I have a friend that I am very much in love with (she knows it, I told her and she is fine). She has a BF, but they are NOT doing very good right now, haven't in a long time. We talk and its amazing, we both have similar goals, similar passions, and i've never met anyone like her. I plan on persuing this further as subtly as I can, be romantic as I can without crossing the line (sex). Would you do the same?
2007-07-26 13:21:45 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Regardless of what anyone here says, ultimately you will follow your heart and do what you feel is right at the time. The thing is that you have to be careful because there's a little thing called karma that tends to come back around and bite you in the butt when you least expect it.
Respect your friend and what she is going through and allow her to get through this current relationship no matter the outcome. Trust me, if you have already expressed your feelings for her, she hasn't forgotten.So, just be patient and back off with all of your subtleties. If it's meant to be then it will happen.
2007-07-26 13:38:04 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put yourself in the shoes of the boyfriend, of this friend that has the not so good relationship,there still together for some reason. Either there scared to just end it, finances, children, or maybe....just maybe there STILL IN LOVE and just going through a rough season in there relationship. If you were this guy wouldn't you expect a faithful girlfriend even through the stormy weather?????????
Would you want some guy pursuing your woman, telling her a bunch of sweet nothings, for his own selfish benefit?
And, why would you want a woman that thinks it's OK to emotional cheat, that only leads to physically cheating.
Back up, and travel another road my friend.
2007-07-26 13:27:49 · answer #2 · answered by NURSING FOR LIFE!! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As hard as it would be, I wouldn't pursue the relationship. What if she DOES leave him and starts dating you? What makes you think she couldn't eventually leave you for somebody else?
Don't mess with relationship karma, it will come back and bite you in the butt!
Be her friend and support her through good and bad. If the relationship is deteriorating, then it is just a matter of time before it ends.
If it DOES end, be careful not to jump in before she is ready or you will end up being a "rebound" guy and both your relationship & friendship may suffer.
2007-07-26 13:29:08 · answer #3 · answered by Matt 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. If she doesn't break up with her boyfriend, she'd be a cheater. That's not good. If you really cared, you wouldn't secretly try to tempt her to be a cheat. In fact, if you were a real man, you'd tell her that you need to move on to find a girl who loves you, so you're putting the "friendship" on hold. Don't manipulate the situation for your own gain.
2007-07-26 13:26:36 · answer #4 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wait until she ends things with her current guy...otherwise realize someone could charm her as you have and so if you two start dating, you'd have no right to biotch if she started spending time with some other guy.
Treat people as you want to be treated...if you wouldn't want some dude trying to lure your gf away, then don't do it to someone else. If her present relationship is over or bad, she'll end it...until then, keep a distance.
2007-07-26 13:27:02 · answer #5 · answered by . 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would not pursue as closely as you are saying. Anything more than hugging would be crossing the line in my opinion. Aside from that, if she can decide for herself that she isn't happy with her relationship and won't be again, she'll give up her current boyfriend and possibly move on to you.
2007-07-26 13:25:15 · answer #6 · answered by pertinential 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I will say yes !! From a female point of view that is the right thing to do .. You must remember to respect her wishes and always know that she is your best friend if it does not work out .. I know that you are special guy and you deserve her , because she is a special girl .. If you have never met anyone like her .. You probably never will.. Go for it and best wishes ..
2007-07-26 13:29:24 · answer #7 · answered by MISS TEE 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Nope. If she wants to stick with a loser instead of a guy she likes, she is a loser. I know too many women who like to stick with think necked, empty headed losers. I never understood it, but I've seen it over and over.
2007-07-26 13:26:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
You sound like you can achieve any relationship goal you set your mind to. Good luck, hopefully she'll turn to you once she realizes that you can be there for her so much better than her previous boyfriend, right? Stay possitive!
2007-07-26 13:26:56 · answer #9 · answered by Gefilte Fish 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
if you really feeling the person and you had your mind made up this who you want to be with. persuing your deram.
2007-07-26 13:37:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋