My boyfriend is a Jehovahs whitness, and i am christian. He is wanting to get baptized and i think that this will change our relationship dramatically. we were supposed be be getting married next summer but now it is put on hold because of this. Does anyone have any advice or personal experience. Do you think we can make it work? the rules for JW can be very strict..... Also I already have a daughter who is 4 that i had before i met him, so changing the way i live or raise her is out of the question..... HEEELLLPPP. We love each other so much this is so hard!
2007-07-26 12:56:32 · 7 answers · asked by Kellie J 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
It will be a huge issue when you want to get out Christmas decorations for your daughter and he objects, or when he refuses to do anything for your birthday, or taking your daughter trick-or-treating. My sister-in-law was a JW for 30 years and her husband was Catholic and it wasn't too bad for them because John didn't care how she raised their two kids. After his death, my sister-in-law and both children were dis-fellowshipped because she moved in with a man she wasn't married to and both kids had children out of wedlock. You had best straighten out the rules before you get married otherwise you will have some serious issues. His 'hall' will expect you to attend their meetings and go out "in service". Remember, in their religion, the man is the head of the house and his wishes are what count in the family. good luck to you.
2007-07-26 13:16:17 · answer #1 · answered by Lisa W 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I (together 17 years, married 13 of them) are of different religious backgrounds but we have learned that we are individuals with different experiences and knowledge. We trust and love each other and so far we make it work because we know that we are both good individuals. If he can't find a way to relax his religious rules then you might not be able to make it work. Tolerance, trust, love.
2007-07-26 20:05:03 · answer #2 · answered by Amber F 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um, you're both christians, you just belong to different denominations.
Why do you know less about your religion than an atheist?
Here's a thought: Read Letter to a Christian Nation. If this doesn't do the trick, I don't know what will. Email me if you don't have a copy handy.
2007-07-26 20:09:49 · answer #3 · answered by Dreamstuff Entity 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know of a dedicated JW 's marrying a dedicated Christian working out. What type of Christian(Trinitarian Protestant? Catholic?) are you?
most of the situations in which one of the parties converts to JW after marriage have ended in divorce,separation or the abandonment of the Jw of his dedication in situations I know of.
2007-07-26 20:03:24 · answer #4 · answered by James O 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can work.....just know that the 2 of you will never change the other. You better right now decide to agree to disagree and not force your beliefs on each other. If you think you can do that, then great. If you think for one minute he might change his mind/and or beliefs for you then you better give it up now.
2007-07-26 20:03:58 · answer #5 · answered by iwonder 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They do it all the time. It just makes it more difficult.
2007-07-26 20:02:01 · answer #6 · answered by Fish <>< 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he is not flexible and accepting about your religion and your dtr. then don't even go there....why would you do that to her? good luck
2007-07-26 20:01:35 · answer #7 · answered by dianehaslegs 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋