out in your run to stop drinking.
2007-07-27 03:22:21 · answer #4 · answered by ER Doctor 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's very hard to make new (non-drinking) friends. try going places - church, photography club, bicycle club, fitness club, etc. morning activities usually don't have as much drinking, try a hiking group that goes in the morning or a library book discussion group. try triathalon or marathon training, try dance class or political meetings/demonstratons. try anything where you know there won't be drinking. and non-drinking people will be there - you can meet and be friends. look in the paper for things like that - art museum movies etc.
2007-07-27 03:27:58 · answer #5 · answered by Sufi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just because you go out it doesn't mean you have to drink. you can still go out and have fun and besides i think being sober and watching your friends get drunk can be more entertaining then people give it credit for. just stop feeling down and out about this situation. find other things to do like go bowling or something and invite a couple people to go with out, join some clubs where you can meet new people. you shouldn't loose ALL your friendships because you can't drink, you might loose one or two because they don't understand but you won't loose them all.
2007-07-27 03:28:31 · answer #6 · answered by smile182 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if they know you have quit and struggle with alcoholism and they are really truely your friends they will schedule activities to do that don't include drinking. however they may not realize that you don't want to be around it so you must let them know. its true that sometimes they're going to want to go out and do that just cause that's what they like to do then you must accept that sometimes you'll be left out. however real friends would not continually leave you out of the loop just so they can go drinking. if this is the case yes, find new friends. but i recommmend talking to them first and telling them in a calm manner that you want to be with them but you just can't be around alcohol right now. see where that takes you.
2007-07-27 03:23:24 · answer #7 · answered by kestrelk8 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try http://stepchat.com/na.htm & http://www.alcohol-rehabilitation.org/ Some people can handle being around others, like family/friends, who drink, and have a Claytons & soda, etc. with them: others can't.
2007-07-27 04:32:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it will get better as long as u keep looking for help and answers like this.
2007-07-27 03:44:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋