ive been with my boyfriend for a long time now. im 15 [almost 16] and he just turned 18 days ago. lately, we've been talking about marriage, not that i plan on getting married any time soon, but it just came up a few times. we are both virgins and i really have been thinking the last few days, and i want to wait until marriage to have sex, not for religious beliefs, but just because i want to make sure i give the "gift" of virginity to the right person & to the person i love the most.
what do you all think?
& i know i can wait.
ALSO, do you think 20-22 is a good age to marry?
2007-07-26 18:56:04 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you can wait, wait. If he can't, forget him. Being only 16 you're nothing short of a fool to even pretend to discuss something like that. Oh, then there's the whole statutory rape thing you'd have to worry about. That would be rather... unfortunate that you give your "gift" to your boyfriend and a jail sentence comes along with it for him.
2007-07-26 19:01:14 · answer #1 · answered by Mistah J 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, WAIT till your wedding day!! This is the best gift for your husband. You are only 15, you never know there might be a change of heart later on. To get married now is too young, yes 20-22 would be a more ideal age for marriage.
He has to be financially sound, a stable job before he can marry you, otherwise, you will have a lot of problem later on. A couple without money will have alot of quarrels. Too young to have children too, because to me now you are still a child, need a lot of parental love.
2007-07-26 19:07:14 · answer #2 · answered by spring 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, it's not the age, it's the mindset. You'll know when you are ready for everything (sex and marraige). Don't ever push yourself and don't let anyone else either! I've made a lot of mistakes in my life - I lost my virginity at 15 to a stranger because I thought having sex was more important to boys than love (at that age it probably was) and I got married at 19 (which was definitely too young). Now, I know (after being with and marrying the love of my life for over 14 years) that EVERYTHING comes to those who wait. Meaning that if he really and truly loves you, he will be willing to wait for any decisions you make. Please take this to heart and really think about what I've said!
2007-07-26 19:10:30 · answer #3 · answered by Carol C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im the same age, i turn 16 in october.
wait until you feel comfertable... i didnt even have a choice, someone put something in my soda and u can assume the rest.
waiting til marriage is great becuase you dont have to worry about pregnancy and stuff, and since youre both virgins stds and aids and crap arent much of a problem.
20-22 isnt too young, but make sure its what you want... dont rush it. my dad is in his third marriage (he was married once before my mom) and my mom is getting divorced for the second time from my step dad.
just make sure its waht you want.
as for waiting... if you change ur mind you always can later, but once u lose it you cant change ur mind, its gone.
i suggest some type of abstinance ring or bracelet to wear to remind you of ur choice, it will keep you where you want to be.
sex isnt worth it the hassle. i promise. and u still have your whole life for it.
make sure u use protection if u change ur mind! u dont want pregnancy =/
good luck!
2007-07-26 19:06:36 · answer #4 · answered by Cobs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sensitive man, what are you doing here? i guess you are not intelligent since u are here.
love, i will say hold that virginity.... hold it.. tightly.. do not lose it.. lots of girls already lost theirs. if he needs sex badly, there are lots of other girls that he will get it from.. but that confirms he is not the right guy 4 u...
20-22? its only a number.
what determines is:
1. financial freedom
2. emotional maturity. now u guys see each other sometimes during the day. when married???boy, you see them ALL THE TIME. it gets boring. trust me.
3. em, its hard work. next comes the baby and all the troubles..
the good news... if waiting solves some of the afore mentioned, then wait.
enjoy
2007-07-26 19:02:21 · answer #5 · answered by D *)sukky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, i lost my virginity when i was 13 to a guy who i felt super confortable with and we wanted to do it for that reason. we have known each other for all of our lifes so i'm not disappointed at all.
that is excellent you are able to wait for sex because most teens aren't able to. if you have sex now, it is illegal since your boyfriend is 18.
my sister was 21 when she got married and she seems to be doing fine now. i am really not sure about the whole age to get married. my father's first marriage didnt last and he got married when he was like 22. my opinion is to wait until you're out of college, where you can provide for yourself.
2007-07-28 16:44:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, if you are 15, you are not legally able to have sex with your boyfriend considering he is 18 years old. Once you reach sixteen, and depending on your state, you may be able to have sex because you may have reached the "age of consent". Each state is different. In Nevada, it is 16. In California, it is 18. You need to check.
As far as having sex before you're married, that's a personal choice.
2007-07-26 18:58:50 · answer #7 · answered by sf_omega 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well ya sound like absence by choice to me and i say not
get married to early maybe 25-27 or 23-25 maybe but if ya'll
love each other that much then ya'll sex or you can another 7
years to have sex
this is the best answer i can give u
2007-07-26 19:28:31 · answer #8 · answered by Kaylan B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Assuming the two of you make it, four years is a good long time for an engagement...unusual, since at your relative ages, that is like a decade if the two of you met even as little as five years from now.
Talk to your parents. They will be shocked, and likely do a border-line freak-out. Once they calm down, you will (hopefully) be pleasantly surprised about how civil (and helpful) they are. Especially if they like the guy.
2007-07-26 19:11:46 · answer #9 · answered by jcurrieii 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the best thing is to wait until youre married and give your virginity to the right person, olso you dont want to be worried all the time if you are pregnant or not.
And i think the best age to get married is 24 or 25, when you can afford a house!
2007-07-26 19:01:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋