my fiance and i told a secret...?

Question

My fiances father got re-married. At the wedding was my fiances real mom's brother. Him and his wife explained that even though his parents got a divorce, its no reason why they cant still be friends.

Normally, an arrangement like this would be fine. But it states directly in their divorce decree that each family is NOT to have contact with each other. (The moms side & dads side)

We promised the brother & wife that we would not tell the mom that they were there. Instead, we took a picture that 'just happened' to have them in the background and 'showed the mom how nice her sons looked'

She saw her brother & wife in the picture & freaked out (rightfully so) But then turned on me & my fiance & called us liars because we 'did not tell her right away' they were there. (its been about 2 weeks since the wedding)

We were trying to do the right thing, we kept our promise to the uncle cause we didnt 'say' anything, yet we still let the mom in on it, and shes mad at us. What to do?

She even brought up the fact that about 6 months ago she helped us out financially (about $800) to move into a new place by saying "this is what i get for helping people"

I dont think its right for her to be mad at US (shes also mad at the brother) but WE did the right thing by telling her.. or should we have kept our mouths shut?

Cause i know if she had found out 6 months from now, she would REALLY be mad at us

She's messed up, i know... she wanted no contact with the guy cause he cheated on her and left her while she was depressed

Answer 1

You didn't do anything wrong it's not like you invited them . She just needs to get over it and grow up.

Answer 2

1st. The issue is between her and her brother. I do not think you did anything wrong by not saying anything. 1st she did not ask if he was there so you did not lie. 2nd I would say it is not your place to give her a run down on the guest list. People are entitled to there privacy and she is putting you in a no win position. If she has a problem then she needs to take it up with her brother and not involve you or her son. Also what kind of a divorce states who other family members can see or talk to. Honey, I would think real hard about marring into this family.

Answer 3

you are able to desire to believe her with this mystery. Why? by using fact it is going to teach her know and believe. know: that she actually does need to grasp; believe: which you recognize she would have the capacity to shop your mystery and not decide you. i might desire to grasp. And, by potential of the type you describe the situations, it does no longer section me one bit to learn this sort of mystery. she would have the capacity to rejoice with understanding now, particularly than looking your son's photograph three hundred and sixty 5 days and having her international come crumbling down as she wonders approximately different secrets and techniques you're holding from her. this would be a sizeable deal. despite the fact which you dealt with it nicely and look to have an exceptionally point head approximately it, your destiny spouse could know, no longer basically by using fact it quite is an area of your previous, yet it particularly is likewise area of your destiny. The boy's mom is going to be sending letters and photographs and hiding it particularly is mendacity by potential of omission. she would have the capacity to comprehend, I assure you that. she would have the capacity to comprehend. it particularly isn't approximately yet another lady right here. it particularly isn't approximately infidelity. it particularly isn't a pair of raunchy affair. it particularly is approximately you fathering a toddler and making some large unselfish alternatives to supply that boy a existence he merits. you would be happy with your alternatives and the mature way you and his mom dealt with this occasion. And, your destiny spouse will too.

Answer 4

I think she needs to get over herself and you need to ignore her.