A few family members did this. I have celebrated many occasions with them, but they neglected to even show their face at my engagement party (cook out=free food)! My invites had a section at the bottom: "if you can not make it, please call us". We did not get a call saying they wouldn't make it, or a call afterwards to say "sorry".
What would you do?
2007-07-26 15:21:00 · 9 answers · asked by PlasticTrees 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
It sucks for them! At my party I was going to ask my cousin's wife to do my photography.. since she doesn't make $ at her studio. She can forget it!
2007-07-26 15:26:50 · update #1
Did you call them before the engagement or after the engagement party?
The reason why I ask is sometimes, mail gets lost, undelivered, or delivered after the event has passed etc. A good thing to call to see if they even recieved it. If they knew about the party but didn't get an invite, they maybe assumed you just didn't want them to attend after all. It does happen often I notice.
Some people can just be tacky to not call.
Some could of been "forgetful" to call or lost invite to do so (if distance friend/relative etc).
Some people just need to be not invited if they ignored your invite but expect you to attend theirs etc.
I would call up those who you invited who you didn't hear back from and ask them if they recieved them. If they say no, make sure you got their address correclty (sometimes, I might accidently place an old address or write it wrong myself) and that you are sending out wedding date invites soon (give approx how many weeks) and to look for it in the mail. If don't recieve it by "such and such" date, you will call them to see if they get it this time. Sometimes, it happens to take invite by phone than mail on some people.
Then decide on who to invite or not to invite. Just weigh it out and see how it goes with your answers when you talk to them again.
2007-07-26 18:05:35 · answer #1 · answered by Mutchkin 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If they are immediate family such as aunts uncles first cousins, you really should invite them to the wedding. I don't know why some people assume that "please call if you can't make it" doesn't apply to them. They may be rude or maybe they had every intention of going but something came up.
Anyway, you should be the better person and invite them to your wedding, You wouldn't want to regret it later. if they don't respond to the RSVP they don't get counted for dinner. If you are afraid they will show up then call them before hand to double check.
Besides you will be so busy and there will be so many other people there to talk to you won't have to be around them at all, just have fun!
2007-07-26 16:11:15 · answer #2 · answered by Reba 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they are family and you are close to them and want them at your wedding, then yes, invite them. People who were invited to your engagement party should be invited to the wedding. People are also used to weddings and RSVPing for them. Sure, you will have to call some people, but you don't want any hard feelings. Engagement parties are fairly new. It's also possible that they just forgot to call. It's up to you, but I would invite them and not hold this against them. Good luck!
2007-07-26 15:24:51 · answer #3 · answered by maryanlibrarian 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, if they're close relatives you have to invite them anyway. If they're distantly related it's okay not too. I suspect some of them didn't show up because these days they think extra, costly gifts are expected (an engagment gift as well as a wedding gift). It doesn't sound like that was necessarily your intention though. It's too bad people think that way.
2007-07-26 16:17:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I wanted to invite them I would. However don't expect them to send your rsvp card back. If they didn't respond to the rsvp on the engagement party chances are they won't for the wedding either.
2007-07-26 15:26:06 · answer #5 · answered by Southern Belle 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Considering they knew it was an engagement party, why would you expect them to show up? It's tacky to give yourself an engagement party and even tackier for all the guests to know what the party is for. Basically engagement parties have degenerated into gift grabs instead of the announcements that they're supposed to be. Do them a favor and don't invite them to the wedding.
2007-07-26 17:22:10 · answer #6 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Of course you should, if they are family or close. Not many people have engagement parties, and it's just not that important of an event in the grand scheme of things....
2007-07-27 02:17:11 · answer #7 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would send a wedding invite just in case. you don't want them saying 10 years from now that you did not send them an invite. leave it up to them, be the bigger person.
2007-07-26 15:37:47 · answer #8 · answered by Christina V 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
nope
2007-07-26 17:20:56 · answer #9 · answered by rxing 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋