My step son is now stating (thanks to his mums encouragement) his dad is beating and verbally abusing him?
He has told the school and a number of psychologists that this is happening and he doesn't want to come here anymore! He spends more time with me than his dad but still gets special time with him and seems to be happy and thoroughly enjoying himself when he is at our house. This has come up as there are behavioural issues at school and the mother is blaming dad.
2007-07-26 15:34:48 · 3 answers · asked by chalto 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
First document absolutely everything... if he comes with a bruise on his leg from any typical boy like playing or if he falls at your house.... everything. Document what you did durring the visit... did you go to dinner somewhere, park whatever. You never know when this will come in handy in the future... should there be any investigations or court issues from it.
Second tell him how much it hurts your feelings that he tells those lies to people and ask him to open up about what it is that's bothering him at dad's house.... maybe won't solve anything, but communication is key... we all know that.
Third, talk to his school and express your concerns. They are doing their jobs, they don't know you and your husband personally, so don't take it personally.... just comply with everything they ask of you. They see this everyday... lies as well as real abuse....
Good luck to you!
2007-07-26 16:00:59 · answer #1 · answered by Kishauna_P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a common occurence with a child from divorced parents. It can get really messy. I dont know how old he is though he is having a hard time understanding what is going on. He may feel torn between his parents and is trying to please his mother so life at home is easier for him. He needs to understand that if he keeps making these accusations, social workers are going to step in and start doing investigations, etc that can be annoying, especially if nothing is going on.
I would suggest that you both sit down with him and have an important talk about honesty. Ask him how he feels about going to two seperate houses. Let him know that both his parents will love him no matter what. Maybe it would be good for him to see a councelor at school to work out some of these frustrations he is having. Good Luck!
2007-07-26 22:41:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you every just tried sitting the boy down and asked him why he's saying such awful thing, and explaining that its wrong to lie?
2007-07-26 22:55:36 · answer #3 · answered by Beautiful_nightmare 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋