2007-07-26 16:59:46 · 14 answers · asked by buttacup_83_2006 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
You face the Fact that you have a psychological dependency that is doing you major harm --- you seek professional counciling -- and come to grips with the Fact that until you accept that you are being dependent within an abusive relationship you will NEVER get to anyplace positive for your future !!
There again -- this may very easily BE your destiny -- to be the lapdog of an individual that doesn't give a damn FOR you except to have someone around that will take whatever they dish out and still lick their hand as MASTER !!!
2007-07-26 17:08:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is classic codependent behavior. The other person has done inexcusable things, and yet there is an issue because there is a feeling that you cannot let them go. You need to stop, remember that you are a human being with thoughts, ideas, and the right to be treated with dignity and respect. I would seek professional help to rid yourself of this codependent behavior and the best way to respect yourself, because it is in no way right for you to accept being treated less than human. This is not a case of true love, in which there is equal love and respect. Anyone who claims to love you then harms you physically and mentally does not love you at all, and think they can get away with this terrible behavior not just with you, but with others as well.
2007-07-26 17:06:36 · answer #2 · answered by Catra 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would wager that either you are young or you got into this relationship when you were very young. My best advice is to ask this person, if you feel you truly love them, to join you in counseling. If they will not, then go to counseling yourself. A good counselor will help you find the answers, and help you change your perception of yourself and of what a relationship should be. If it cannot be fixed, then at least you may find the strength to leave.
2007-07-30 13:24:51 · answer #3 · answered by peskygnats 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having been in your shoes with my last relationship. I have to say get out. I know it is hard & actually the abuser you are with may have you believing that you can't live without her/him. It is a common tactic for them to do regardless of gender.
You can. Even though it may be hard at first you can make a new life & you will be free to find someone that will treat you with respect & dignity.
2007-07-26 17:10:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Then you don't love yourself.
There is something wrong with your mind to allow yourself to be around this abuse.
Talk to a Mental Health Mental Retardation --MHMR counselor OR someone like that, Or a Pastor.
Check into a women's shelter and get the help you need, probably your family supports your behavior and think it's normal.
It's good your seeking advice.
Take care and God bless.
2007-07-26 17:07:39 · answer #5 · answered by Roscoe 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get out of the situation and into a safe place right away. A shelter or a trusted friend's house. Now.
2007-07-26 19:57:47 · answer #6 · answered by drshorty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi dear,
Plzzzzzzzzzz...take time to read this......U R CONFUSED!
There is no hurt that you can't come out of.Its time which takes care of every pain in life ,it heals ur hurts.I know exactly how it feels to go thru a situation like that of urs.Trust me ,when u let go things n beleive in youself n ur luv ,all will go well.By this i do not mean u have to accept any kind of touture.'u r not meant for it'ur body is the creators unique creation,its the temple of God.
U need not have any kind of physical relation with the person whom u luv,thou u quit from a relation ,u can still luv the person !!unless ur craving for physical luv......which deffinately is not 'true luv'.....but temperory phase of life ,which will only destroy u mentally and physically.....ponder on wat ur looking for , to be a slave to a person who cares a dam for u or eternal luv dat will only grow ........n gv u a feeling of freedom!!My only suggestion to you ,wud be ....to come out of this relation,which i know will be difficult but not immposible.U need to gv time for' just yourself ' .....do not regret ur physical loss later by the toture ur going thru' coz den there will be nothing u can do abt it......n if u ever loose ur mental imbalance there will be no one by u rather nothing anyone can do for u.......pray n ponder instead of being confused......life is precious n u got to make the best of it .............think abt the many blessing u have than abt wat u hv lost!
2007-07-26 18:11:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to find your self worth to move on and know you deserve better.
Look in the mirror, why don't you think you should be treated right ALL the time? What can you do to change that perspective?
Everyone deserves love and respect, if you're not finding that in this relationship it's time to let go, get strong, and welcome friends, family & support.
2007-07-26 17:08:17 · answer #8 · answered by mkt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time heals all wounds, why on earth would you want to be someone that hurts you? Love is not painful, only the loss of it is.
2007-07-26 17:10:07 · answer #9 · answered by Glinda W 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a replacement, then let them go.
2007-07-26 19:21:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋