Suppose you've been dating a girl for quite some time and decided to go on a date night together. Let's say in the end you both come up with different plans for the evening. Your idea for a date includes going to a show that is completely uninteresting to the girl and her idea for the date is completely uninteresting to you (ex. ballet, opera, really boring lecture, etc...). Suppose you get into an argument over what you want to do and the girl decides to give you the silent treatment and cut you off from "intimacy" until you do her bidding. What would you do in this situation? Would you cave in like a whipped boy and abide by your gf's wishes or would you stand up to her? Suppose compromise was not a possibility either. What would you do?
2007-07-26 19:12:37 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Man, I am so damn whipped i would end up doing what she said. I would like try to talk her into going to the movie I wanted to go to, but I know in the end I would do what she wanted because it would make her happy, and thats really all I want in a relationship is for her to be happy. Well, I wanna be happy too, but it sucks seeing your gf sad.
2007-07-26 19:17:54 · answer #1 · answered by Papa Log 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you both had been dating for a long time, you should know what the other is willing to do or not. To both make plans that are inconsiderate of each other's wants, begs me to ask if you ever paid attention to each other the whole time you were supposedly dating? If you cannot come to a compromise then you probably weren't really dating in the first place, or neither person cares enough to pay attention, so what's the point in continuing a relationship?
2007-07-27 02:23:03 · answer #2 · answered by hello reality 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you have to be careful about keeping score on one another---i mean when she gives in, then you give in--that can get ugly as the relationship progresses. Dude--taking chicks to movies is boring---unless it's at home where you can get cozy. So get that out of your head. It's best to go with her that night then afterwards take her to one of your hangouts or activities.
If she only wants it her way-then give her a firm talking too. She will either respect you for speaking up, or realize you're not a push over and move on to a whoosy. If she thinks you are speaking Greek, then dump her--she's a problem.
Be a man, enjoy the woman in her, but be sensitive.
2007-07-27 02:36:19 · answer #3 · answered by Charlee G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't cave in. If she's willing to withhold sex simply cause I wouldn't go to a ballet then so be it. I can take care of myself. But the couple should compromise. This weekend ballet, next weekend movie. Why's that so hard?
2007-07-27 02:19:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Argh, I've had to give in to this kinda crap before. Give in to it this once, but let her know you won't stand for that sh*t anymore (of course, after you re-engage in sex). Sometimes you gotta tell her to think about it and have her realize how much of a b*tch she is being. Tell her to try switching the roles and see how it would feel if she was in your shoes. But, you gotta do what you gotta do for the p*ssy sometimes!
2007-07-27 02:17:57 · answer #5 · answered by otori_katsumoto 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK when your girlfriend tells you she wants to go there you don't aggro one its not caving in like a wimp if you didn't you would of broke up so you did the right thin
2007-07-27 02:16:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well...sorry but i'm not a guy. but. the girl is way outta line, she shouldn't do that to her bf, it's immature. tell her you'd be willing to compromise and if there's not a possibilty to compromise let her sulk, that's stupid. just be nice anyways to her and offer to compromise and if she wants to be immature about it then that's her prob. you go out and have fun then!
2007-07-27 02:18:58 · answer #7 · answered by kk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
id do what she wanys because you dont want to lose her over something stupid. for the decond date you could ask if you could chose since she picked for the last one. i would get to know her better and see whatever you have in common that you like and try to do those typrs of things more.
2007-07-27 02:18:57 · answer #8 · answered by giarc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would give in and do things her way to keep her from whining about it for who knows how long. I'm not a guy, but I can put myself in a guy's shoes...
2007-07-27 02:23:40 · answer #9 · answered by ChaoticKimmy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do neither and make new plans. It's called compromise
2007-07-27 02:17:07 · answer #10 · answered by RAVEN 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋