I know a guy who was raised in the church. He backslid and got into all kind of sex. He went over the deep end as far as I am concerned because it was orgies, perversion, bi-sexuality, and whatever else he could do. He got his act together after years of backslidding, and now he is interested in a wife.
I do not feel it is right because no woman wants anyone with that background. He is living a Christian life and is not playing games. Nevertheless, I feel as if he has too much baggage to take into a marriage. How do you feel females?
I am not judging him!
2007-07-26 20:29:52 · 20 answers · asked by shawnLacey 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
lol, after a THOROUGH check for STDs, and a veeerrryyy long engagement, and some serious pre-marital counseling, I dont see a problem with it. we ALL take baggage into a marriage, unfortunately its the culture and society we live in (I'm American). what would be the difference if the tables were turned and a prositute accepted Christ, cleaned up her act and desired a normal relationship with a Christian man? Remember the story of the harlot in the N.T.
Joh 8:7b...He who is without sin among you, let him cast the first stone at her......
And bending back up, and seeing no one but the woman, Jesus said to her, Woman, where are the ones who accused you? Did not one give judgment against you? And she said, No one, Lord. And Jesus said to her, Neither do I give judgment. Go, and sin no more.
Therein lies the key, repentence. There is forgiveness in true repentence, and that means not being held in bondage to sin, whatever sin that may happen to be.
2007-07-26 21:08:43 · answer #1 · answered by prismcat38 4 · 5⤊ 1⤋
this is where you judged him:
"I do not feel it is right because no woman wants anyone with that background. He is living a Christian life and is not playing games. Nevertheless, I feel as if he has too much baggage to take into a marriage."
at the end of the day doesn't your church preach acceptance and forgiveness? so if he has truly "repented" then surely there shouldn't be a problem?
2007-07-27 03:38:41 · answer #2 · answered by chloe_saiana 3 · 3⤊ 3⤋
seems to be a lot of perversion around to do with the christian religion, watch the news read the newspapers.If you don't approve of the way he is or was then choose someone else, acceptance and trust is a small part of true love.
2007-07-27 06:57:03 · answer #3 · answered by kymm r 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it depends on who he is now and how honest he would be i supose. if he repented of all this the G-D would have forgiven him but its hisa mind id be worried about as if he has let all this kind of stuff in it would stay with him unless god took it from him also i think id be worried if he contracted anything during this time. it would be a harsh woman who didnt expect some bagage from somone so i guess a wife for him is a possibilty as long as honesty was involed and a clean bill of health
2007-07-27 03:43:32 · answer #4 · answered by caz 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I don't think you should be crucified for saying "I'm not judging him" its human nature and it is God who forgives sin completely, we humans don't usually forget so I imagine that it will be a really difficult thing for a woman to over look.
It's not that it is not right for him to want to get married, I think it is that it will be extremely hard for him when he is honest about his past. As christians though we should strive to be like our father and forget but it's easier said than done.
2007-07-27 04:05:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Mary of Egypt went into the desert for the rest of her life after her conversion, and she was a tart for years. You would do well to do the same.
2007-07-27 03:45:37 · answer #6 · answered by Shinigami 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Honey, we all do bad things, but the point is that we see it for what it is and change. If he is trying in earnest, then I don't see why he shouldn't get married. My husband was Lucifer himself before I met him, and now he is a loving husband and great father, and I have even convinced him that there is a God!
2007-07-27 03:37:28 · answer #7 · answered by Starjumper the R&S Cow 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
"I am not judging him!"
"He backslid"
"He went over the deep"
"He got his act together"
"anyone with that background."
"has too much baggage"
What was that about judging?
2007-07-27 03:34:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 10⤊ 2⤋
If you had a child that did the same thing would you not accept him back? And if God is almighty and can forgive him, shouldnt an imperfect human like yourself do the same??
2007-07-27 03:42:15 · answer #9 · answered by Citrus 2 · 4⤊ 2⤋
U r Judging him. If he has changed............. Wonderful. Most people this day and time have Baggage.
2007-07-27 03:33:51 · answer #10 · answered by aprilangel4 3 · 11⤊ 0⤋