Ok my boyfriend and I have been together for 5 years. We broke up once. I moved out of state and he is currently in the state I used to live in. He came out to visit me and we have been talking about marriage alot. He told his folks that is is considering it...his friends and family know. I am 26 and he is 29...we email each other rings that we like. We have talked about our expectations as a married couple...he has even looked at houses in the state I am living in. He would ofcourse have to move in order for us to be married. I hated the state that I lived in and moved for a better career. Do you think it is basically a done deal..meaning since we have talked so extensively about marriage...that he will propose to me?
2007-07-26 14:32:32 · 9 answers · asked by Nicol 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Talk is cheap but this is the first time since we have known eachother that we have talked about it in such detail. He has mentione "our wedding song", rings, houses, wether or not I wouls stay at home, kids, my family, looking at jobs in my home state, and keeping the spark alive, He also asked me if I wanted to visit his father's house in Florida for thankgiving.
2007-07-26 14:50:46 · update #1
Sorry about the typos...I am on a crappy laptop. I know his character pretty well I am just nervous and I cannot believe we are talking about this. We also talked about what type of bank accounts we would have....thanks for all of your advice...keep it coming.
2007-07-26 14:57:34 · update #2
I am going to visit him in 2 weeks...but I know he won't do it then cause he said something about making a double car payment.
2007-07-26 15:09:25 · update #3
Ok I will be myself for sure!! He also talks about the grade of diamond and that he won't get anything cheap. Man my guts hurt just typing this (nervous as heck)
2007-07-26 15:30:18 · update #4
I would say yes but I wouldn't hold my breath in anticipation. He is at that age where a lot of men decide it's time to get married if they aren't already and he knows you pretty well. If the answers to the questions you've put to him have been good and you feel like you are on the same page then it's just a waiting game to see what pans out. Good luck.
2007-07-26 15:09:17 · answer #1 · answered by indydst8 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well men don't discuss marriage in great details unless they're serious, and if he's looking at houses and is planning to move, I'd say he's serious. You guys dated for 5 years so you should have a pretty much good idea of his character, right... is he the type to do all this and then back out? I mean involving the his family and friends?
Don't pressure him though just take your time and do it right, have the serious discussions that people usually neglect to talk about like money, who responsible for what etc. and once he does get a pre-nup, it'll protect the both of you in the long run. Congratulations and good luck.
2007-07-26 21:51:18 · answer #2 · answered by DoUreallywantme2answerthat 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
talk about what you both need and want and who is going to do what compromising. apparently he likes you. the long distance thing is crazy. relocating can be very hard. look my husband used to live in tennessee. i live in oklahoma i have been here all of my life. he has lived here for four years. he wants to move back to his home state, and i would never consider that. look he is un happy and i don't know what to do. you better make sure he will be happy or it is a long marriage battle. just thank god kids aren't in the picture yet.
2007-07-26 21:43:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
sort of a tough call on this one. it sounds good and all but five years is five years. when you go out to see him be yourself. dont' expect anything. if he continues talking marriage over the next 6 months and nothing has happened then point blank ask him.
2007-07-26 22:24:16 · answer #4 · answered by Southern Belle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like it to me. I don't think a man will waste his time looking at rings if he is not going to propose. And he is always talking to you about marriage. So good luck!
2007-07-26 21:43:37 · answer #5 · answered by TJ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you asked if he is really going to propose my answer is that yes and that he is probably waiting for a special day. If your birthday is arround the corner it migth be that day. He asked you to go to Florida for thanksgiving you need to say yes because it migth be that day and if not their is always Christmas and new years. Well good luck and hopefully he does propose. Bye
2007-07-26 22:02:18 · answer #6 · answered by needanswers 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my bf, of almost 3yrs, and i talked on day while driving about marriage. got down to planning it all out, the next week i over heard him picking locations. when i mentioned it to him again he said it was merely conversation and nothing more.
girl i say it's all talk till he's asking you and giving you a ring.
2007-07-26 21:44:25 · answer #7 · answered by nataliexoxo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In order to ruin a great relationship, get married.
2007-07-26 22:01:04 · answer #8 · answered by acedelux 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Five years is it? How long are you going to wait? Talk is cheap. Maybe since he doesn't see you as much he is having second thoughts. Maybe you should too.
2007-07-26 21:39:01 · answer #9 · answered by Maggie May 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋