My 8 year old daughter suffers from a genetic condition that has resulted in abnormally bowed legs. However, our family has a limited medical budget and we won't consider 'elective' or 'experimental' surgeries to correct such a condition, especially when the surgery to correct her leg issue is clearly defined as cosmetic by those in the health insurance industries. Our family does not have health insurance because the rest of us - besides our daughter - are healthy, but we like to abide by HMO guidelines when it comes to our health care and treatment so we can be on par with everyone else. Her condition does not hinder her daily functioning. One less surgery is more money in our savings account - and one step closer until I can buy my Corvette. I'm sure this condition will help her develop a more rosy personality and her future husband will value her more for her mind than her looks. Are we being socially responsible parents?
2007-07-26 23:08:13 · 12 answers · asked by rattwagon 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
Socially responsible I don't think so.
Why don't you see if you can trade her in at your corvette dealer ship.
Maybe your daughter needs a new owner. You certainly don't deserve her.
I cannot even imagine putting a car priority over my child and my child's future happiness.
( Connie Mom of 4 )
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2007-07-27 05:11:49 · answer #1 · answered by connie 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
ok you just hit a nerve. I have a disability and i had surgery when i was 5 yearsold when my parents didn't have insurance. IT wasn't emergancy but much nessary. i have had a lot of medical problems and my parents have never not had me taken care of one way or another...that is YOUR job as a PARENT!!! You bacme a parent and part of that means you make sacrifices for the well being of your family. That includes a car. I could understand you POSTPONING the surgery if you NEEDED a car since its not absolutely nessary however, yes a phyisical disability will perhaps make her stronger how strong do you really want to make her?? I am 23 and in a wheelchair and have a VERY hard time getting a guy to even give me a chance. I have a great personality and positive attiude usually but i do truly suffer from depression. I know that if my parents could they would do whatever they could to get me to be ok again. IT doesn't seem nessasry but if she becomes depressed from it from the way people treat her then she may get depressed which if bad enough could be VERY VERY serious in which it can be very much a health issue.
Do the surgery. YOU won't regret it...remember that is your child you wanted her now do whatever it takes to give her the best chance to having a fun loving, normal life. That is part of your job after all.
2007-07-27 09:23:29 · answer #2 · answered by Jewels 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you are being selfish clods. Are you honestly saying you'd rather buy a Corvette than to have corrective surgery on your daughter, that might spare her years of cruel remarks from other kids? Uck! Why did you have kids in the first place?? If your budget is so limited, maybe you should set your sights lower on your auto preference and higher on your daughter's well being. Do you really believe this condition does NOT hinder your daughter's daily functioning. If she is made fun of, it hinders her greatly. And as far as a "rosy" personality...you better pass her some of the drugs you are on, because with parents like you...she's going to need them!
2007-07-27 02:07:21 · answer #3 · answered by kikio 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My son was born with craniosynostosis. It to was considered an elective surgery because it was cosmetic. Craniosynostosis is where the suture bones close prematurely causing defomity.
There are other reasons why you would want to get the surgery done for your child,. One, no matter how hard you try, your child will develope a complex because of other children makeing fun of her legs. When there is a surgery out there that can help her, and you can afford it, you should get it done. It you cannot afford it you should look into children's hospitals because they have charities that will help even when the surgery is elective. Also there are some bowed legged childrend that can be helped with casting.
Legs are important to young females especially teenagers. Boys look at girls and they want them to, there is nothing wrong with this, but it is important.
Ultimately this is your decission, but please look at the long term affects this will have on your child. I know a bowed legged girl and her twin brother also had this problem, they were teased relentlessly and the boy commited suicide at age fourteen because of all the teasing he received. These parents did not know if they even had a choice, but my friend still talks about her brother and how much she misses him. At age 30 she finely had the surgery done for herself, and was amased at the attention she started receiving. We all know that people should love people for who they are, but if something can be corrected, in the long run, it really is the best choice for some.
2007-07-27 12:00:39 · answer #4 · answered by trhwsh 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
so you are putting your desire to have a material object for YOUR personal use (not exactly a family car now are they?) above your daughters physical health..
Socially responsible parents would go out of their way to ensure their child had adequate health insurance (irrespective of the health and needs of others in the family) so that she may have a socially "normal" childhood and grow into a well adjusted adult.
You should consult an orthopedic specialist in this field to consider what the long term implications this will have on her. As she grows and is more physically active (you don't want to be chastising her in her teens for being inactive when she physically cant take part in activites due to pain or ridicule), as we all age there is increased pressure put on our joints and ligaments etc with this abnormal position of the muscles and bones you may find she is at higher risk of injuries, disease (arthritis) at a much younger age.
Yes having to live with a physical deformity MAY help her develop a resilliant personality, strong character and determination.... but it MAY also crush her spirit, lead to feelings of worthlessness (parents valued a car over her legs, teasing through childhood-teen years) physical pain, suffering and a less than "rosey" outcome.
You should be more concerned about your daughters future than being "socially responsible parents" after all whats important???? Socially being seen as saving dollars for the struggling health system or the well being and love of your child.
2007-07-26 23:23:19 · answer #5 · answered by Sharon P 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am curious... How can you say you go to church? So let me get this straight... You have a daughter that needs surgery but you would rather buy a car
You want to "microchip" your daughter and put a dog coller and leach on her..
Wow father of the year
2007-07-26 23:33:04 · answer #6 · answered by Iamme 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
does the legs bother your daughter like is she having trouble walking if not don't worry about it.If it is maybe a shoe insert or angle brace might help support her ankle, but not those leg brace the will be uncomfortable anyways,and she is to old
2007-07-27 11:56:29 · answer #7 · answered by bunnyrabbit_78219 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No. You are not socially responsible parents. What is more important, you daughter's life or a damn car.
2007-07-26 23:16:34 · answer #8 · answered by mikeae 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You almost had me there, Have you considered a career in fiction writing?
2007-07-27 02:02:28 · answer #9 · answered by EC Expert 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You obviously wrote this to get angry responses, and I am sure you will.
2007-07-27 05:32:13 · answer #10 · answered by Miss Coffee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋