I ask my BF to stop, when he's fingering me etc. and he won't!
I tell him "No!" and he just does it anyways. Sometimes he stops for five minutes, then tries again.
He's pushed me down, and made me do things. He doesn't respect, what I don't want to do...
I can't overpower him, he's stronger then me.
Why does he act this way?
2007-07-26 14:44:59 · 77 answers · asked by sugarcrystal16 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That's called rape. Tell him calmly first. If he continues, then you tell your mom.
2007-07-26 14:47:45 · answer #1 · answered by PSU840 6 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of the kid, he's not a man ... He's just doing what he wants to do. I would not bother with this guy! ... He does not respect your wishes then one day he'll rape you or take it when he wants to and eventually lead to being forceful with you more and more. It's not worth it. You are a beautiful young lady and you should be treated with respect and love and not disrespected for sexual gratifications. This guy needs his a** kissed because he's not worth the time of day. As for the why he acts this way part of your question ... SIMPLY PUT ... HE'S INMATURE AND DOES NOT KNOW HOW TO RESPECT A WOMAN'S BODY AND HE'S TURNED ON BY THE FACT OF FINGERING YOU AS A GET OFF FOR HIMSELF ... So if he can't get you off the way you want it ... and only cares about you doing what he wants, then he is a selfish a** boy and not a man ... Dump his a** and find someone else. You should be more respected than that, and if I were there I would whip his a** NEW YORK STYLE so he would wake the hell up!!
2007-07-26 14:49:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh honey, you are on a one way trip to an abusive relationship. Get out now! He may not have hit you before but he's heading there. He's proving his dominance over you and once that's established, you'll be in a situation you will definitely not like. I don't care what your feelings are for him, if he won't stop when you tell him to, you need to run away. Break up with him NOW. And if he tries to pull this, "I'm so sorry, I'll never do it again" crap, he's lying. Get out before you're heading to the hospital lying about falling down a flight of stairs to cover for his fists.
2007-07-26 14:49:42 · answer #3 · answered by maishabrend1977 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart, your guy is a rapist. Rapists and molesters do sexual things to people without their permission. It's not okay, and it's against the law.
He doesn't love you at all, otherwise he would respect you and care about your feelings. You are worthy of respect and no one should touch you without your permission. Even if you change your mind.
This could become a very dangerous relationship for you. You need to tell an adult that you trust. It may feel embarrassing, but it's not your fault. You can also tell the police, and they will help you.
2007-07-26 15:11:19 · answer #4 · answered by colorhappy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because he doesn't respect you and he can get away with it. Stop letting him get away with it. There are two things you could do:
1.) Tell him if he can't respect you, he doesn't deserve you and dump him. (Preferable)
2.) Next time he doesn't respect the word no, scream bloody murder and fight dirty. Bite him HARD (go for the inside of the upper arm if you can), scratch to draw blood, kick him in the groin etc...It may seem drastic to you, but remember he is attempting sexual assault. Just because he's your boyfriend doesn't give him a special right to push you around.
2007-07-26 14:59:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cause he does not respect women. And if you've never seen Law & Order, No means NO! And when he continues, that is called Rape. Your local Police Department should be more then happy to explain all the finer points of jail.
I think you need a different bf.
2007-07-26 14:50:06 · answer #6 · answered by E D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Animal instincts baby...not all men are able to control themselves all the time....most men figure it out at a young age that if they stop when a woman says no...they get no vag.....thats why men keep trying to get into a girls pants all the time, theyve found its one of the only ways to get there... (persistence pays)......and the ones who do control themselves all the time dont get much action as a result.....men know all this, and they cant live with themselves if they give up the pursuit every time the girl says no......its a pride thing, men dont want to feel like losers so their pride forces them to keep hounding after sex constantly....still he is showing some warning signs and an overly aggressive attitude, you should kick him to the curb asap.
2007-07-26 14:47:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why he's doing it is hard to answer. But I think the more important thing here is that you're going to have to do something that you probably really don't want to. That's leave him. Anyone that treats you that way doesn't deserve to have you in their lives. Abuse can start on a very small scale (but these thiings he's doing aren't small at all) it may eventually escalate and he may start to do more and more things that you feel powerless to prevent. Please give yourself the chance to find someone more deserving of you by taking the first step which is leaving him.
2007-07-26 15:03:27 · answer #8 · answered by flawless701 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to find out how to be safe in a relationship. You are being sexually abused. Refuse to be alone with guys like this and learn to leave when guys don't listen. You are the one who needs to change because you are ultimately responsible for your own safety. You will never be able to change a guy's behavior, just your own. If he has harmed you, you can contact the police, and call victim's assistance for counseling. If you have been abused as a child you will need this type of counseling so you can avoid continued abuse. Best of luck to you!!
2007-07-26 14:51:18 · answer #9 · answered by whrldpz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He does not believe you when u say "please don't stop" you see how it is worded . Be sure you are telling him exactly what you expect of him. The big problem is you let him know your behind before he got to know your mind. Everyone else here is right he is going to abuse you . You better leave now before it is too late and that is a form of date rape.God Bless and Good Luck I wish you all the best in Life !!
2007-07-26 14:54:44 · answer #10 · answered by richard s 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once you say no, it's no. If he forces himself on you, then it's RAPE. Call the police, file a report. I believe the crime would be called "rape w/ a foreign object" and you could add assault to that as well.
Get away from him! If he doesn't respect you, he's not worthy of anything from you! Just get help before it gets any worst.
2007-07-26 14:50:26 · answer #11 · answered by HoPeFuL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋