it was when i was 4-5 an now 14 i dont remember my age but remember what he did an who he was i can never get up the courage to tell her so i was thinking about telling my counsilor i had in middle school cuz i got really close to her an i was think tellin my friend ashley ahead of time when school starts again so we can walk to our old middle school so i can tell her but idk if i should come out to my mom or go to the counsilor i really wanna tell someone cuz i dont like cryin about it an i feel bad cuz when it happened i was at friends house an it was her brother or sumthin an i wished he did it to her instead of me but now im scared he did it to her to and it makes me feel bad
2007-07-26 22:34:01 · 11 answers · asked by shala 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Just get up your nerve and tell her. If you have trouble doing it this way... Write it all down and give her the letter. It will help you put it into perspective and break your embarassment. You really need to get this out or it will screw up your life. It was not your fault. Say It! It was not my fault. then tell her, so it doesn't happen to someone else. or to your friend. I know that it is not easy but you have to do it!
2007-07-26 22:41:14 · answer #1 · answered by Traveler 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is important to be able to trust your mom with something so painful. She has a right to know, she loves you and she has the responsibility to keep you safe. She also may be confused about your depression and worried about you. Also her love should be supporting and comforting, allow yourself to share with her something this important. I would be devastated if my daughter could not tell me.
Also, the person who abused you may be around other children still and need to be reported. While you don't recall, other adults around at that time, or your friend, may.
It is normal to feel all sorts of emotions about this but ultimately you know as a little four or five year old you had no control over these actions, you are not responsible and it is possible to have this happen to you and for you to still have a good and happy life. Since you are crying, you do recall some details, it is important to work with a counselor who is familiar with helping young girls who have been molested, Your school counselor is a great starting point but she needs to refer you to someone who has studied and learned about helping survivors of childhood molestation.
Good Luck, sadly, you can find all too many girls in your situation. The important thing now is to move forward, deal with this and heal.
2007-07-27 06:02:04 · answer #2 · answered by donny_mollysmom 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell your parents, and if you feel the need you can tell your counselor too!! You should get some therapy to get over it. My daughter was also molested at a young age. The worst of it finally manifested itself when she became serious with a guy. She began to do drugs to relieve the pain and guilt. It was then that I finally got her to talk. She was in therapy for over a year, but is well adjusted and has a normal life now.
2007-07-27 06:22:46 · answer #3 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to tell your mom for sure, And she's the first one you should tell of all people. A friend can't really help too much so tell her first. If she refuses to believe you or doesn't understand or handle it the way you want, Then AND ONLY THEN you should go to your counslor. And probally as soon as possible. but don't tell you mom your going to.
2007-07-27 06:57:04 · answer #4 · answered by dani m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't talk about it to your friends.
Talk to your mother. She will want to know and help you. If you are not comfortable talking to her, talk to you counselor. The counselor should be trained to assist you. Another option is to contact Health and Human Services or Children's Services (different names in different places) and talk to a counselor there.
Again, don't talk about it to a friend. You will not get the help you need nor the confidentiality you want.
2007-07-27 07:39:46 · answer #5 · answered by Answer Man 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont waste time ,go and tell your mom immediately for she is the best person you can confide in.You'll have a light heart after that,and dont cry for it wasn't your mistake.
2007-07-27 05:39:32 · answer #6 · answered by ANU U 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it must be so hard for you, but I think you should do that.
How? well.. make yourself. Get up and go to her, not thinking no regretting, just go to her and say "mom, I need to talk to you about something".
I wish you the best luck.
2007-07-27 05:57:36 · answer #7 · answered by Alice_d 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear ..Dear ...just tell her in plain English. You will be doing urself , and anyone who's ever lived around that low-life creature a big favor.
Remember , He can do it again , by telling on him , HE WILL STOP
2007-07-27 06:17:51 · answer #8 · answered by Wondering 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can tell it to her she's your mom she won't disown you or anything your mom knows whats best for you and while your at it report him to the police he should pay for what he's done it's against God. I know it may be hard but you have to do it.
2007-07-27 06:16:47 · answer #9 · answered by roygbiv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just come out and tell her. She's your mom and loves you.It wasn't your fault. Hugs.
2007-07-27 08:47:34 · answer #10 · answered by lillulu460 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋