hi, im 27, i have ben single 4 10yrs now. why do girls EXPECT guys to make the 1st move? i mean all girls have to do is layback&try to look pretty? when its the guys that have to do ALL the hard work, like do the long walk up to a girl, then start talking, then ask her out...then get rejected & take that long depressin walk back..dam, have i taken that walk like a thousand times or wht, i mean thrs nufin wrong wif me, im successful, handsome, hv a good career, yet dont know y its so hard aye?
2007-07-26 23:58:08 · 15 answers · asked by vanilla_thrilla01 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think your gay and just dont know it yet.
2007-07-27 00:01:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
You're trying too hard and going after the wrong kind of girls. It does not cost or risk anything to smile and say hi. You might not think it is any big deal, but clubs and parties are the main places girls come up missing never to be seen alive again. Guys don't. She has her guard up and on red alert. If you go for coffee, say hi and smile to all of the girls. If you are only nice to girls you are attracted to, it makes girls angry. Like that is all she is good for. If you really like a girl, you should notice something about her, other than her looks, and tell her. You don't know how many guys have tried to pick her up that day already with drooling moron lines. Use your brain and talk like a grown up. Put yourself in her shoes. It is not fun to be accosted and treated like a sex object. It might be the first time that day for you, but most girls have to put up with unwanted advances all day long. We are human beings and much more than lay back and look pretty. If you treat a girl like that, you will get what you bargained for and a smack. Yes, you have to make her feel safe and why you? Try to answer that question ahead of time. Girls are not interested in what you do for a living. Girls are interesed in you as a person. Dating is a nightmare for a girl. We hear the same, I'm so special because I do or have done this or that. I'm not a guy. I'm not impressed and it is not a contest. Try just being yourself. I know, I know, the guys may not be impressed by it. Do you want a guy or a girl? We like to talk and we like guys who know themselves. We hear the same garbage all day long. The prettier she is, the more pick up lines she has heard all day. Just smiling and saying hi, rather than drooling and acting like it is the first girl you have ever seen in your life, is a break from, ok the guys are horny. We get it already. We're not horny all the time. No horny talk. Talk about something and anything else to really make an impression on her.
2007-07-27 00:21:46 · answer #2 · answered by Kathleen b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've gotta show these girls you're a man...I can't stress this enough on this site. People wonder why after X amount of time they don't have a girlfriend. Here's why girls expect for guys to make the first move: If they can make the first move on someone they like it's most likely they have the courage for when they need to be protected by other men or from harm in general. You say you have all the background stuff going on in your life now all you gotta do is show them a good time right when you meet them for the first time. Something tells me you'll be alright though.
2007-07-27 00:04:16 · answer #3 · answered by Class 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's because most of us are just as scared of rejection as you are. I can't really speak for myself, because I have always been the aggressor. I see it like this, if i don't try, I guess I'll never know. For the 10 girls you approach, at least one should be interested. Start with the eye contact. If they look back and seem like they may be interested then go on over. Start with one really good question, like "what brings you out tonight" and see where it goes. If she gives you a quick answer and is not interested then walk away. If she wants to talk then go from there. Hint, hint...girls don't like over confident guys that keep talking about themselves all night. Talk about SAFE, mutual things..And unfortunatley a bar is not always the best way to find a girl. Good luck!
2007-07-27 00:07:27 · answer #4 · answered by SammyD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hopefully your successful career does not involve writing or editing? :D
Seriously, now...you sound like you're looking in the wrong ponds for the wrong fish.
Join some clubs, go to church/mosque/synagogue, buy (and train) a dog, and go for walks in the park, voluntarily babysit neices & Nephews, or the kids (esp toddler age) of friends, and take them to the park.
If all else fails, join a gym, take-out a personal ad, join a dating web site...
As to why do the ladies expect to be asked out as opposed to doing the asking? It shows that you think the person is worth the effort! It's also a bit of an ego thing. ;)
2007-07-27 00:17:59 · answer #5 · answered by jcurrieii 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Society. In society it is always been custom for the guys to make the first move, the guy to take the girl on the date, and the guy to propose first.
Thats how it is. Thats not saying that each female just sits back and let the guy do all the work, especially if the girl is attracted to the guy and she knows he likes her too, sometimes you do have some that will come up to the guy and ask him out first. I do.
2007-07-27 00:05:15 · answer #6 · answered by Mami 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you just haven't found the right one, that's why your still single. or maybe your looking in the wrong place? as to why do girls expect a guy to make the first move? it's been that way long before. more of the gentleman issue. way back then it's not appropriate for girls to ask guy out so girls still have that idea. I mean most girls. BUt other girls tend to ask guy out.
2007-07-27 00:15:32 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what you been single for 10 years?????something is definitely wrong somewhere!may be you are approaching girls that are not your type and also try changing your apporach tactics.try approcahing a different type of girls from the ones you have been approaching.sorry though for having been single for so long dear!!All the best!And let me know if you succeed!!
2007-07-27 00:05:31 · answer #8 · answered by discovery 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe u always asking d wrong type of gurl.
Do u knoe how hard it is for a gurl to look good, pretty n stuff? If only u a gurl, u'll knoe :)
2007-07-27 00:04:16 · answer #9 · answered by farizah_t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Matbe they aren't inrested a girl will genreally give a guy sign's such as looking at you all the time smiling blushing etc... i just think you have to look more carefully
2007-07-27 00:05:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
will you go out with me?
see, isnt that pathetically DESPERATE?!
THATS why girls dont ask guys out.
girls asking guys out is DESPERATE.
guys asking girls out, whether hot or pathetic-looking or whatever, is super-alpha. shows hes got the balls.
just the fact that youve got the guts to get up and walk over and ASK earns you about three extra points.
2007-07-27 00:05:58 · answer #11 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋