This is for the guys...let's say there's this girl you see around sometimes, and you find her attractive. Yet you don't approach her or make a move...why? What are some of the reasons you might not approach her?
2007-07-26 17:00:03 · 22 answers · asked by sunflower 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Fear of rejection. Egos are fragile.
It takes time to work up the courage, and then a guy generally wants it to be in private, so there aren't any interfering comments to put off either of you. I've been on both ends of this, and the basic worries seem to be quite similar between the sexes. Each party wants to be sure of acceptance before making her/himself vulnerable, even if the only effect is loss of self-image.
2007-07-26 17:04:56 · answer #1 · answered by norcekri 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The reason why guys won't approach a girl is probably because they are shy or they want to see if the girl is going to make the first move.
2007-07-27 00:10:06 · answer #2 · answered by bee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There can be a variety of reasons, although the main ones usually are shyness and/or fear of rejection.
Coupled with these, some women can be VERY unkind in shooting down guys (whom they perceive as "just being after sex"), and the ensuing public spectacle if there are onlookers aren't pleasant thoughts either.
Still.... if you have any doubts about this.... try approaching other women and asking them to go out with you romantically. Your perspective on the task men face will change completely.
2007-07-27 00:20:07 · answer #3 · answered by Marc M 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there was this one woman that i approached after being close friends with since we were little kids. she started blatanlty hitting before i did anything. i accepted. i asked she said no never. things got strained. then i stopped talking. she flet slighted so she stopped. later she started hitting online and in txt. started talking again. then she started hitting face to face. asked again said no never. i dont talk with her at all. we both have feelings for eachother. i see it in the expression she gives me when we happen to pass, and in the things she does. i have to assume that she sees it in my face then too. she is what i consider to be one of the pretty people. there are reasons that we both dont go there. most of those reasons are what the other people said. mainly uncertainty. pluss some other things that just scare the heck out of me. and im sure there are things the other way too.
i guess that its just fear. sometimes its knowing someone too well. most of the women ive dated asked me because im a nice guy and i remember the "important things" and do what i can to treat her right. im not pretty so i get shot down by the pretty girls or more likely the ones that think they are. so i tend not to approach them as more than friends. if we hit it off as friends then maybe.
2007-07-27 00:37:53 · answer #4 · answered by tom5251972 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Fear of Rejection. Get extremely nervous and freeze up. Don't really know what to say. When we think about approaching a girl, there are a million things that go through are head.
2007-07-27 00:02:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
as a guy who has this problem it is a combination of a couple of things the main one is being shy it is really hard sometimes the second is fear of rejection if someone pretty much tells you they dont want to talk to you or waste their time it makes it that much harder the next time and third is that we sometimes think that they are out of our league i know it seems stupid but it is really hard for some people to approach women sorry but it is true if you think the guy is interested you should try to approach him i know it is seen sometime as unortidox but it will help the guy out hope i helped
2007-07-27 00:05:30 · answer #6 · answered by james 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Girls alway complain about this. The truth is you want to be hit on but only by the guys you want to hit on you. If men just come up, women complain we are dogs. If we don't come up then you complain we have no confidence. Truth is, we wait til you show some interest then we move. That is the best way. If you are hit on by a guy you think is a dork, you will make him the laughing stock. If you are hit on by a guy you like, then and only then are you happy.
2007-07-27 00:04:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
This is easy. The reason is that I feel she would not be interested in me. She would reject me. She has shown no interest in me so, she does not know I am even a live so why bother. The other reason is I am shy and want to know or at least think I would have a shot at her. That's why.
2007-07-27 00:03:36 · answer #8 · answered by Prof. Dave 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
it's usually because I wouldn't have anything to say, I need a reason or excuse to approach a girl, even then I'm still worried about saying something stupid
2007-07-27 00:05:15 · answer #9 · answered by Billy 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
1.I have no money....could not go out on a date if I wanted too.
2.She is way too attractive in my mind to ever say yes to a normal guy like myself
3.If I see her speak to a guy who is nothing like me, I will assume she only likes that kind of guy
4.She gives no sign of being single, looking for a guy or liking me at all.
5.She looks too busy to have a BF.
2007-07-27 00:05:11 · answer #10 · answered by null_the_living_darkness 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋