One of my friends will be married soon, and I have been invited to the ceremony. No one else thinks that it will be a good marriage. The groom has cheated so many times already and could not admit that he was engaged until the wedding was less than 20 days away...
Don't tell me that it's not my choice, that it's not my place to say something, etc. because I know that already. All I'm looking for is a way to postpone it so that perhaps it will be cancelled after being postponed several times more.
Oh, what if I offer to cook the cake, and "accidentally" burn it? Oh, I would burn it anyway with the way I cook...
2007-07-26 15:20:32 · 13 answers · asked by aanstalokaniskiodov_nikolai 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
If you don't want to tell the bride about the groom or if she already knows, you can go ahead and do that, but that alone will not be enough to stop the wedding. If you aren't very close to the couple, get closer to them so they trust you more ... enough to take care of some of the major wedding arrangements and ask for your opinion on stuff. That's when you make your moves and sabotage that wedding. You can pick colors that clash, insist that the bride be decked out in a neon green pleather wedding dress with peacock feathers that have been spray painted blaze orange, demand that the groom wears his camo hunting outfit or some other outfit that will look equally hideous at a wedding, offer to bring the vases for the floral arrangements and then accidentally forget those so improvise with empty beer bottles and beer cans instead, offer to be in charge of some small food stuff--appetizers--and order a cheap semi truckload of moldy bananas (claim that you just saved the couple a ton of moolah), or start a fight right before the big wedding march by telling the hubby that the bride thinks he looks like a total doofus today--console the groom by telling him that she's just stupid, and when he agrees, run tell the bride that he says so. If it's too late for you to get that close or if these people actually have the wedding planned by now, you can just be extra annoying. Don't forget to stuff your pockets with food, and make sure everyone sees. That should be enough to kinda make yourself known & what you think of the wedding too.
2007-07-30 04:53:07 · answer #1 · answered by zwijn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately I don't think burning the cake, or the wrecking of a car or anything along those lines will postpone a wedding. Burning the gown though.... (just kidding!).
All joking aside, it is your place to say something. If she is truly a friend to you, then you should say something to her about her fiance. Wouldn't you want someone to do the same for you?
If you don't want to come right out and say it, then give her small hints, ask her questions that may make her question his behaviors, his whereabouts and storys etc.
Your friend may still decide to go ahead with the wedding after finding out, she may simply feel trapped being that the wedding is so close. Make sure to let her know that you will be there for her no matter what.
Best of luck!
2007-07-26 22:49:32 · answer #2 · answered by jbmiller06 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you care about the bride? If you do then it's your place. If you don't want to do it then just write an anonymous letter to the brides father telling him what the groom has done. Then even if he doesn't stop it the groom will get a little of what is coming to him. Keep in mind, some women accept the fact that there man is a cheater and would rather have him that way than not at all. It's usually a confidence problem that she may not be able to do any better, but she will forgive you in time. good luck with whatever you do.
2007-08-01 16:15:49 · answer #3 · answered by mbl75051 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If a car is totaled - unless it is the limo carrying the bride or groom - then it very unlikely the wedding will get postponed. There aren't a lot of things that will postpone a wedding - although cheating is definitely one of them. Does the bride know about her groom's extra activities??
2007-07-27 13:55:17 · answer #4 · answered by VAWeddingSpecialist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately the only way for the wedding to be cancelled or postponed is if the couple choose it that way.
If you truly believe that your friend is making a mistake, then try to talk to her as far in advance of the wedding as you can, but accept that it is her choice. Just try and be there, if pieces need to be picked up afterwards and don't say
"I told you so" (even though it's ok to think it...)
2007-07-26 22:36:32 · answer #5 · answered by txbrit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was at a wedding when a crazy girlfriend came and tried to run over the best man. But they still had a wedding. Cakes are usually ready the day before, or close. People are going to do what they want. I would be more upset with you for burning my cake then just voicing your opinion. The best you can do is be a friend.
2007-07-31 14:00:32 · answer #6 · answered by mamatucker 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes the hardest thing to do in life is let other people make mistakes. If you are the brides friend you should tell her the truth about the groom to be, but be prepared for her to be mad at you.
If you have already told her or expressed concern about the wedding, there is really nothing you can do. Not much you can do to get them to pospone the wedding without making a fool of yourself and losing your friend in the process.
the best thing to do is to support your friend as best you can. If he is really a slime ball she will find out sooner or later. Probably later.) And then you can help her pick up the pieces. (but don't say I told you so.)
good luck, I hope for her sake it works out.
2007-07-26 23:01:56 · answer #7 · answered by Reba 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you getting into an accident probably won't cancel the wedding. Stay safe. If you are a friend of the bride you might want to tell her to get tested for STDs.
2007-07-27 00:51:59 · answer #8 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless the bride or groom is in the car with you when it's totaled then I doubt it would canceled and even then most folks would still have the wedding and leave you with your car.
2007-07-26 22:44:54 · answer #9 · answered by indydst8 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't stop this wedding. I'm sure you knew about the groom's cheating ways long before now - so why wait until 20 days before the wedding?
2007-08-02 16:08:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋