please help......?

Question

my bf is in merchent navy....he has to travel all around the globe....we r very much in love with each other....but nw he is gone for the sail.....am feeling misreable...and missing him too much....i am very much tensed abt him......i can understand his situation....but still i am nt accepting the whole thing.......
plss tell me whut to do.....

Answer 1

darlin, i feel for you. you keep him in your heart, write him every night as you go to bed a little note of what you did that day, that you are thinking about him, how good your grandmothers pie was that day, things like that to keep him attached to the outside, write it like a daily journal and once a week send it to him. remember that he will only receive mail periodically so it is not necessary to send out a letter a day, but you do what feels right. this action will keep your heart very close to him, and him to you. when you see a stopsign, think "my baby" when anything you do makes you smile, think, "about how much you love him" always keep him at the top of your thoughts and take him everywhere with you. you will find peace frrom this. i did when seperated from my wife for 4 years. hang in there darlin' . it will get easier. i promise.

Answer 2

You have to deal with it, or not deal with it.

Choose the former, and you will adapt, possibly leading to a life together. Once you start making some money, you can make some holiday plans where the two of you can meet for a couple of days in some foreign far away land.

Choose the latter, and you will find more and more wrong, and either cause him to leave you, or for you to leave him.

Has he given you cause to feel as though you are simply a girl among many in his many ports?
If he has, you'll have to either be greatful of what little time he gives you when he's in port, or you'll have to end it with a brave face when he comes back.
If he hasn't, and you're slightly (or more) paranoid, then during your annual physical (or sooner if he happens to confess an indescression) get yourself tested for any "unintentional gifts." If you're not paranoid (slightly or more), don't dump 6 months of stress and worry on him when he comes home, just drop it where it belongs - in the dustbin. Many couples survive this easily - one way being to treat the first weeks of a reunion as a sort of honeymoon each time...something to be looked forward to! That way, each time he leaves, you can be excited about planning your next "honeymoon."
Other spouses deal with it by living two lives...one life when the spouse is home, and the other life when (s)he isn't. In this case, when feeling lonely, or when someone starts paying extra attention, remove yourself from the situation. In short, if feeling lonely/vulnerable, don't jump into a situation where tempatation can pound you into submission.

All things considered, there is probably a "For Dummies" or equivalent type book for this sort of relationship...try asking at your local bookstore / library for books written by "Navy Widows" - especialy of the Autobiographical sort, so you can see how *they* dealt with the same situation.

Good luck, and best wishes on a good outcome!

Answer 3

Just trust him. You know that you both love each other. You can talk to him over the phone or you can e-mail him. Don't be too worried. Just stay in touch with each other. Good luck and wish you the best!

Answer 4

u can not get always satisfied in life,with every this
there r some compromises to make
so just forget every thing and remember the moments of love

Answer 5

Trust him.

Surround yourself with loved ones and friends and stop devoting all your time thinking about him. Accept his job and enjoy it when he's there but when he's not, think about yourself and live your life. :)

Answer 6

you have only two choices...accept and deal with it or move on!